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How long were you together before you got engaged?

(192 Posts)
RiverdaleJughead Wed 08-Mar-17 13:33:52

Disclosure - I do not want my DP to propose or to be engaged yet but I'm just wondering what the average relationship length is before you get engaged? My parents were engaged 4 months after meeting each other ( which I know is unusual) and I've been with DP for 4 years and no ring is on either of our horizons right now.
How long were you with your DP before you got engaged ?

MrsBungle Wed 08-Mar-17 13:35:30

Dh and I got engaged after 4 months. Married within the year and been together now 12 years.

TheNaze73 Wed 08-Mar-17 13:36:51

First time around, 18 months. In hindsight, far too soon. How can you expect to know someone in such a short space of time. 20 years & 2 children down the line & been with someone 3 years. Not a chance we'll do it yet. It's a massive commitment & 3 years is nothing.

welshmist Wed 08-Mar-17 13:38:25

10 months married him three months later, 40 years this year. It really does depend on the individuals and financial circumstances imo. I had known him for a few years before we started dating though.

punkpuffin Wed 08-Mar-17 13:38:44

Just under a year! We've had our ups and downs but I wouldn't change it.

WhatIsWrongWithMePlease Wed 08-Mar-17 13:38:50

We had been together for 6 years before getting married. Weren't properly engaged as we had talked about getting married for ages then one day decided to book it for 2 months later. There was no proposal or ring ect.

Bloopbleep Wed 08-Mar-17 13:42:43

I've never been engaged and had two long term relationship one of ten years and my current on nine. No one has ever wanted to marry me

LemonRedwood Wed 08-Mar-17 13:43:37

Together just over a year when we got engaged. Married about a year later. Will have been married 5 years this year, so not as long as some other posters.

However, was with my ex for over 6 years before we got engaged. I then broke it off before there was any hint of a wedding and boy, was it a lucky escape.

LemonRedwood Wed 08-Mar-17 13:43:49

Together just over a year when we got engaged. Married about a year later. Will have been married 5 years this year, so not as long as some other posters.

However, was with my ex for over 6 years before we got engaged. I then broke it off before there was any hint of a wedding and boy, was it a lucky escape.

LemonRedwood Wed 08-Mar-17 13:49:09

Apparently, it was a doubly lucky escape! Sorry for the double post.

bec3105 Wed 08-Mar-17 13:49:27

Got engaged three weeks after meeting, married two years later. We've now been married 19 years and have three children smile

MaroonPencil Wed 08-Mar-17 13:51:29

Six years before we got engaged, Now we have been married for 11. And there was a year between engagement and marriage

Hesdeadjim Wed 08-Mar-17 13:53:44

8 years blush

Getting married on our 10 year anniversary next year.

In our defense, we were 17 when we met and we bought a house after we'd both finished uni, so never got round to the engagement/ marrying thing until late smile

Cocolepew Wed 08-Mar-17 13:58:59

3 weeks and married a year and 3 weeks after meeting.
22 anniversary on Saturday.

PenguinDi Wed 08-Mar-17 13:59:07

We talked about it about 2 months after getting together, but sort of officially engaged after a year and getting married this sept, so nearly 2 half years.

I think other poster are right, it does depend on the person and the particulars of the relationship, not to mention the family too.

WarwickDavisAsPlates Wed 08-Mar-17 13:59:31

About 2 weeks after we got together DH proposed.

Had to wait 3 years to get married though as we had DD after we had only been together a year.

xStefx Wed 08-Mar-17 14:01:15

6.5 years before I finally ground him down enough to ask! Then I acted all surprised lol

Heathen4Hire Wed 08-Mar-17 14:05:25

Five years.

oliversmummy26 Wed 08-Mar-17 14:05:32

Together 14 months when we got engaged, then engaged for 16 months before wedding, now together almost 3 years and a baby on the way smile

YorkieDorkie Wed 08-Mar-17 14:06:41

7 years, we were "high school sweethearts" I suppose so being engaged would have been weird! We got married at 24/25.

WhatHaveIFound Wed 08-Mar-17 14:10:12

We were together 18 months before DH proposed and we got married 2 years after that. Coming up to 25 years of marriage.

Mamadothehump Wed 08-Mar-17 14:11:18

9 months. Married 16 months later and celebrating our 15 anniversary next month.

yorkshirepuddingandroastbeef Wed 08-Mar-17 14:11:58

5 months blush
Married after 2 years
Together for 10

Best offer I've ever had! grin

Bumbumtaloo Wed 08-Mar-17 14:14:34

We got engaged - well I got a ring no proposal grin after about 1.5yrs - we already had one DD and were living together. Got married another 1.5yrs later on our 3rd anniversary have been together 9yrs married for 6 this year.

Clutterbugsmum Wed 08-Mar-17 14:20:30

Engaged after 6 weeks, married after 18 months nearly 16 years ago.

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