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Do people really make their partners "wash their willy"?

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Blurby Mon 14-Oct-19 17:30:04

Years ago I was friends with a girl who casually mentioned in a conversation that when she and her boyfriend are in the throws, and she decides to perform fellatio (great word), she'd make him wash his willy first.

I've now, ten years later, stumbled across a similar comment being made on a TV show I'm watching. This time the guy is required to do so before any sexual encounter.

Maybe I'm just lucky because my husband is a well-kept, clean guy...

AIBU to think that willy washing before sex etc. would take away from the moment?

OccasionalNachos Mon 14-Oct-19 17:32:16

Possibly, but I would be quite uncomfortable if I wasn’t as fresh as I could be (after a 12-hour shift at work, for example) & sex was on the agenda, so I imagine a lot of people feel the same.

Manicpixiedreambitch Mon 14-Oct-19 17:34:19

Not in the throes of passion, but if it's a service blowie I prefer it rinsed.

Mummybares Mon 14-Oct-19 17:35:45

Its probably part of the foreplay and adds to anticipation.. people are put off or turned on by different stuff ..some say condoms kill the moment hmm so.....

Raphael34 Mon 14-Oct-19 17:36:08

I say this probably every other bj with my oh. He tends to live lined shorts with no boxers and it does get sweaty/smelly on occasion. If it stinks it’s not going in my mouth. My oh doesn’t mind at all and will give it a rinse in the sink

Bezalelle Mon 14-Oct-19 17:36:12

For me it depends if he's circumcised. Wth my two ex-partners, non-circumcised, I used to get them to wash because it always stank under there. Current circumcised DP literally never smells or looks dirty, even after a day at work or strenuous activity. Foreskins are smeg-holders.

limpylegs Mon 14-Oct-19 17:39:07

I would rather not have the taste of piss in my mouth during a blowie.

Also I would give myself a wipe down below with a waterwipe when I know he's going to go down on me.

Nobody can be 100% fresh all of the time and it feels like basic manners to make an effort to not taste like pee.

limpylegs Mon 14-Oct-19 17:40:34

The moment is killed quicker when I can smell pee hmm

cultkid Mon 14-Oct-19 17:40:47

We both wash before sex every single time
I want to feel totally comfortable!!!

AndNoneForGretchenWieners Mon 14-Oct-19 17:41:11

I never used to ask DH to, but he never felt comfortable unless he was freshly washed. My ex never used to bother specifically for sex but he was clean enough, I never had any complaints.

tisonlymeagain Mon 14-Oct-19 17:43:03

I wouldn't make mine or ask him to but he generally does if he's expecting it go anywhere near my mouth, just as I would be fresh for him too.

Bickles Mon 14-Oct-19 17:43:24

I suffer from recurrent UTIs so now we both shower before as well as after. It’s quite nice, we get in together.

EmeraldShamrock Mon 14-Oct-19 17:44:45

DP always washes well before bed or when he knows he is on a promise.
I'd feel sick going down on him if he was sweaty and likewise.

dramaticpenguin Mon 14-Oct-19 17:47:43

Mine gives his a rinse in the sink as a matter of course, just in case I might be in the mood! Thankfully apparently only at home, I did check that he wasn't doing that everywhere he used the loo!

SimonJT Mon 14-Oct-19 17:49:04

It depends what I’ve been doing with it, I have at least one shower a day so I’m a clean person. We don’t wash our bits after sex unless it’s day sex and we’re going out, if there’s any chance of morning sex we’ll both give it a wash after our morning wee if we’ve had sex the night before.

yestoextinction Mon 14-Oct-19 17:50:14

but if it's a service blowie I prefer it rinsed.


gamerchick Mon 14-Oct-19 17:50:46

Na, freshly washed here. Nothing worse than a sweaty dick that's been encased in underwear all day. Same the other way, ewcm during ovulation can get a bit showy. Why do that to a dude?!

Luckily we have no problem breaking off for a quick shower... It's nice together.

ViciousJackdaw Mon 14-Oct-19 17:51:45

Oh god, no, I don't demand it is washed before administering favours, way to kill the mood. I have noticed it tasting faintly of handwash on occasion though so I think he does give it a quick rinse before bed.

Heaviestdirtyestsoul Mon 14-Oct-19 17:52:53

There is no way I'm putting it in my mouth without a quick sink dangle. He pees out of that, and as he's going up for the night I will say 'sink dangle' and he knows what's coming 😁

SuperMeerkat Mon 14-Oct-19 17:53:29

My DH is not getting a BJ unless he’s just had a shower! No way am I sucking on a sweaty cock!

SquigglePigs Mon 14-Oct-19 18:04:25

I don't need to ask - DH always has a quick wash as do I. It's just common decency/consideration for each other.

bakesalesally Mon 14-Oct-19 18:05:02

Am I the only one who immediately thought of Penis Beaker? (I know it was for afterwards, but still...)

WhatTiggersDoBest Mon 14-Oct-19 18:08:02

Do people really not respect their partners enough to turn up for sex/oral without clean body parts??!

Ewwwwwww. confused

DH and I both wash beforehand. We also brush our teeth before kissing and wash our hands before sticking them in places that can get infected. I guess that's why we don't get sick very often.

WhatTiggersDoBest Mon 14-Oct-19 18:08:38

We also brush our teeth before kissing with tongues.
Just wanted to clarify haha.

PooWillyBumBum Mon 14-Oct-19 18:18:57

DH never tastes of pee or sweat, whether or not he's just washed. He showers thoroughly every day and is circumcised. I wouldn't ask him to wash, no. Yesterday I gave him a blow job in the utility room whilst dinner was in the over and DC was captivated with Harry Potter in the front room. Asking him to go and wash would ruin spontaneity...

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