Married with multiple sex partners

[Multijoy]

Long term poster, (woman in late forties, married to man), NC for this.

Two things to say up front:

1. No, I don't think this makes me cool or that it is right for everybody. Completely respect that many people would not want to do this. But it's maybe interesting to some people to ask about.

1. My lifestyle is 100% honest and transparent with everybody involved and mutually enjoyed by all. I have never cheated, and will never cheat. I have been cheated on in the past and it was devastating. This is a radically different thing.

Ask away and I'll do my best to answer all questions.

@Multijoy I've just discovered this thread (after someone pointed out there's a sex section). I think it's great you started this so people can ask questions. It's still so shrouded in mystery. I'm poly and more looking for relationships than pure sex, playing about 50/50 separate or group sex at our kink club. I've never felt any jealousy with DP but I have on occasions with other Ps, I think as we've been together 17 years the trust there is huge and nothing worries us, but jealousy is the most common thing I'm asked about. That and time management 😂 I see partners one evening a week, and often one joint night out with DP, so planning is essential.

Do you have kids, @lilkitten ? That just makes the logistics 10x crazier!

I do, so obviously they're top priority, and so I only go out once a week and have to pick who to see. I'm always home before I would normally go to bed, so they don't notice anything. Worse though is they NEVER notice when DP goes out, he could get away with a lot more than once a week! Sometimes I can manage a coffee meet with partners on my lunch break too. It's not always sex-related either, tomorrow's date will be a drinks date (4th date, no more than a kiss yet, I'm not quick).

Once a week each is pretty impressive :)

To be fair, since my partners are all either poly or incredibly busy, some weeks it's more staying at home reading :-) But it is nice to have more of a social life than I had in my 30s