Monday will be the second worst day of my life

[Crunchymum]

Sorry for the very self indulgent thread, I posted a few weeks back and had a lot of support.

Monday is my mum's funeral.

She died suddenly 4 weeks ago and I still cannot believe that in two days we'll be cremating her.

Not even sure why I'm posting. Maybe I just need a good old fashioned hand hold

Not sure how I'll do this.

[Sexnotgender]

The world can wait until you’re ready crunchymum, you don’t need to do anything you don’t want to.

I’m fortunate that both my parents are still with us but my husband lost his dear mum suddenly last year and it was just awful. She got a terrible diagnosis and we flew out to spend her last weeks with her and for her to meet her grandson.

My husband is actually a minister and his mum asked him to conduct her funeral. How he held it together I don’t know.

[spiderlight]

I am so sorry for your loss. I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. It will be hard, but you'll be with others who love your mum and you'll get each other through it.

[Nicolastuffedone]

You’ll be absolutely fine. You’ll get through it better than you imagine you will, the thought of it is worse. I dreaded my mother’s funeral, dad said if I didn’t feel I could go, then I shouldn’t, he understood......but, of course, I did go. It was a lovely service, it was nice to hear about her life ( obviously we knew about it!) but it was nice to have a laugh at some stories from her youth, the ones we’d heard a 100 times before, but still....you’ll do it, make her proud......🌷

[Sceptre86]

So sorry for you. Hope the day goes well for you and your mum gets a lovely send-off. Gone but not forgotten is very true x

[MrsSugar]

Sending lots of love to you !

My Dad died very suddenly and I found his funeral to be kind of a blur. I can’t even tell you who was there. I felt totally disconnected from reality. I just told myself so many times before it... the funeral will absolutely not be worse than hearing the words I’m so sorry to tell you X has passed away in a&e.

It’s a horrible day and I imagine made more difficult with all the current restrictions but you will get through it and you absolutely can do this

[bearlyactive]

Wishing you well for tomorrow OP.

[catnoir1]

So sorry op

[jessstan1]

I too am wishing you well for tomorrow, I will think of you then and hope for a good night's sleep tonight.

[WingingItSince1973]

So sorry. Tomorrow will be hard but you'll all be together and I hope you can be looked after too. Allow yourself to grieve, however you do it is right for you. I lost my brother years ago suddenly. We were in shock for a long time. Looking back I did some crazy things but it was my way of coping. Love and hugs xxx

[Piglet208]

I lost both my mother in law and mum in the last 6 weeks. I dreaded both funerals but the thing is they do sort of help. You are with others who feel the same and will support you. The service will celebrate your mum's life and remind you of all the wonderful memories you have. Surrender to the sadness and don't be afraid to weep. I hope it brings you a sense of relief. I will think of you.

[Abraid2]

The funeral will go more quickly than you imagine. You will feel the support of those there, even though it may be a smaller number than you’d like. This time tomorrow evening I think you will feel relief and less stress.

[glittereyelash]

I'm sorry for your loss. My mother passed away in April. There's no pain like it 😭

[perhapstomorrow]

@crunchymum Service at 2pm. What about yours? Need to travel 90 mins to my mum. Getting the kids out of bed and out the door will be a nightmare. Just hope they all decide to cooperate in the morning.

Siblings is complicated. One brother who lives in another country then some half-siblings. I've been very much the organiser and support for my mum as half siblings arent very close and my brother only arrived yesterday. It must be reassuring to have your siblings to lean on.

Best of luck tomorrow. 💐💐

[savemejebus]

Sending lots of love and thoughts for tomorrow 💕

[HannaYeah]

When I’ve lost people I loved dearly I decided to hold it together for the funeral as a way to honor and respect them. The idea of that makes it easier to breathe in deeply and keep my head up as much as possible rather than falling apart like I am inclined.

I’m so sorry you’ve lost your Mom. Your siblings are so fortunate to have you to take care of all the arrangements and to be strong for them.

[Crunchymum]

And now it's funeral day.

Managed a few hours sleep and will force some toast down.

Kids will be up soon, so I'm going to have a cuppa in peace.

@perhapstomorrow I'll be thinking of you today.

Our service is at 1.15pm and the cars leave an hour before that. After I drop the kids into school I'll go to my parents house and be on tea duty.

I'm feeling resigned, numb and pissed off. Which is better than the sobbing mess I was yesterday.

[Nicolastuffedone]

There is nothing that will happen today that you won’t get through.....

[RonaCor]

Thinking of you today.

[KatherineJaneway]

[chipshopElvis]

So very sorry for your loss OP. I hope you find the strength to make it through today.

[EmbarrassedUser]

Sending Thinking of you today x

[Blackdog19]

So sorry OP. I hope today goes as well as it can. I’m sure your mum would be so proud of you looking out for your siblings. Take care.

[LittleCabbage]

Thinking of you today Crunchymum. I'm glad you're feeling a little stronger today

[ineedaholidaynow]

Thinking of you today @Crunchymum and you @perhapstomorrow

I lost my DF 3 years ago. Today is the anniversary of his funeral. The night before the funeral I had a massive panic attack and just couldn’t imagine how I would even get out of the car at the crematorium. But I did, even managed to read a poem. As others have said I felt it was quite surreal.

Look after yourself, it really hit me a few days later. Still miss him dreadfully. Still talk to him, usually when standing outside looking at the stars when letting the dog out before bed, it’s my quiet and reflective time.

[stillfeelingmad]

Sending good thoughts to you today, try and think of all the lovely memories of your mum