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Argument with DH over a bath

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Bells2323 · 29/12/2023 12:27

Just had a screaming match with my DH and I want to know if I am being unreasonable or not.

I had a bath in the morning around 11. He was in the bedroom as I having a shower.
At 12 I went into the bath again, and he asked again if I was having a bath. I didn’t answer, he asked again and I didn’t answer because he should have know that I wasn’t having a bath as I had one in the morning.

When I came into the bedroom, he started shouting at me for not answering and I started shouting at him for asking, what I think is a stupid question. He said he didn’t remember; I think he didn’t remember but was asking just to annoy me.
He went downstairs, muttering to himself about me.

OP posts:
Shouldershoulder · 29/12/2023 12:30

Why didn't you just answer him? Quite rude to ignore someone, even if you think they should know the answer to the question.

SecondUsername4me · 29/12/2023 12:31

No one is reasonable in a screaming match.

Why two baths an hour apart?

Why did you ignore him?

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 29/12/2023 12:31

YABU. I don’t understand why you didn’t just answer him.

Haydenn · 29/12/2023 12:32

Both of you sound nuts to be honest.

He overreacted, you should’ve just answered the question like a normal person

AllAboardTootToot · 29/12/2023 12:32

Posts like these just make me appreciate my OH even more.

What childish bullshit!

Namemchangeforthispostonly101 · 29/12/2023 12:32

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Whataretheodds · 29/12/2023 12:33

So you had a bath, then a shower, then went into the bath again and when your husband asked you a question you ignored him.

Is this normally how you communicate?

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LucyInTheParkWithDragons · 29/12/2023 12:34

Whataretheodds · 29/12/2023 12:33

So you had a bath, then a shower, then went into the bath again and when your husband asked you a question you ignored him.

Is this normally how you communicate?

Yes this!

I think you all need to get out of the house for a bit.

Whaleandsnail6 · 29/12/2023 12:34

You were unreasonable. Its not really hard to answer a question with a yes or no.
What a lot of drama over nothing.

Pinkyponker · 29/12/2023 12:35

Struggling to understand the post... According to what you've written you did go in the bath twice in an hour and had a shower in between...?

Crunchymum · 29/12/2023 12:35

A shower and two baths?

Shf · 29/12/2023 12:35

Eh? How many times did you wash today?

Justcallmebebes · 29/12/2023 12:35

This is odd to say the least, but I think your communication needs some work

HelenHerriott · 29/12/2023 12:36

So you had a bath at 11 then you went into the shower then you went back into the bath at 12?

he should have know that I wasn’t having a bath as I had one in the morning

I’m confused. Can someone explain ?

This reminds me of the t-rexing thread 😂

ImAnEnglishman · 29/12/2023 12:36

Sounds like you're both about 12 to be honest!

AmyDudley · 29/12/2023 12:36

I've no idea from your post how many baths/showers you had, no wonder your DH was confused.

araiwa · 29/12/2023 12:36

Shf · 29/12/2023 12:35

Eh? How many times did you wash today?

You won't get an answer from op

TinySaltLick · 29/12/2023 12:37

To get him on the back foot I would have a bath every hour until new years day, then stay unwashed until shrove Tuesday

ChihuahuasREvil · 29/12/2023 12:37

Firstly, your OP doesn’t make sense. Secondly, grow up, the pair of you.

ScarlettSunset · 29/12/2023 12:38

Do you hate your DH?
Why would you just not answer his question? Even if he should have known the answer it wouldn't exactly have taken any effort. And then screaming an shouting at him because he got upset about you ignoring him? I'd be upset if my partner just chose to completely ignore me when I asked a question too.

horalkamila · 29/12/2023 12:38

Have I really just read this? Omg some people's problems....

Knittedfairies2 · 29/12/2023 12:38

Are you a mermaid OP?

Original poster
Bells2323 · 29/12/2023 12:38

Pinkyponker · 29/12/2023 12:35

Struggling to understand the post... According to what you've written you did go in the bath twice in an hour and had a shower in between...?

Sorry, I had a shower at 11am. At 12, I went into the bathroom again, DH asked if I was having a bath/ shower or not. I didn’t answer because he knew I had a shower at 11am, so why ask me if I am having another shower when I am obviously not.

OP posts:
MILTOBE · 29/12/2023 12:39

I can't tell what you're on about. What did the shower have to do with it?

Are you saying you had a bath, then went into the bathroom and he asked if you were having a bath and you said nothing as he should've known you'd already had a bath and besides, the best way to make someone realise the error of their ways is to ignore them?

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