I'm done

[CouthyMow]

DD school refused this morning. First she refused to give DS1 back his iPod that he had kindly lent to her yesterday because hers is broken.

I insisted she give it back. She then decided

im ringing nspcc. hang on.....

Nope. Nobody will have a fucking clue where DD is. It only takes 15 minutes to get from the YOTS building in town to here on foot, so technically DD should be here by now...

My GP is, unfortunately, both shitter than shit AND across town by bus, and I won't get there before it closes tonight.

Ah crap.
You must be so worried.
And seething.

REally don't know what to say.

Yes, contact your GP if they are any good??

anon btw....not giving details couthy...just getting some advice for you

Ah.
x-post.
Nix the GP idea then.

Vicar. I'm in bits, waiting for the door to go, waiting to see if I'm faced with anger or tears...

It's the only thing I can think of.

Vicar is of much more practical use

couthy im getting you a contact to speak with at NSPCC....just bear with me and i will pm you with their name and number, ok? hang on a min.

this is outrageous. im livid for you.

I don't know what to say either. Well done Vicar. My DD is a similarish age Couthy, I can only imagine how you feel.

So if she was discharged into SS and her solicitor's care, Couthy has said she is unable to have her due to safeguarding her other DC's and her DD has been released not into the care of a responsible adult and hasn't come home, can she be reported to the Police as missing ?

xxx

couthy - ring me. - you still have my number from yesterday.

The SW LIED. They didn't release DD. She's still sat in Reception at Social Care.

I think that that was a ploy to get me to say that she'd have yo come back...

I've spoken to a different SW, they are finding an emergency placement fir DD.

FUCK ME, maybe I DO have nerves of fucking steel after all...

What?

Seriously, that's sick.

OK. Bright side. She's safe. You're safe. Your boys are safe. She's not coming home tonight.

See, can I be v smug and say I'd been wondering whether that might be the case?
FFS.
I bet you aged 10 years in the last hour or so.

Really, you need that

Yy to looking at the bright side.

Fucking hell. See, miraculously they can do it outrageous that they lied!!
I'm glad she's safe x

And yes, when the dust has settled, I WILL be putting in a MEGA official complaint. I HAVE been taking down the SW's names, at least I've had the presence of mind and prior experience of SS to do that, in case I needed to make a complaint...

How do they get away with this?

couthy i know you are not getting my pms in full
ive pmd you my number again.

can you call me? i dont want to post numbers on line in case it outs you.

Frist thing you MUST do if she hasnt arrived home is call 999 and report her as missing.
asap. crucial.

then i have the OOH emergency social workers number for you. You need to contact them - yesterday they wouldnt help as she was in a place of ssafetly - she isnt now so they must act.

there is a lady at the NSPCC waiting for you call to help you with this - her name is Cynthia. call 0808 800 5000. she says she is happy to talk to you and help you but if she is on another call then anyone can help. Cynthia would be good as ive appraised her.

the OOH number you need for SS is 0845 606 1212. Its after 5pm so this number will be what you need.

1 - call police - report her missing
2 - call cynthia - she will help you. she was brilliant on the phone.
3 - OOH social services. or let NSPCC help you do that.

then you MUST complain officially when this is over. NSPCC can help with that too....but for now do steps 1 - 3 ASAP.

That poor girl walking the streets in her onesie. Does she have any money or her phone on her?

Really really glad she's safe and they are finding her somewhere and yes you definitely have balls of steel. It is utterly outrageous though.