Word of advice to MNHQ #2

[BackieJerkhart]

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Totally agree with Polter

should we nominate this thread for classics, then?

I also think tha5 for things to change people have to stop seeing MN as some sort of safe space. It isn't and never has been.

It is an anonymouus internet forum that is open to all.

I also think that posters have to an extent understand that not everyone is going to agree with them. Some one having a different view to you isn't nasty, unhelpful or unsympathetic they just see it differently.

Being supportive doesn't equal agreeing.

CatTheifKeith, recently deceased MNer

Thank you.Thays what I thought but then wondered why there would be a thread about her as the poor woman has just passed away.

The discussion was a couple of weeks ago so before she passed away.

Ah right Offmen thank you.

Dame someone started a thread on Reddit asking if she was a troll before she died. Thankfully most posters disagreed and thought she was lovely.

When she died it was immediately taken down. No discussion, just efficiently removed, which is as it should be.

Pleased to hear it Saucery

It doesn't appear to be quite the hotbed of vicious sniping it's being portrayed as on here. There may be some of that as I haven't been through every post, but it's by no means all nastiness. Must be hard to read stuff about yourself on there, I suppose , but it's not 'you' they are talking about, just 'your' online persona.

Still, it's all open, no secret bits, so if you have time and inclination anyone can have a look for themselves. I won't link again though as I get the impression people are going to start to be banned for doing so.

bubble

I think official punishment is being hit round the head with your file

Which is really unfortunate...'COS YOURS IS MAAASSSSSIIIVVVEEE!!!

Fact

Lots of really good ideas and opinions here, but to change done we need hq to listen?

I understand it must be a nightmare to manage and moderate this site however I do feel to be taken seriously and To be trusted and respected hq need to rise above the snarling. In a difficult situation they should be the voice of reason working within a set of values that promotes equality, openness, transparency and equality

I have managed staff for a number of years( I understand this is in a much different scale) and have had to deal with arseholes, conflict etc and I have always had to show a professional approach, I can never allow myself to sink to their level

How can we move on when we are only hearing one side of the story and decisions appear to be made in such an autocratic manner?

Fact.

Rufus

Your file has its own postcode!!!!

Agree with just about every last post

piglets last post especially resonates

I think mumsnet was started as all mates together and still has abit of that reputation but its grown so large it cant possible be like that anymore

There are too many boards

Something I don't understand is when HQ come on a trolly thread and say they will be taking it down why does it sometimes then take forever to go? Surely,it can be frozen if taking it down will take a while?

I really wanted to put fact after my last post...but i was being serious

christina

Your file can be seen from space

Fact

Feel quite chuffed at that

And your file is so big its gravitational pull affects the tides

Fact

Good post, Polter - glad you kept a copy of it because it's certainly worth having it available for all to read.

I don't think the Stratters' ban was at all in keeping with the spirit of MN - I think that she purely got up MNHQ's nose because she kept reporting one particular poster, for really quite unpleasant posts, and they got fed up with it. Then she was suspended because she wouldn't stop reporting that one poster - she wasn't trollhunting on the open thread, she wasn't doing anything wrong, she was doing what MNHQ have asked everyone to do - report. I know most people know this now but really the whole vendetta against her is ridiculous.
She has been a great poster, her support and advice has been invaluable re. birds and other animals, but all this is as nothing in comparison with her wish to have vulnerable posters protected from some unpleasantly snidey comments on their threads, which is somehow the Wrongest Thing Ever in MNHQ's eyes.

I'm disappointed in MNHQ's responses. Not that they or anyone else cares, but this seems to have become personal against Stratters and how can that be anything other than unprofessional?

bubbles

I think you will be ok....the gin shelf will be your saving grace

To be fair - a large number of users on here will have Reddit accounts, net mum's accounts etc.

Ridicule of Netmums, including their moderation is par for the course on here and has been for many years - and I've never been aware of any moderation around that. As far as I know, Netmums hasn't banned users for saying these things here either.

So seems like the Reddit situation has struck a nerve in some way. I'm not saying it's great, but I am curious why the reaction seems so much greater?

A similar situation happened a while back with a thread I started on Reddit and at the time linked here - someone on that thread was rather nasty to a mn poster and from then on it was referred to here as "that Reddit post (my post) that was nasty to x mner". Weirdly I didn't get a ban, warning, or anything, so it shows the difference in the reaction.