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Inappropriate ambulance ride

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Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:21

I couldn't get up out of bed two days ago. I woke up with a really bad back. Every step that I took was agony.

I couldn't move off the couch to even get into my car, to go to the doctors. I waited a couple of days to rest my back, it didn't get any better, I called the doctor and she advised me to get an ambulance to bring me to a+e.

The ambulance arrived. I could barely walk. The paramedics were two men in their fifties. They were totally unprofessional. They were laughing and joking and rude.

I think the way they treated me was absolutely shocking.

They sat me in a chair in the ambulance. First of all they were asking me where the pain was. I said that it was in my lower back.

The first man said "ah it is probably tight arse syndrome. You probanly have a tight arse hahahaha.
Well You're not getting any younger are you? How old are you?"

I said that I'm in late thirties
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He said "see youre not getting any younger. You probanly have a tight arse. I'm old myself".

Then he came right up to me and said these exact words.

"Im old , I have rust on my undercarriage ".

Talking about his genitals. Isn't that shocking.

Then the second guy asked me "are you married.". I said "no".

The first guy said to the other guy "ah Jim you should ask her for her number then hahahaha".

The second guy said "no I wont". And then he said to me "he is always trying to set me up with people".

He didn't seem to realise that it is completely inappropriate to ever try to set up a paramedic colleague with a female patient who is alone, vulnerable, in pain, in the back of an ambulance.

All the while this "banter" was going on I was sitting there in a lot of pain, feeling a bit nervous.

The first paramedic then gave me some pain relief that I had to inhale. He asked me "do you drink". I said "occasionally". He said "how often". I said "about once a month". He said "this medication will be like a free night out for you hahahaha". "You'll have a good time on this".

He then shouted at me about the way I was holding the pain relief thing. He said "no don't hold it that way, oh for god sake I'll put it on you, I'm getting fed up with you". Because you had to loop a part of it around your hand.

I was at this stage worried about taking anything that would make me a bit lightheaded in front of them
Then I inhaled it. And the paramedic said to the other paramedic "ah you can tell that she's done this before ahhhahahaha" .

I wasn't laughing back at this. And the second paramedic glared at me and said "she's a very serious girl". I was thinking "of course I'm serious and not having a hilarious laugh, I'm in pain, in the back of an ambulance!". They were so unprofessional it was shocking.

When we got to the hospital, the first guy wheeled me in, brought me to the nurse and said "here is this one with back pain. Wait till I tell you - she asked me in the ambulance to go for a drink with her after this ahaha".I said "no I didn't". The nurse said "is he telling fibs". And rolled her eyes a little bit.

They were absolutely shocking. I couldn't believe the two of them

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Floopani · 15/11/2023 13:37

Report them. I have worked in the NHS can well believe this happened.

Humour can be really good to help lighten a situation, but they clearly went way too far. Even if they think it's fine, you didn't and that's what matters.

For all of you saying this didn't happen, I guess you think some policemen don't do any of things they have been reported for either? Putting on a uniform doesn't change your personality.

Toddlerteaplease · 15/11/2023 13:38

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Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:42

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How do you know for sure. Were you there?

Also if there is CCTV on the ambulance that will prove what I say.

When I actually got into a and e. I was treated by a female doctor and nurse. They were both extremely respectful and kind to me. They told me what they were doing and asked me was it okay before they did itm they were so professional and kind.

I am fuming at the ambulance guys. They were dismissive, inappropriate and absuive. The guy saying "I have rust on my undercarriage was fucking disgusting". Thye shouldn't be anywhere near sick people..

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wayyour · 15/11/2023 13:42

Christ! That's appalling. Definitely report.

MaliciaKeys · 15/11/2023 13:46

I’ve worked for the ambulance service. Their paramedic registration numbers will be on their epaulettes. Report them immediately.

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 15/11/2023 13:46

Report right now then op, to the trust and the hcpc, now before the footage is lost.

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:47

There is something extremely extremely sad about coming on here, and saying I was verbally abused in the back of an ambulance, and having several women say "that didn't happen".

I hope it doesn't ever happen to you that you are alone, in pain in a back of an ambulance, and you have two big burly men sneering and laughing at you, and saying things about their genitals.

I hate what those men did.

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Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:52

I'm weighing up whether to report. I would like to protect other women.

However, I live in small town Ireland..one of the paramedics is a coach in the local GAA here, he is heavily involved in the community.

I know from previous bitter experience, (not just my own, but female friends) that if I complain about a man being inappropriate in small town Ireland, that it will be me who will be blamed, and my family that is affected.

