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Being open about penis size with male partners

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BobOn · 28/06/2023 23:26

Just wondering how many people are open about penis size preferences with their male partners?

DW is now very open about what she likes, however it’s taken her years to get over the “lie to protect his fragile male ego” upbringing.

We now have a much better sex life as a result.

so, for women that have a preference, just wondering how open you are about this? or for blokes, do you feel you’d want to know?

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OneSassyQuoter · 02/05/2025 07:49

AtYourPleasure · 29/04/2025 14:54

"Your tits are amazing - just like everyone else's" isn't much of a compliment either!

An interesfing perspective.

Not every guy likes big breasts. Some prefer small. Some prefer dufferent shapes with large areola or small. And so on.

So a guy may absolutely and genuinely fjnd your breasts to be the most attractive he has seen. So his comment would be truthful.

I guess our insecurities can skew our realities so much and blind us.

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 08:07

OneSassyQuoter · 02/05/2025 07:49

An interesfing perspective.

Not every guy likes big breasts. Some prefer small. Some prefer dufferent shapes with large areola or small. And so on.

So a guy may absolutely and genuinely fjnd your breasts to be the most attractive he has seen. So his comment would be truthful.

I guess our insecurities can skew our realities so much and blind us.

Possibly. But I was referring to a poster on here saying that "all tits are amazing regardless of size, shape, so any boob related compliment is always genuine and literally true."

That just makes the compliment a bit meh. He doesn't prefer big, small, different shapes etc. He just likes them all. They're all good.

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 09:01

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 08:07

Possibly. But I was referring to a poster on here saying that "all tits are amazing regardless of size, shape, so any boob related compliment is always genuine and literally true."

That just makes the compliment a bit meh. He doesn't prefer big, small, different shapes etc. He just likes them all. They're all good.

Men can't win.

W: "My tits are bad."
M: "They can't be, all tits are good."
W: "That's not a good enough compliment"

This is why we put the headphones on and keep quiet. Everything we say is wrong so we just avoid talking.

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 09:24

Everything we say is wrong so we just avoid talking.

If only!!! 😁

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 09:50

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 09:01

Men can't win.

W: "My tits are bad."
M: "They can't be, all tits are good."
W: "That's not a good enough compliment"

This is why we put the headphones on and keep quiet. Everything we say is wrong so we just avoid talking.

Edited

I'd rather not be complimented at all!

But by complimenting her boobs and then saying "but all boobs are good" you're taking away any specialness, any uniqueness. It's now pretty meaningless. Now your girl knows for sure that it's not just her boobs that turn you on. It's everyone else's.

I don't need to be complimented on how a particular body part looks. I just don't. I'm totally cool with that.

Adidas105 · 02/05/2025 10:00

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 09:50

I'd rather not be complimented at all!

But by complimenting her boobs and then saying "but all boobs are good" you're taking away any specialness, any uniqueness. It's now pretty meaningless. Now your girl knows for sure that it's not just her boobs that turn you on. It's everyone else's.

I don't need to be complimented on how a particular body part looks. I just don't. I'm totally cool with that.

This thread is about penis size, not boob's. That can be another thread. Any man here care to say how many inches you are when fully erect? I'll start. 6 inches. Now, is that enough for the ladies on this forum? Thoughts?

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 10:03

I'd rather not be complimented at all!

AYP, it's really wonderful how you don't want compliments. Truly admirable humility. You must be a wonderful person.

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 10:04

Adidas105 · 02/05/2025 10:00

This thread is about penis size, not boob's. That can be another thread. Any man here care to say how many inches you are when fully erect? I'll start. 6 inches. Now, is that enough for the ladies on this forum? Thoughts?

Well that's the first date conversation sorted.

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 10:10

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 10:03

I'd rather not be complimented at all!

AYP, it's really wonderful how you don't want compliments. Truly admirable humility. You must be a wonderful person.

No, I'm far from being a wonderful person. I'm just one who doesn't need my body parts complimented. Especially when some posters think that a compliment should be a lie.

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 10:11

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 10:10

No, I'm far from being a wonderful person. I'm just one who doesn't need my body parts complimented. Especially when some posters think that a compliment should be a lie.

You might have missed the gag.

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 10:14

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 10:11

You might have missed the gag.

Yeah, I'm not in the mood for any of this.

Nice speaking to you but I'm done now.

