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Xenophobia, homophonic, transphobia

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spstchmu · 29/06/2026 01:52

Are you gonna do anything about it? Like, i know the line is that shoving the madness in the feminism board means it's not transphobia. And I know it's been done to death but I'm sick of it. It's not acceptable. Xenophobia, racism and homophobia also increasing.
And no. I won't leave. This is the biggest forum of its kind and it needs to represent and respect us all. And care that it's not.

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Chersfrozenface · 01/07/2026 16:00

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:58

You’ve referred to a trans woman as a man. Bit of a giveaway.

Transwomen are men, born male. It's the only way to be a transwoman.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/07/2026 16:00

Also “the premise of the argument is disputed” - you’re the one making the extraordinary claim here, not GC feminists who recognise that men as a sex have a particular pattern of violent and sexual crime and harassment of women and girls, regardless of how those men choose to identify.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/07/2026 16:01

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:58

You’ve referred to a trans woman as a man. Bit of a giveaway.

A giveaway that she doesn’t share your belief in gender identity ideology? I don’t think it’s a secret.

Itchthescratch · 01/07/2026 16:04

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:58

You’ve referred to a trans woman as a man. Bit of a giveaway.

A Trans woman is a man. It's biological fact. What do you expect people to refer to them as?

callmeLoretta1 · 01/07/2026 16:07

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:53

You’ve decided what you think. Nothing I say will make the slightest bit of difference.

And you've decided what you think. Nothing we say will make the slightest bit of difference. You came onto this thread with a closed mind.

callmeLoretta1 · 01/07/2026 16:09

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:58

You’ve referred to a trans woman as a man. Bit of a giveaway.

Transwomen are males with penis and testicles. They are men in every single way; anatomy-wise, chromosome and DNA-wise, lived experience-wise. They are men. That's a biological fact of life. So you're upset that we say water is wet and 2+2=4.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 01/07/2026 16:10

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:58

You’ve referred to a trans woman as a man. Bit of a giveaway.

Being a man is literally the only prerequisite to being a trans woman. The only requirement.

callmeLoretta1 · 01/07/2026 16:13

Is this a woman, @Darker ?

Xenophobia, homophonic, transphobia
Differentforgirls · 01/07/2026 16:43

Darker · 01/07/2026 07:45

This is mumsnet. Not Stonewall.

So many arguments here are not arguments at all - just deflection.

I hear almost nothing on these boards that genuinely take into account the needs of trans and non-binary men and women. I hear ‘not my problem’ a lot. And if you ignore them, the problems won’t be resolved.

You’ll be forever scanning peoples faces and bodies to see if they might be trans, and people will be doing the same to you.

My advice, for what it’s worth, is leave them to it. They don’t really interact with any other part of the site.

ChamonixMountainBum · 01/07/2026 17:16

Darker · 01/07/2026 14:44

I would say you are all just proving my point, which is that debate is futile because the premise of the argument is disputed.

Many women tried to debate this issue a decade ago, instead they got death and rape threats, social media pile ons, doxxing and their livelihoods threatened all while Stonewall and a myriad of captured institutions turned a blind eye or enthusiastically endorsed the 'no debate' policy.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/07/2026 17:38

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:53

You’ve decided what you think. Nothing I say will make the slightest bit of difference.

I have decided human beings cannot change sex - they can have hormones and plastic surgery, but they remain their birth sex in every cell of their body, in their skeleton, musculature, endocrine system - none of which can be changed to the other sex by any medical or surgical means, @Darker. Can you prove otherwise?

I have decided women and girls are safer if spaces like changing rooms, toilets, hospital wards, prison cells remain single sex, and no male-bodied people are allowed in. Can you prove otherwise?

I have decided that trans ideology is deeply rooted in old-fashioned, toxic stereotypes of masculinity and femininity, and it is far more progressive to say that a boy can like pink, skirts, frills, make up, long hair and hate rough sports, getting grubby, rough and tumble - and this doesn’t make them a girl - they should be allowed to be a boy with their own individual character. A boy/man is someone with male biology and any character, not someone with any biology and a masculine character, and a girl/woman is someone with female biology and any character not any biology and a feminine character.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 01/07/2026 17:59

ChamonixMountainBum · 30/06/2026 14:21

Good luck waiting for an answer.

I’m still waiting…

Shedmistress · 01/07/2026 18:10

Differentforgirls · 01/07/2026 16:43

My advice, for what it’s worth, is leave them to it. They don’t really interact with any other part of the site.

