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Argument with DH over a bath

165 replies

Bells2323 · 29/12/2023 12:27

Just had a screaming match with my DH and I want to know if I am being unreasonable or not.

I had a bath in the morning around 11. He was in the bedroom as I having a shower.
At 12 I went into the bath again, and he asked again if I was having a bath. I didn’t answer, he asked again and I didn’t answer because he should have know that I wasn’t having a bath as I had one in the morning.

When I came into the bedroom, he started shouting at me for not answering and I started shouting at him for asking, what I think is a stupid question. He said he didn’t remember; I think he didn’t remember but was asking just to annoy me.
He went downstairs, muttering to himself about me.

OP posts:
LisaD1 · 29/12/2023 12:58

You were incredibly rude to ignore him and then to have a screaming match over such bullshit. I’d assume your relationship is shit

JL690 · 29/12/2023 13:00

A simple "no" in reply to his question would have prevented all the batshit that followed.

Tilllly · 29/12/2023 13:02

I get it @Bells2323

My DH drives me bonkers every day asking questions about blatantly obvious things

Usually I just answer him whilst thinking dur
Sometimes I say something like, what do you think
Occasionally I'm sarky
Very occasionally I ignore him

I don't think I've ever had a screaming row about it
Something else going on?

Gonkers · 29/12/2023 13:03

Whole situation caused by you being rude and not replying. YABU.

However, 1% unreasonableness forgiven for it being Twixtmas lunacy.

ActDottie · 29/12/2023 13:03

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 29/12/2023 12:31

YABU. I don’t understand why you didn’t just answer him.

This.

Bogofftosomewherehot · 29/12/2023 13:04

You need to work on your communication - both in your relationship and written on here.

was this really worth a screaming match?

Sounds batshit.

MILLYmo0se · 29/12/2023 13:04

You dont even seem to know yourself whether you had a bath or a shower at 11am or whether you were getting in the bath or just walking into the bathroom at 12 so i can see the confusion tbh.
Ye are obviously wound up or stressed about something, just let this nonsense go

Beckafett · 29/12/2023 13:05

This can't be a real post surely?

SophieJo · 29/12/2023 13:05

How childish you are.

Munchyseeds2 · 29/12/2023 13:06

All you had to do was respond to his question!

Tilllly · 29/12/2023 13:06

@Strawberrycheesecake7

Probably frustration

Eg this morning, I boiled the kettle, got a mug and coffee out and got "are you making a coffee?"

Running a bath "you going in the bath?"

When it's several times a day, and he doesn't do it to anyone else and doesn't do it at work, it can be irritating

Jingleballs2 · 29/12/2023 13:06

AllAboardTootToot · 29/12/2023 12:32

Posts like these just make me appreciate my OH even more.

What childish bullshit!

Same 🫣

Highlyflavouredgravy · 29/12/2023 13:07

Rude! Why didn't you just answer him!!!

Maray1967 · 29/12/2023 13:07

I’d have asked him why on earth he was asking that? You shouldn’t just ignore someone if they’ve only asked a question, no matter how stupid it is.

fridaynight1 · 29/12/2023 13:07

I can see why he’s confused 🙃

Jingleballs2 · 29/12/2023 13:09

The one thing that does my tots in is people not answering when I'm talking to them. So yeah you're the AH in this.

You both sound very childish tbh, is there any need for an argument over something so minor? Why all the drama?

Scrantonicity2 · 29/12/2023 13:09

"I had a bath"
"I having a shower"
"I went into the bath"

I have no idea how many baths or showers you had this morning and you've written an entire post about it. I assume this is a jokey 'look how poor people are at communicating' thread...?

StrictlyComeSnoozing · 29/12/2023 13:09

You were pig ignorant and absolutely out of order.

It just be horrible in your house if such petty bits of nothing turn into screaming matches. Why not just fucking answer when you're asked a question??

Bookworm1111 · 29/12/2023 13:10

Bells2323 · 29/12/2023 12:38

Sorry, I had a shower at 11am. At 12, I went into the bathroom again, DH asked if I was having a bath/ shower or not. I didn’t answer because he knew I had a shower at 11am, so why ask me if I am having another shower when I am obviously not.

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How petty not to just answer.

BerriesNutsConkers · 29/12/2023 13:11

The reasonable response would have been to say "no, I've had one" why all the drama?

HelpMeUnpickThis · 29/12/2023 13:12

YAB so U

Please go for a walk - get some fresh air. This is madness.
Apologise when you get back.

Bobbotgegrinch · 29/12/2023 13:12

So man asks reasonable question. You give him the silent treatment. He gets the hump with this so starts shouting.

You're both idiots but you started it.

Jf20 · 29/12/2023 13:13

That’s so rude, why not answer. Do you often treat people like that. Ignore them if you think it’s a stupid question?

Bluevelvetsofa · 29/12/2023 13:13

Utterly unnecessary. Someone asks a seemingly reasonable question and someone decides not to reply, which is irritating I’m sure and it turns into WW3. Crazy.

Horriblewoman · 29/12/2023 13:14

I have no idea if my husband has showered yet today, he said he was going to have one 30 mins ago but I haven’t been paying attention to see if he actually has so I would be your husband in this situation just checking.

You, to use an awful mumsnet expression, sound like hard work.