thank you for so many kind replies! I did indeed make a Upton style contemporaneous note by texting DH all details - best bit is will have been recorded on CCTV so unarguable and they can’t brush it off.it made me realise side rooms actually feel less safe, if you’re in a bay with a male invasion (shorthand!) other people will also shout but in a side room if the door is closed no one will hear you scream (isn’t that a line from a film?) and pressing your nurse call button doesn’t usually elicit a quick response unfortunately as we all know! I had an emergency alarm button attached to me as well as as the standard nurse call button but didn’t get time to press it as it was sorted so quickly thankfully.but again I would have been slower than the average person even accounting for the delay due to shock. it’s very lucky I was in a side room with monitoring so if the security hadn’t been there it would have been noticed asap but it was a specialist ward, other side rooms aren’t like that. I don’t think side rooms are actually safer for women now unless the total zero men approach is implemented. but I know specialist wards will usually always have to be mixed as it’s not practical to two separate wards esp with all equipment. But i think these are where a lot of patients are probably more vulnerable (Q for knottys thread!) ironically. and it doesn’t stop male doctors like Upton. the thought of being in a side room with him now genuinely seriously gives me chills esp as doctors automatically close doors to protect patients privacy when they come in.
I do feel bad as i do believe this man had no ill intent - im not going NAMALT but the sad thing is it’s ALWAYS men that’s why women are afraid. My fave word atm seems to be irony - it’s ironic tho he is the one knocking down their house of cards and will probably end up making women safer. but it’s Peggy who started the knocking down so the credit is hers, he’s just the tool (literally
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anyway I’ll stop derailing - It’ll be a slow process but I’ll let you know the outcome of my complaint, how lucky it will have been captured on camera.