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Monday will be the second worst day of my life

183 replies

Crunchymum · 17/10/2020 19:33

Sorry for the very self indulgent thread, I posted a few weeks back and had a lot of support.

Monday is my mum's funeral.

She died suddenly 4 weeks ago and I still cannot believe that in two days we'll be cremating her.

Not even sure why I'm posting. Maybe I just need a good old fashioned hand hold Sad

Not sure how I'll do this.

OP posts:
golddustwomen · 17/10/2020 19:34

Thanks for you OP. Can't imagine what you are going through. Sending love and light.

Cherry321 · 17/10/2020 19:35

Sorry for your loss. Flowers

VictoriaBun · 17/10/2020 19:36

You have a hug from me. Losing your mum is heartbreaking .Flowers

TildaTurnip · 17/10/2020 19:36

It’s so sad and so hard Flowers

M1ssour1 · 17/10/2020 19:36

It will be ok and will go quickly. It will be comforting to be round others grieving her. You will feel relief when it is all over with.

Thinking of you.

MeanMrMustardSeed · 17/10/2020 19:37

Really sorry to hear this OP. Hope Monday goes well. Give yourself time and space and don’t place too many expectations on yourself re timescale. It’ll take as long as it takes to grieve, remember and celebrate your mum.

JoanApple · 17/10/2020 19:37

So sorry.. Sad

RosieLemonade · 17/10/2020 19:37

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Lazysundayafternoons · 17/10/2020 19:37

Really sorry for you OP Flowers

LongHotSummerJustPassedMeBy · 17/10/2020 19:38

So sorry OPFlowers

Craftycorvid · 17/10/2020 19:38

Hand hold for you from me. Flowers My DM died suddenly in May this year and it takes time to process the shock.

Hmmph · 17/10/2020 19:39

I really feel for you. It’s horrible.

Do what you need to get through it. Flowers

Sexnotgender · 17/10/2020 19:39

I’m so sorry Flowers words are no comfort I know. Thinking of you.

cushioncovers · 17/10/2020 19:41

So sorry op

Crunchymum · 17/10/2020 19:42

@M1ssour1

It will be ok and will go quickly. It will be comforting to be round others grieving her. You will feel relief when it is all over with.

Thinking of you.

This is what I need to hear.

Thank you.

Thanks to everyone. I'm then oldest sibling I've sorted most of the service, I've tried to protect my younger brothers and sister as planning a funeral is so shit.

I feel like a toddler I feel like on Monday I'm just going to stand on the spot, stamp my feet and scream "I DON'T WANT TO"

OP posts:
Dawninglory · 17/10/2020 19:42

Feeling your pain OP,
My Dad had a sudden death at 52, my life felt surreal for months, and it took a good few years to digest and realise that I would never see him again. That was 17years ago, time heals but I will never get over the loss and don't try to as its not something you do. You will cry uncontrollably at the funeral, that's ok. Sending a big hug 💐

smallandimperfectlyformed · 17/10/2020 19:42

Flowers I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that the cremation goes well. I hope that you have someone looking after you xxx

Bluewavescrashing · 17/10/2020 19:42

I'm sorry for your loss.

Would you like to tell us more about her?

Mrscaindingle · 17/10/2020 19:43

I'm sorry ots a particularly horrible time to be going through this with restricted numbers and no wake.
My mum died in July and my sister was stuck abroad unable to come back.
Hope it all goes as well as could be expected Flowers

Mangofandangoo · 17/10/2020 19:45

Sending you lots of strength for Monday OP Thanks

doctorhamster · 17/10/2020 19:48

I'm so sorry for your loss Flowers

Holothane · 17/10/2020 19:48

💐💐💐💐💐💐💐hugs lots of them.

LittleEsme · 17/10/2020 19:51

Oh God, Crunchymum, sending massive love and prayers to you. Your hurt is palpable. Life is so fucking unfair and cruel.

I'll light a candle for your Mam right now. Sending a gentle handhold for Monday and thereafter Thanks

MunchBunchYoghurt · 17/10/2020 19:51

I’m very sorry for you.
A day the majority of us dread.
Take care and take each day as it comes.
Flowers

LizzieVereker · 17/10/2020 19:52

I’m so very sorry 💐