Just had a quick look at my 'threads im on'

Ama, chat, AIBU, legal, litter tray. All other parts of the site.

Though what not interacting with other parts of an Internet forum has to do with the ability to explain what the difference between men and men who say they are women is, i have no idea...dont tell me, you cant explain that either.

There's always this complete inability to explain anything. Weird.

Theunchosenone · 01/07/2026 18:36

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:58

You’ve referred to a trans woman as a man. Bit of a giveaway.

But I have been told that I as a woman cannot be a transwoman. Therefore the only people who can be transwomen are men aren’t they?

BabblingBiddy · 01/07/2026 19:18

Theunchosenone · 01/07/2026 18:36

But I have been told that I as a woman cannot be a transwoman. Therefore the only people who can be transwomen are men aren’t they?

I was told the same. I asked if I could have facial hair removal funded by the NHS. I can't, but TW can because it's apparently "distressing" for them. Obviously us women with PCOS see our beards as a fun add on!

If you don't have to be a man in order to be a TW, how do I convince my GP that I am one?

GriseldaandMike · 01/07/2026 19:24

Darker · 01/07/2026 15:58

You’ve referred to a trans woman as a man. Bit of a giveaway.

The established definition of 'woman' is an adult, female human.

If you believe that some males are women what is you definition of woman?

rosa17 · 01/07/2026 19:33

spstchmu · 29/06/2026 01:52

Are you gonna do anything about it? Like, i know the line is that shoving the madness in the feminism board means it's not transphobia. And I know it's been done to death but I'm sick of it. It's not acceptable. Xenophobia, racism and homophobia also increasing.
And no. I won't leave. This is the biggest forum of its kind and it needs to represent and respect us all. And care that it's not.

Absolutely right - this site is a cesspit of ignorance. Mumsnet won't do anything about it though, they've made that clear. The reputation for bigotry that this site now has doesn't seem to bother them.
And as for the so called 'feminists' - why do you bother pretending you're not transphobic. It's the whole basis of the FWR board that has misinformation from far right sites, bully anyone who disagrees with you, and then complain that you have no friends in the real world because everyone except you is 'captured'.
If anyone has the temerity to post about actual women's rights you shoehorn transphobia in until anyone serious leaves. Horrors the lot of you - and not worth bothering with really.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/07/2026 19:36

The ignorance is saying human beings can change sex, @rosa17, or that women and girls do not need and deserve single sex spaces.

spstchmu · 01/07/2026 19:37

rosa17 · 01/07/2026 19:33

Absolutely right - this site is a cesspit of ignorance. Mumsnet won't do anything about it though, they've made that clear. The reputation for bigotry that this site now has doesn't seem to bother them.
And as for the so called 'feminists' - why do you bother pretending you're not transphobic. It's the whole basis of the FWR board that has misinformation from far right sites, bully anyone who disagrees with you, and then complain that you have no friends in the real world because everyone except you is 'captured'.
If anyone has the temerity to post about actual women's rights you shoehorn transphobia in until anyone serious leaves. Horrors the lot of you - and not worth bothering with really.

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/07/2026 19:38

Misogynists are people who give away hard won women’s rights to men.

Shedmistress · 01/07/2026 20:00

rosa17 · 01/07/2026 19:33

Absolutely right - this site is a cesspit of ignorance. Mumsnet won't do anything about it though, they've made that clear. The reputation for bigotry that this site now has doesn't seem to bother them.
And as for the so called 'feminists' - why do you bother pretending you're not transphobic. It's the whole basis of the FWR board that has misinformation from far right sites, bully anyone who disagrees with you, and then complain that you have no friends in the real world because everyone except you is 'captured'.
If anyone has the temerity to post about actual women's rights you shoehorn transphobia in until anyone serious leaves. Horrors the lot of you - and not worth bothering with really.

You are free to correct this 'far right misinformation' at any point. Crack on.

Theunchosenone · 01/07/2026 20:01

spstchmu · 01/07/2026 19:37

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But at least I can spell homophobic…. Just sayin 😁😁😁

spstchmu · 01/07/2026 20:22

Theunchosenone · 01/07/2026 20:01

But at least I can spell homophobic…. Just sayin 😁😁😁

More fool you, i was shooting for homophobia

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/07/2026 20:28

If standing up for the rights to safety, privacy and dignity of women and girls is “transphobic”, The TRAs have torpedoed their own movement more than anyone else even could imagine.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 01/07/2026 20:28

Talking of homophobia, how’s “it’s wrong to be exclusively same sex attracted” going?

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