I don't want this claim by @bathhy to get lost in a thread that will no doubt go along the usual lines.
"As a trans woman mother who uses Mumsnet, I would never recommend coming here."
Trans women can never be the mother of any child. We women, the trans widows who are usually your exes, who give birth to those children are their mother and always will be.
If you adopt a child, you can be the child's parent, but as a male you are not the child's mother.
Trans widows say no to having our status and legal responsibility as mother taken from us.
Women here must not allow forced teaming from men who wish to appropriate our status as the mothers of our children.
Every woman here should consider how they would feel if the father of their child after having taken so much from them already, then demanded to be called "Mum."