Truly single-sex bra fittings for DD13

[Secretsquirrelshh]

Inspired by threads on here re: mixed sex fitting rooms, I need to find somewhere for DD13 (very shy, incredibly embarrassed by EVERYTHING) to have her first ever bra fitting.

M&S is obviously right out, and we don't have a lovely independent shop anywhere near us.

I see John Lewis no longer enforce single-sex changing spaces.

Does anyone have any recommendations of nationwide stores that do truly single-sex bra fittings?

@Secretsquirrelshh where did you end up going please? I need to take my teen DD for her first fitting and I also want it to be a dignified rite of passage, not an embarrassed scramble. I can't believe how many women on the feminism board don't get this. ☹️

I've booked an M&S fitting for next week - I've booked the first fitting of the day, in the hope the store is quieter, and in the "special requests" box, I've put that we would like a single sex space. I'm sure it will go without a hitch, but I'll update once we've been.

If that goes, er, badly, I wonder about trying to find a very small bra shop that only has a 1 person changing room. Then even if men are allowed to use it, they can't be using it at the same time.

That's not a prejudice against trans people as long as you're OK with a woman who wishes she was a man turning up in the women's changing room.

There's nothing wrong with being prejudiced against men who enter women's spaces. Inherently, they are up to no good because they are behaving in a way that violates our privacy.

Whats wrong with M and S?

Atleast at my local M and S the bra fitting changing rooms were separate from the main changing rooms!

Does anyone even do bra fittings’ now???? Just measure yourself, buy a couple of sizes around that measurement from Tesco/ Sainsbury/Primark and take back the wrong size.

You could at least read the OP's posts to see why she wants her DD to learn from a fitter what a good bra feels like. It would be even better if you read the whole thread, in which I and other posters have explained that a fitting does not actually involve a tape measure.

...well, obviously they do... Otherwise there'd be no bra fitting services available...

DD13 had her bra fitting today at M&S.

It wasn't a great start - we got there 5 minutes early, as requested in the booking email, and the customer service assistant was borderline rude, telling us that the fitter was on her break and she didn't know when she'd be back. She sent us to wait at the fitting room in the ladies' department - which was out of order.

I said to DD that it may be if the women's floor changing room was out of order, that they try and fit her in the men's floor changing room (upstairs), and there may be men around but nobody would be able to come into her cubicle - how did she feel about that? It was a hard no from her, she didn't want men anywhere near her.

As it turned out, there was a lingerie fitting room at the back of the store (though the signage had recently been removed / altered - so goodness knows what it will be re-labelled to). Two of the cubicles had locking doors, two just had curtains. We were taken into the accessible (disability) changing room which only had a curtain, as it was larger and I had to go in with her because she was underage.

It was all absolutely fine. The fitter was nice. Nobody else was in the changing area. We got her a bra (28A - so not nothing, which is what I was worrying about from her ego's perspective!).

I will keep an eye on the refurb they've got going on - as it looks like they've deliberately removed the lettering about the lingerie fitting room for some reason.

It's still shitty that there's nowhere I could guarantee to DD that she wouldn't bump into a boy from school trying on jeans, or a male teacher from school in the next cubicle whilst she felt vulnerable.

In other news I had a lovely dream last night where I was best friends with JKR, so that's something. 😂