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Inappropriate ambulance ride

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Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:21

I couldn't get up out of bed two days ago. I woke up with a really bad back. Every step that I took was agony.

I couldn't move off the couch to even get into my car, to go to the doctors. I waited a couple of days to rest my back, it didn't get any better, I called the doctor and she advised me to get an ambulance to bring me to a+e.

The ambulance arrived. I could barely walk. The paramedics were two men in their fifties. They were totally unprofessional. They were laughing and joking and rude.

I think the way they treated me was absolutely shocking.

They sat me in a chair in the ambulance. First of all they were asking me where the pain was. I said that it was in my lower back.

The first man said "ah it is probably tight arse syndrome. You probanly have a tight arse hahahaha.
Well You're not getting any younger are you? How old are you?"

I said that I'm in late thirties
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He said "see youre not getting any younger. You probanly have a tight arse. I'm old myself".

Then he came right up to me and said these exact words.

"Im old , I have rust on my undercarriage ".

Talking about his genitals. Isn't that shocking.

Then the second guy asked me "are you married.". I said "no".

The first guy said to the other guy "ah Jim you should ask her for her number then hahahaha".

The second guy said "no I wont". And then he said to me "he is always trying to set me up with people".

He didn't seem to realise that it is completely inappropriate to ever try to set up a paramedic colleague with a female patient who is alone, vulnerable, in pain, in the back of an ambulance.

All the while this "banter" was going on I was sitting there in a lot of pain, feeling a bit nervous.

The first paramedic then gave me some pain relief that I had to inhale. He asked me "do you drink". I said "occasionally". He said "how often". I said "about once a month". He said "this medication will be like a free night out for you hahahaha". "You'll have a good time on this".

He then shouted at me about the way I was holding the pain relief thing. He said "no don't hold it that way, oh for god sake I'll put it on you, I'm getting fed up with you". Because you had to loop a part of it around your hand.

I was at this stage worried about taking anything that would make me a bit lightheaded in front of them
Then I inhaled it. And the paramedic said to the other paramedic "ah you can tell that she's done this before ahhhahahaha" .

I wasn't laughing back at this. And the second paramedic glared at me and said "she's a very serious girl". I was thinking "of course I'm serious and not having a hilarious laugh, I'm in pain, in the back of an ambulance!". They were so unprofessional it was shocking.

When we got to the hospital, the first guy wheeled me in, brought me to the nurse and said "here is this one with back pain. Wait till I tell you - she asked me in the ambulance to go for a drink with her after this ahaha".I said "no I didn't". The nurse said "is he telling fibs". And rolled her eyes a little bit.

They were absolutely shocking. I couldn't believe the two of them

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Dartmoorcheffy · 15/11/2023 13:23

If this is true then its absolutely disgraceful.

FeliciteFaff · 15/11/2023 13:24

Complain. Report. They sounds like a twatty pair of self entitled arses

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:24

It was absolutely disgusting.

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RicherThanYews · 15/11/2023 13:25

I was fully prepared to say that maybe they were trying to keep the mood light to make you feel better but wow, no. Report them immediately. I hope you have a diagnosis and medication for your back.

Doggymummar · 15/11/2023 13:25

I can't believe this is true. Very unusual

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 15/11/2023 13:25

Well AFAIK many ambulances have cctv on them to help with prosecution (ha!) due to the high levels of crew being assaulted so complain ASAP and they can pull the footage.

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NmeChngeFail · 15/11/2023 13:27

Omg.

Tlwhen you said this,

"Then he came right up to me and said these exact words.

"Im old , I have rust on my undercarriage "."

I felt it.

A nasty, lazy girl that worked in my nursery and sucked the life out of the workplace left and became a paramedic. I dont think its something that is all that hard to get into. No offense to anyone, I was just shocked that someone like her could be accepted into that job.

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:28

Doggymummar · 15/11/2023 13:25

I can't believe this is true. Very unusual

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It is true. I can look up my posting history, and find the thread that i posted three days ago where I said I woke up with a bad back , and I asked people what to do. At least that proves that I had a bad back this week

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Dartmoorcheffy · 15/11/2023 13:28

I'll be honest I find this very hard to believe, but a search on the op seems genuine enough. You should definitely report them..

Radiat · 15/11/2023 13:29

I’d give you that they might have made a joke about the gas and air being like a free night out. The rest feels so far beyond the realms of how any professional would act, that I cannot believe it.

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Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:30

I'm sad that people find it hard to believe when it absolutely did happen, and I had to suffer through their vile behaviour.

They were utterly disgusting.

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BasiliskStare · 15/11/2023 13:31

Have you reported them @Mooshamoo ?

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strawberrysea · 15/11/2023 13:31

People accusing you of lying clearly haven't worked in the NHS before. This type of stupid patronising 'banter' is commonplace, especially amongst male colleagues who think that they are absolutely hilarious.

I can understand that there is a time and place and perhaps initially they were trying to improve your mood but it goes without saying that they should've cut the act once it became clear that you didn't find it funny.

Nuca · 15/11/2023 13:32

You seem to have quite bad luck, because you've also got quite a few threads about other healthcare staff making inappropriate comments to you

WhatWhereWho · 15/11/2023 13:32

If true this is appalling. You should formally complain.

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:32

Radiat · 15/11/2023 13:29

I’d give you that they might have made a joke about the gas and air being like a free night out. The rest feels so far beyond the realms of how any professional would act, that I cannot believe it.

It happened. What would I have to gain from making this up. I can think of many other ways I can amuse myself.

I'm just out of hospital this morning, sitting here, upset about what they did.

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Radiat · 15/11/2023 13:35

Well then you should of course report it, if a PP is right in saying there’s CCTV in the ambulance nowadays you’ll be easily backed up by that.

Sincerely, I hope your back is a bit better, I’ve been through hell with mine, so I can sympathise there. I know it won’t be healed overnight.

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:36

It just shows you how people get away with it

. They are so bad that people think it can't have happened.

Or maybe society is trained to see the woman as a liar.

I swear on my life this happened. Though if people don't believe me on here if I tell anyone in real life, will I be believed.

Is there CCTV on ambulances. I'm in Ireland
There should be , shouldn't there?

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All2Well · 15/11/2023 13:36

Hilariously sad reading that people don't believe you OP.

I'm the only member of my family that hasn't worked in the NHS and still very close to it all. Affairs, chauvinistic behaviour, low level sexual assault of female staff members whilst on duty all very very rampant. All in the name of banter. It's worse than being the only female on a 70s building site at times.

What happened to you is awful. I completely believe you and I'm sorry.

Please report it. It could help other women (patients and colleagues) should it help build up a wider picture of behaviour. I hope you get your health sorted soon too.

INGoldtime · 15/11/2023 13:37

@Mooshamoo I believe you and I'm sorry this happened. I wrote a post a while ago about patronising paramedics after watching an ambulance show. They often 'joke' around making inappropriate innuendos and it's totally disrespectful.
Definitely report them and I hope you're feeling better soon.

EvilElsa · 15/11/2023 13:37

I will say that when we had to call an ambulance for my grandad ten years ago the paramedics were absolutely awful and totally unprofessional so I wouldn't automatically dismiss this as a made up post. We were in shock at the time with a dying man on the floor so didn't address anything there and then, but to say they were callous and inappropriate is an understatement.
I also know amazing paramedics who are compassionate and totally professional. Doesn't mean bad ones don't exist.

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