Pag as ever, explains the one of the huge problems in recent times on MM "I think mnhq have struggled for a long time to find a policy which supports posters and does not tolerate disablist post but which tolerates discussion around difficult topics".
I think we have to accept that times change and sadly, people change. MN is no different from RL really and there seem to be more twats around there too. As a result of this I don't really post in the SN section anymore - it's a shame as they were a lifeline to our family 8-10 years ago and a mine of useful information and support. I've tried to "give it back" but have given up really. I stick to
Going on about discussing cats, perfume, books and Christmas. I certainly never click on the wheelchair/blue badge/parking/terrible children anymore.
The final straw really was when I was accused of having "a disablist tone" almost as amusing as being called LaQueen as a. I really don't and b. I was sitting in my wheelchair at the time 
and c. was actually posting in defence of wheelchair users!
There are still a load of good things about MN, for me, as I stick to happy stuff. Yesterday I got a lovely little package from a MNer which made me extraordinarily happy, and I'm sending one off to someone to "pay it forward". I had a thread recently under a NC when I was stressed about health stuff and got some lovely hair stroking replies.
I NC regularly which I didn't do until a few years ago and try just to stick to happy stuff (failed spectacularly last night obvs 
) and really try (another fail) not to get sucked in to fighting with any knobheads. I think if people tried to be kind and not a twat, MN and RL could be more pleasant.
For me, the problem of the Reddit thing is that people are pleased they can be as cruel and as mean as they like under the guise of "saying what we want with no mods". I don't think it's that they are a little fucked off with MN modding (as lots of us are) they want to get away with saying shit you can't say on here for good reason (e.g. outing people).
So my take is, well take your bat and ball and fuck off and bitch as much as you want. All the better for MN (but nice posters are being sucked in not realising the shit some people have been saying there!) It's tricky. For 'me, I want more (or maybe just quicker) modding of people trolling and I would like to see MN go that way.
If people want the freedom to speculate on boards if posters are "real" or if they openly want to insult people by calling them twats or dicks, or accuse them of socking on the very flimsiest of thinking (LaQueen! PMSL!) then go ahead and get to Reddit.
MN has given me a lot over the years and I choose to give them a chance to take on board peoples' genuine concerns about trolling and act on them. Like RL, I am more careful who I interact with and protect myself by perhaps moderating my own natural inclinations to handbag with people I take the risk that NCing regularly lessens the feeling of friendship and "knowing" people. And I try to stay the fuck away from AIBU!