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Monday will be the second worst day of my life

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Crunchymum · 17/10/2020 19:33

Sorry for the very self indulgent thread, I posted a few weeks back and had a lot of support.

Monday is my mum's funeral.

She died suddenly 4 weeks ago and I still cannot believe that in two days we'll be cremating her.

Not even sure why I'm posting. Maybe I just need a good old fashioned hand hold Sad

Not sure how I'll do this.

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TheSeedsOfADream · 19/10/2020 08:07

Thinking of you today Crunchy.

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perhapstomorrow · 19/10/2020 08:35

Hope it goes ok today @crunchymum. Couldn't sleep but don't feel as panicked as I did yesterday.

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apumpkinaday · 19/10/2020 08:36

Thinking of you 💐

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BiddyPop · 19/10/2020 08:41

A handhold for you today Crunchy, thinking of you today

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BiddyPop · 19/10/2020 08:43

Thinking of you too Perhapstonorrow

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Mischance · 19/10/2020 09:56

Sending strengthening thoughts to you for today. You will get through it I am sure. Flowers

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spiderlight · 19/10/2020 10:02

Thinking of you today, and of @perhapstomorrow too Flowers

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Terralee · 19/10/2020 11:42

Thinking of you @Crunchymum & @perhapstomorrow.... also sorry to hear of your losses @Piglet208 x

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rorosemary · 19/10/2020 11:57

Thanks thinking if you

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thegcatsmother · 19/10/2020 12:43

Thinking of you. You get through it on auto pilot tbh, and then spend time after the funeral trying to get your head round it all.

Take some time to be kind to yourself in the next month, and if you want to curl in a little ball under the duvet and sob, that is fine too. It's a rollercoaster for a while.

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bearlyactive · 19/10/2020 13:03

Another handhold for you OP Flowers

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Mysa74 · 19/10/2020 13:15

I lost my dad in late march 😢
Thinking of you and offing a hand hold xxx

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jessstan1 · 19/10/2020 13:57

I hope all is going well.x

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HelloDaisy · 19/10/2020 15:50

Thinking of you today xx

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Cloud21 · 19/10/2020 16:37

In my thoughts, OP. Completely understandable that you felt like that & hoping today was as bearable as it could be Flowers.

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Enko · 19/10/2020 16:43

thinking of you op

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Sleepingdogs12 · 19/10/2020 16:58

I couldn't imagine getting through my mum's funeral but I did , but I still can't get my head around her not being here and I am not sure I ever will. It is shit.

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Sleepingdogs12 · 19/10/2020 17:21

But you will be ok Flowers

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MJMG2015 · 19/10/2020 17:47

@Crunchymum & @perhapstomorrow
I hope things went as well as possible xx

Look after yourselves, it's a very difficult time Each party of it all is difficult in a different way, sadly many of us have been through it and are here with hand holds, hugs and listening ears when you need them 💕🌷

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shesgonebatshitagain · 19/10/2020 18:33

@Crunchymum
@perhapstomorrow

I hope you are as ok as you can ever be on a day such as this. Sending you both love and hope tonight you are being loved and looked after. FlowersFlowers

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mineofuselessinformation · 19/10/2020 20:56

I hope that you get some time to yourself tonight, just to draw breath and reflect on the day.
Whatever happened, I know it won't have been easy for you. Thanks

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Honeypickle · 19/10/2020 21:00

I’m so sorry. Thinking of you today x

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Crunchymum · 19/10/2020 21:16

Thank you one and all for the support and handhold.

It actually went as well as could be expected, and we all managed to hold it together pretty well. There were tears but we were all very "stiff upper lipped"

Dad was an absolute hero!!

We went back to my brothers garden after for a toast and some nibbles. It was exactly what my lovely mum would have wanted.

I feel absolutely shattered now and think I'll sleep well tonight.

This is the verse I put in with my mum. Sad

Monday will be the second worst day of my life
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jessstan1 · 19/10/2020 21:42

Love the verse! Did you write it?

I'm glad it went as well as it could. Sleep tight tonight. x

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TheSeedsOfADream · 19/10/2020 21:55

That's beautiful.
Sleep well.
Hope you are OK @perhapstomorrow Flowers

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