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Inappropriate ambulance ride

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Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:21

I couldn't get up out of bed two days ago. I woke up with a really bad back. Every step that I took was agony.

I couldn't move off the couch to even get into my car, to go to the doctors. I waited a couple of days to rest my back, it didn't get any better, I called the doctor and she advised me to get an ambulance to bring me to a+e.

The ambulance arrived. I could barely walk. The paramedics were two men in their fifties. They were totally unprofessional. They were laughing and joking and rude.

I think the way they treated me was absolutely shocking.

They sat me in a chair in the ambulance. First of all they were asking me where the pain was. I said that it was in my lower back.

The first man said "ah it is probably tight arse syndrome. You probanly have a tight arse hahahaha.
Well You're not getting any younger are you? How old are you?"

I said that I'm in late thirties
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He said "see youre not getting any younger. You probanly have a tight arse. I'm old myself".

Then he came right up to me and said these exact words.

"Im old , I have rust on my undercarriage ".

Talking about his genitals. Isn't that shocking.

Then the second guy asked me "are you married.". I said "no".

The first guy said to the other guy "ah Jim you should ask her for her number then hahahaha".

The second guy said "no I wont". And then he said to me "he is always trying to set me up with people".

He didn't seem to realise that it is completely inappropriate to ever try to set up a paramedic colleague with a female patient who is alone, vulnerable, in pain, in the back of an ambulance.

All the while this "banter" was going on I was sitting there in a lot of pain, feeling a bit nervous.

The first paramedic then gave me some pain relief that I had to inhale. He asked me "do you drink". I said "occasionally". He said "how often". I said "about once a month". He said "this medication will be like a free night out for you hahahaha". "You'll have a good time on this".

He then shouted at me about the way I was holding the pain relief thing. He said "no don't hold it that way, oh for god sake I'll put it on you, I'm getting fed up with you". Because you had to loop a part of it around your hand.

I was at this stage worried about taking anything that would make me a bit lightheaded in front of them
Then I inhaled it. And the paramedic said to the other paramedic "ah you can tell that she's done this before ahhhahahaha" .

I wasn't laughing back at this. And the second paramedic glared at me and said "she's a very serious girl". I was thinking "of course I'm serious and not having a hilarious laugh, I'm in pain, in the back of an ambulance!". They were so unprofessional it was shocking.

When we got to the hospital, the first guy wheeled me in, brought me to the nurse and said "here is this one with back pain. Wait till I tell you - she asked me in the ambulance to go for a drink with her after this ahaha".I said "no I didn't". The nurse said "is he telling fibs". And rolled her eyes a little bit.

They were absolutely shocking. I couldn't believe the two of them

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GaggleTheGoose · 19/11/2023 06:51

winetrail · 18/11/2023 16:43

Grow up. I'm there too, and that's not quite accurate.

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It's accurate alright.
It's not just that forum who have mentioned the posters fables. 😂

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Mooshamoo · 19/11/2023 10:31

BlueEyedPeanut · 19/11/2023 03:48

The NHS has nothing to do with this. This alleged incident wasn't in the UK. And the "vitriol" (aka skepticism) is because of the OP's history. Not because of people's unwavering faith in healthcare workers.

Its got nothing to do with my history. I believe I have said on here on Mumsnet that my estate agent, a doctor, a neighbour, a guy at a meetup, and an ambulance man were inapproproate to me. That is five men
. I'm 39. The guy at the meetup came over to me, hugged me from behind and grabbed my breast. Several other women also complained about him. I'm still annoyed about him too

Many more men have been inappropriate to me that that. And have been far worse to me than that. I wouldnt talk about the worse incidents on here. I mostly talk about the verbal abuse on here.

Many women go through multiple multiple experiences of sexual harassment.

I just asked my aunt there how many times she has dealt with inappropriate men. She said there was too many to tell me them all, but she recalled twenty occasions to me.

She said she was walking down the street and a man stuck his hand up her skirt.
She said that à taxi driver once drove out of the way and parked in a country lane and sexually harassed her.
She said that when she was young, that a doctor was very creepy and inaopropriate to her .
She said in one house that she lived in , that a neighbour stood on a ladder and used to look over the wall at her when she was in the garden

Many many women have multiple experiences of sexual harassment /abuse.

I was just thinking about the last place that I worked in. My female boss told me that she had been at a work conference and a man came up behind her and touched her vagina. At a work conference. It happens so much to people

You're saying that because I have multiple experiences that I'm a liar. I disagree totally. Many women go through multiple incidents I their lifetime.

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Mooshamoo · 19/11/2023 10:50

GaggleTheGoose · 19/11/2023 06:51

It's accurate alright.
It's not just that forum who have mentioned the posters fables. 😂

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I never heard of tattle until it was mentioned here.

I went to look at it, the first post that I see about Mumsnet is people talking about the horrendous bullying that goes on on mumsnet.

That people pile on ops like vultures. That is what being said on tattle. It's accurate

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allaloneandlost · 19/11/2023 11:55

BlueEyedPeanut · 19/11/2023 03:48

The NHS has nothing to do with this. This alleged incident wasn't in the UK. And the "vitriol" (aka skepticism) is because of the OP's history. Not because of people's unwavering faith in healthcare workers.

Fair enough, this is outside the UK and not the NHS but whatever the equivalent is in Ireland. I don't know the finer details of that.

But yet again, if people don't believe the OP that's their decision but they can just scroll by instead of piling on and attacking. That's really unnecessary.

allaloneandlost · 19/11/2023 12:10

I've just had a look at what Tattle say about MN and it's just posters poking fun of it. It all seems very childish.

DonnaBanana · 19/11/2023 12:18

I believe you 100% because this sort of Carry On/On the Buses level of banter is common in the NHS in my experience (though less extreme than OPs case) with mostly white men and women. It seems to be an attempt at levity but often falls flat on its arse.

Nanny0gg · 19/11/2023 12:24

I may have missed it

Did you report @Mooshamoo ?

winetrail · 19/11/2023 12:40

It's accurate alright.
It's not just that forum who have mentioned the posters fables.

Two posts on Tattle last I saw, one possibly yours. I'm on the other forum, and the only, few, regular posters comments are mixing OP up with someone else. It's full of trolls there anyway, Tattle is far more reliable.

The point is that you might feel there are discrepancies but you should report them to Mumsnet. Just in case you're wrong, given the serious nature of subject matter.

I can understand people publicly calling out grief trolls, and begging posts, where people might send money, but not something like this.

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