Inappropriate ambulance ride

Women can be utterly utterly evil.

You are spiralling. Those men treated you dreadfully but don't lay this at the feet of women.

I believe you. I would have been so scared and uncomfortable at the rust remark - that isn't "banter". It has so majorly crossed professional boundaries that it cannot be excused as banter.

You've not been in the back of enough ambulances then!

• Yelled at for not taking 'steroids' medication daily - I was in agony, naked, in my room with two strange men. The 'steroids' he was yelling at me for not having taken regularly were a diuretic I have 'as and when' necessary. Twat.
• Quizzed about my occupation, derided, scoffed at how much I make (this is after he'd assumed I was on out of work benefits and getting more than him), then challenged to come up with a solution to his problem, relevant to what I do. Whilst I was sat in the truck being assessed to see if I was having a heart attack.
• Farting competition (albeit... my DP started that one). I was experiencing a fast AF that hadn't stopped in 3 hours at this point.

I've also had a lot of extremely lovely paramedics round and the only one of the above I complained about was the first one as he was flat out wrong and not his place to decide if I was taking prescribed meds properly. It was dealt with appropriately.

The others... sometimes they're trying to put people at their ease and miss the mark, sometimes by a very very long way. Sometimes they are trying to distract a patient so they don't panic.

Sometimes they just misjudge stuff and need pulling up on it, and if people complain then thats exactly what will happen.

Then I heard him say "activate CCTV" much later into the trip

I don't think they can control the cctv , it sort of defeats the object of having it .
Definitely complain though.

I don't know anything about Irish health care, but, if it happened then report it.

Over here, in England, I had to call a lot of ambulances for DH (lots of emergencies), and they were always respectful, kind and friendly.

Yes, we'd have a smile with some of them, but it was always appropriate and within boundaries.

He was clearly being 'funny', but I would have snorted with laughter at that comment, whereas you were upset by it.

I can see how its not appropriate, for you - for me though there are times id rather be distracted by someone sailing a bit close to the wind and being familiar, jokey, rude even... than focus on the potential horror of a situation (and in my case, it is potentially pretty scary, I've a lot of things I'll eventually die of and the chances that I kark it in the back of an ambulance are pretty high)...

As I said before, all you can do NOW is make a complaint. We can go round and round as to whether its appropriate, whether its funny or whether someone else would have found it amusing - thats all relevant to the person in question so everyones going to say something slightly different there.

You know how you felt. You found it upsetting, it made you feel anxious or vulnerable or highlighted your vulnerablity, those things are worthy of a complaint and I do agree it sounds like these particular paramedics need to rein it in and be more thoughtful!

They'll get more than a verbal warning. For the sake of other vulnerable women needing an ambulance, you really do need to report these men.

OK, OP; in the kindest possible tone here....

• I'm not sure it's helping you to go over and over it here, unless you're taking some advice on what to do next. You are understandably upset, but there is a little bit of histrionic input here.
• If you do not wish to report the incident, then you need to think about what benefit you're getting from talking it over like this.
• If you feel that you want to stop this happening again (which you've said already), then you do need to report this. I've previously added advice on what you should do about recording the incident for this purpose.
• If you are not going to pursue it, and you feel that you do need to talk it over, then can you access any talking therapies through your GP, or work even? (Sorry, I'm not up to scratch with the ROI health services.)

Not the point but undercarriage when used in that way doesn't usually mean genitals but bum...

Lower back pain, maybe he was just trying to use humour to cheer you up a bit by empathising and didn't read the room correctly

OP, I hope you take my post in the constructive way it's meant.

You've posted a lot (not just on this thread) about men being inappropriate.

You've posted a lot (not just on this thread) about women being evil or crueller than men.

You've posted a lot about your abandonment issues you have from your parents.

I really think you would benefit from some rigorous therapy to help you work through the trauma from your childhood. It sounds like it's colouring all of the interactions you have day to day and you're hypervigilant, watching for threats from every corner.

I really do think you could benefit hugely from therapy.

No OP, I don't think it's appropriate. But I do think you're having an extreme reaction to it.

You seem to be quite a dramatic person... I agree with pp that you'd maybe benefit from therapy or speaking to someone about anxiety issues? It seems that you think that everyone is out to get you/make you feel bad and have extreme reactions to things you dislike or feel uncomfortable with. It isn't normal to live and feel this way and you need to speak to someone that could help