Do people really make their partners "wash their willy"?

[Blurby]

Years ago I was friends with a girl who casually mentioned in a conversation that when she and her boyfriend are in the throws, and she decides to perform fellatio (great word), she'd make him wash his willy first.

I've now, ten years later, stumbled across a similar comment being made on a TV show I'm watching. This time the guy is required to do so before any sexual encounter.

Maybe I'm just lucky because my husband is a well-kept, clean guy...

AIBU to think that willy washing before sex etc. would take away from the moment?

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I make my lovers dunk their penises in a 50/50 zoflora/ bicarbonate and vinegar solution, before popping them in the dishwasher on a hot wash, and leaving to airdry on a sterilised rack. I then sometimes spritz them with dettol, just to be sure.

This is what people mean by Chemsex isn’t it?

I am so lucky to have a bloke that doesn’t think that BJs are the greatest. But yes- a clean cock and clean vulva are the way to go for everyone

I should also add now I've thought about it some more I don't MAKE him do anything. Nor would I ever. I asked once if he would mind rinsing it and he has continued to do that. Out of respect I do the same.

I did have a lover who was very into 'rimming,' and towards the end I did have to ask him to have a wash beforehand- couldn't bring myself to do it otherwise!

@thesheep I literally laughed out loud at that lol

Never asked ex or previous ex's to do so and luckily never encountered a dirty cock. Ex always showered and I think he used to give it another wash before bed. But I've given oral after a nights out clubbing and still never remember it being unclean I could have just been too drunk to notice though.

Like wise I bath or shower at least once a day if not twice, have never felt the need to have another wash before getting intimate, unless I'd just got back from the gym or a run and ex would be trying it on, then I'd say I need a quick shower first. He'd usually just join me though.

@Interestedwoman I don't blame you. 🤢
DP is spotless as much as he tries I can't bring myself to rim. 🤣

I use tarpaulin with strategically placed access points for all my sexual encounters. Steam mopped and spritzed with Dettol after, it dries surprisingly quickly.

Quite sad to see so many obsessed with a specific idea of 'clean'. Never crossed my mind and never had issues, either side. We're generally clean enough people. And God I cant imagine a life where even a kiss (a proper kiss) has to be planned by brushing teeth in advance!! I'm glad I've never met any man like that.

I have two delightful phrases which I trot out to DP if ever he needs a reminder.

1. There’s no pheromones in knob cheese.
2. A midday shower doth not a rim job make.

If we’re just doing handies or PIV then it’s a bit more spontaneous, but 9/10 times we both shower before bed so it’s not an issue. I do like the smell of him, armpits, balls etc, but as others have said, stale wee under the foreskin isn’t fragrant, and you’re also in pretty close proximity to the arsehole if you’re doing it right, so I’d prefer he’s had a shower.

Well, though DH is clean, he does wee out of the thing so...I try not to think about the traces of urine I'm ingesting.

@oblada I totally agree, we shower daily but this is just really weird...

I'm truly taken aback by those posters suggesting circumcised(mutilated) male genitals are clean. Would you also be suggesting that only FGM females should be allowed oral sex?

Washing is respectful, imo. How/when/where it's done by my partner is none of my business; and vice versa.

If my DP is after a blowie, he’ll wash it himself, I don’t even have to ask! If it stinks, it’s just ewww.

I have been known to tell DH that there's a BJ up for grabs if he washes his knob. Pretty sure that any offer of a BJ is the opposite of a mood killer. He's never complained anyway!

I dont expect DP to wash his willy but he is a clean person. He has a shower or a bath as soon as he comes in from work so i feel like hes always clean really

I on the other hand, cannot do anything unless ive had a bath or a shower first 🤦‍♀️ i just dont feel clean. DP says its backwards that i have a bath or shower first but i just dont feel clean if i havnt

Maybe I'm just lucky because my husband is a well-kept, clean guy...

That's quite a patronising statement. So is my DH but if he's showered in the morning and we're getting down to it later that evening, I'd still prefer it washed. Would you let your DH down there without washing first?

Lol at the oversharing. When did people become so gullible?

and you’re also in pretty close proximity to the arsehole if you’re doing it right

Are you? I know it’s been a long time but I’ve given a fair number of BJs over the years and I can’t recall once having accidentally encountered an unexpected arsehole. As I recall there’s usually a scrotum twixt dick and bum isn’t there? Shuffles off to ponder.

I won't allow sex unless we're both freshly showered, if he wants a bj he must shower then too.

OMG i like to think im always clean but if there is a hint of a dash of pass i ensure im squeaky clean anyway..

Unless of course I’ve misunderstood and the poster is calling her DH an arsehole.

I just wouldn’t go there unless a shower was recent. Same for me. We both shower before bed anyway.

I find if I ‘rinse’ my mouth with wine enough then it all tastes fine