That is how these men get away with it. One man in the local community said something disgusting to a woman I know.

She complained about it, and the community shunned her not him. She was seen as "making a big deal". She ended up having to move away.

It seems like it will be pointless to complain as even if I reported it and I dd complain, and he lost his job, he would still live near me, and I would be totally shunned, and I would feel the anger from his friends and family.

That is how these men get away with stuff like this in a small community.

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FooFighter99 · 15/11/2023 13:53

Can everyone stop with the troll hunting for goodness sake! If you have concerns then report or just don't read!

@Mooshamoo I can believe this, and I would strongly encourage you to report it to the ambulance service (not the Hospital as ambulance staff are nothing to do with them)

I hope you're feeling better too

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 13:54

They're disgusting men. Of all the places to be rude and sexually inappropriate to women - to a woman in a back of an ambulance

I feel sad , I feel dirty after being with them, I feel depressed as I know I can't really win against them, and Im still in pain

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Noseyoldcow · 15/11/2023 13:55

You should report this, you found their "banter" upsetting. You might save someone else from similar distress.

Noseyoldcow · 15/11/2023 13:56

Sorry, cross posted. I see why you might not want to report.

kiki50 · 15/11/2023 13:56

I can totally believe this is true, having been on the receiving end of inappropriate and unprofessional medical care myself.

IntheJingelyJangelyJungle · 15/11/2023 14:00

I would definitely report this. It could be a valuable part of a bigger picture you know nothing about.

I understand your reticence. Your story is also, sadly, very believable. GAA is a tight community- you only need to look at the fallout once Rory Gallagher (Derry Manager) was finally publicly called out earlier this year. GAA men get away with all sorts of bad behaviour, it’s a misogynistic culture of ‘banter’ that hides behind being ‘a good community GAA man’. Awful. People need to speak up about these bad eggs.

curlycat · 15/11/2023 14:00

@NmeChngeFail just because one person you know and don't like is in the service you can't say it's an easy job to get into or to do.
It's certainly not an easy process or day to day job. OP is unfortunate she got 2 idiots but you get them in every job there is

user1471556818 · 15/11/2023 14:00

Report them as soon as you feel able to .Absolutely not acceptable

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 15/11/2023 14:01

Nuca · 15/11/2023 13:32

You seem to have quite bad luck, because you've also got quite a few threads about other healthcare staff making inappropriate comments to you

Actually I remember these posts now, what happened with the complaints about the inappropriate male gp, and the other doctors you complained about?

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 15/11/2023 14:02

I can believe this that’s true , but ( not really good enough reason) they were probably just trying to lighten the mood.

calling an Ambulance here though, that seems extreme.

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 14:03

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 15/11/2023 14:02

I can believe this that’s true , but ( not really good enough reason) they were probably just trying to lighten the mood.

calling an Ambulance here though, that seems extreme.

I called my local doctor first. The doctor advised me to call the ambulance.

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Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 14:06

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 15/11/2023 14:01

Actually I remember these posts now, what happened with the complaints about the inappropriate male gp, and the other doctors you complained about?

I complained about one doctor. He is one of my local doctors. He is also a bit inappropriate. If I call my local doctors surgery now I ask to always see a female doctor. So I haven't had to see him again.

However these ambulance guys were way way worse than that doctor.

The ambulance guy talked about his penis to me. I mean that is so off the scale appropriate.
If I reported that , and that was found to be true, I'm sure that is a firing offence.

He would be fired for that.

How can a paramedic go and pick up and injured woman and talk about his penis. What kind of fucking world am I living in

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backtowinter · 15/11/2023 14:07

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All just a bit of banter? Right?

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 14:07

Youcannotbeseriousreally · 15/11/2023 14:02

I can believe this that’s true , but ( not really good enough reason) they were probably just trying to lighten the mood.

calling an Ambulance here though, that seems extreme.

He was trying to lighten the mood by talking about his penis to me?

If his comment was caught on ambulance CCTV, I am a hundred per cent sure he would be fired for that.

That is gross misconduct and sexual abuse to a patient

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Youcannotbeseriousreally · 15/11/2023 14:08

Mooshamoo · 15/11/2023 14:07

He was trying to lighten the mood by talking about his penis to me?

If his comment was caught on ambulance CCTV, I am a hundred per cent sure he would be fired for that.

That is gross misconduct and sexual abuse to a patient

Oh I completely agree he went too far. Absolutely not acceptable.

backtowinter · 15/11/2023 14:09

This is awful OP

I echo the others in saying definitely report

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