Do people really make their partners "wash their willy"?

[Blurby]

Years ago I was friends with a girl who casually mentioned in a conversation that when she and her boyfriend are in the throws, and she decides to perform fellatio (great word), she'd make him wash his willy first.

I've now, ten years later, stumbled across a similar comment being made on a TV show I'm watching. This time the guy is required to do so before any sexual encounter.

Maybe I'm just lucky because my husband is a well-kept, clean guy...

AIBU to think that willy washing before sex etc. would take away from the moment?

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Lol at the oversharing. When did people become so gullible?

Agree, hook, line and sinker.

Erm... are there lots of men that don't rinse/wipe after peeing?

I think my fiancé would probably rather die than smell or taste of pee...

He's very clean.

Equally, we'd both be pretty offended at being asked to go and wash, and it'd ruin any impromptu ness!

I find a quick squirt of Toilet Duck under the rim does the job nicely.

I remember an interview with Jerry Hall where she said she never showered before bed as Mick liked her 'ripe'...her words, not mine.😳. Do we remove the pheromones when we wash...? Anyone else turned on by the sensory..taste, touch, smell..?

Napoleon?

@Windygate

I'm truly taken aback by those posters suggesting circumcised (mutilated) male genitals are clean. Would you also be suggesting that only FGM females should be allowed oral sex?

Oh there's always one!

Not the same at all. The equivalent of FGM would be a man having the end of his penis chopped off. The entire KNOB. Educate yourself FGS.

This subject always brings out the pearl clutchers, but like some other posters on here, I have a circumcised DH, who had it done voluntarily when he was 21 before I met him. And a circumcised penis (in my experience) is definitely cleaner and better smelling, than a penis with a foreskin. (When it's unwashed AND washed.)

There was always an underlying weird funky stale musty smell on a penis with a foreskin. DH's circumcised penis has never had that smell. Ever.

I'm not apologising for saying this. This is MY experience. And according to a few posts here, it's also the experience of some other women too.

Who are the grown adults who still say “Willy”?

I'm with @Windygate on this. Wtaf is wrong with people that they think mutilated cocks are cleaner?? Wtaf is wrong with men the way they are.

This freaks me out and makes me sad.
I'd hate to think of a man disparaging my vulva because the labia protrude or something or saying I stink because I've not been surgically damaged.

Also for what it's worth, my current partner is intact and is as clean and unsmelly as any circumcised man I've had sex with.

OP posted the question 4 hours ago and hasn't returned. Yet people are still sharing their wank-fodder stories ?!

Why all the twee words like blowie and handie?

I'm with the pp who wonders when people became so gullible.

The amount of people on here who can't spell 'throes'. Read a bloody book

They're too busy erm...

@Pinkblueberry I'm no longer friends with the girl but she would make him wash his willy while she waited for his return, so I don't think she reciprocated the favour...

@themyscira and so you bloody should! Don't let a mingy willy near you first!

@Rainonmyguitar not patronising at all. Just asking what the 'norm' is. Both my partner and I are clean as we wash regularly. I wasn't talking about me as I don't have a willy to wash...

So many of these posts have made me giggle, offered enlightenment into the washing of both male and female genitalia, and made me realise willy washing before or during sex is a lot more common that I thought! Woweee, Mumsnet.

My ‘partner’ said his willy smelt cheesy because he had washed it too much...

@Ifyousayso2019 excellent point 🤣

@Raphael34
My oh doesn’t mind at all and will give it a rinse in the sink

Having an involuntary visual image of him casually flopping it over the basin

I don't make us stop before action for a wash but if I get one whiff of cheesiness when his shorts come off its game over - total turn off. I have mentioned this to him lots of times. He thinks a shower in the morning is enough. I think, if you want the chance of a shag at bedtime, 3 min jump in the shower at bedtime is common courtesy. Its one of few things I dislike about DH.

@rainingallday
I don't need educating and my pearls are just fine.

Back in our student days we'd do anything and everything any time.

Now a days we generally know if sex is part of the evening plans. In which case both of us will walk first.

I personally would much rather know I'm clean before he goes down on me. And vice versa.

Clean body parts is essential for oral. Even one wee and that shower is out of date. My DH is wonderfully well groomed and always smells amazing but I’m not going down if you’ve had even one wee since your last shower! I wouldn’t expect him to go down on me without me being as fresh as a daisy!

I've had two partners, one circumcised and one who wasn't, who always smelt fresh and clean down there.

Of the few others I've had 'facial' relations with the penises of, they've ranged from lightly fragranced but manageable, to oh holy hell why would you think that's acceptable.

And I'm afraid my current OH fits into the last category and clearly needs it looking at, actually.

But he won't.

My BJs are obviously not good enough to warrant him bothering to get it looked at.

I've nothing against a foreskin, I do not believe circumcision at birth without an immediate medical necessity should ever be performed.

But it seems many little boys aren't shown how to look after it on a basic level, not on a level where it might be for reasons of a sexual nature. And they turn into men like mine

I keep a bottle of zoflora and a minky to hand.

No chance unless his mince is rinsed.

DustyMaiden
I now have Mrs hinch’s voice in my head narrating a rather odd type of cleaning insta story