Reidwood · 02/05/2025 11:01

@BobOn my girth and veinous look is what I get commented about most…everyone is different and have preferences , it’s simple…it’s how both partners are confident and explore to mutually explore their sexual desires ✊🏿

AVlow · 02/05/2025 12:11

Insecure about boobs? Boobs has to do with visual attraction. And you can change your boob size if you want. Women can change most of their looks with money. So can men in terms of looks except height. And men need to be closer to a 10 since women rate 95 % of men as unattractive based on looks while most men will go for a 6-8 as a perfect girl.

Penis size is not about looks. Sure women love the look of a big dick. But unlike boobs or hair or ass or noses, dicks is the thing that influence pleasure in bed. So you can’t compare boobs and dicks for crying out loud.

best thing, yes, would be that men just inform about their size on first date so that guys like me could get an honest no directly. Problem is, as we have seen here, women don’t answer truthfully. You say ”you are just fine” to guys that can’t compete with bigger exes, and then both the woman abd the man pay the price

Adidas105 · 02/05/2025 12:24

AVlow · 02/05/2025 12:11

Insecure about boobs? Boobs has to do with visual attraction. And you can change your boob size if you want. Women can change most of their looks with money. So can men in terms of looks except height. And men need to be closer to a 10 since women rate 95 % of men as unattractive based on looks while most men will go for a 6-8 as a perfect girl.

Penis size is not about looks. Sure women love the look of a big dick. But unlike boobs or hair or ass or noses, dicks is the thing that influence pleasure in bed. So you can’t compare boobs and dicks for crying out loud.

best thing, yes, would be that men just inform about their size on first date so that guys like me could get an honest no directly. Problem is, as we have seen here, women don’t answer truthfully. You say ”you are just fine” to guys that can’t compete with bigger exes, and then both the woman abd the man pay the price

Just ask to see it. A sort of see before you suck or blow....

Adidas105 · 02/05/2025 12:32

Adidas105 · 02/05/2025 12:24

Just ask to see it. A sort of see before you suck or blow....

Exactly. My ex was with a guy who had a 9 incher. Jealous ? Of course I bloody well was. She had photographic proof from the days of 35mm cameras.

ZeldaOlivia · 02/05/2025 12:38

Adidas105 · 02/05/2025 12:32

Exactly. My ex was with a guy who had a 9 incher. Jealous ? Of course I bloody well was. She had photographic proof from the days of 35mm cameras.

You forgot to switch accounts before replying to yourself there

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 12:46

best thing, yes, would be that men just inform about their size on first date so that guys like me could get an honest no directly. Problem is, as we have seen here, women don’t answer truthfully. You say ”you are just fine” to guys that can’t compete with bigger exes, and then both the woman abd the man pay the price - Men lie too!!! And if you could get past your obsession with other mens cocks, you'd see that sexual pleasure isn't all about PIV.

Adidas105 · 02/05/2025 12:46

ZeldaOlivia · 02/05/2025 12:38

You forgot to switch accounts before replying to yourself there

I did. Tired. I was trying to reply to AVlow

NCForThatForumM · 02/05/2025 13:33

best thing, yes, would be that men just inform about their size on first date

Agree. That's why I used to pick places with sturdy furniture for first dates, so I could heave my tackle onto the table for display without fear of collapsing it.

Flotin · 02/05/2025 14:25

If he didnt ask and you have no solution (toys, open relationship or something else) what is the goal to talk about it? Dick preference its one thing like all the other things

Reidwood · 02/05/2025 16:07

@Adidas105 hey , u relate to girthy throbbing veinstype like me?

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 18:03

AVlow · 02/05/2025 12:11

Insecure about boobs? Boobs has to do with visual attraction. And you can change your boob size if you want. Women can change most of their looks with money. So can men in terms of looks except height. And men need to be closer to a 10 since women rate 95 % of men as unattractive based on looks while most men will go for a 6-8 as a perfect girl.

Penis size is not about looks. Sure women love the look of a big dick. But unlike boobs or hair or ass or noses, dicks is the thing that influence pleasure in bed. So you can’t compare boobs and dicks for crying out loud.

best thing, yes, would be that men just inform about their size on first date so that guys like me could get an honest no directly. Problem is, as we have seen here, women don’t answer truthfully. You say ”you are just fine” to guys that can’t compete with bigger exes, and then both the woman abd the man pay the price

I think you need to stop doing so much research. You're getting bogged down with numbers that probably aren't indicative of the billions of people on Earth. It's a bit crass of anyone to be rating people on a scale of 1 -10 - male or female. However, if you want to do that... are you really telling me that the only men in relationships are 10's, hung like a donkey and 6'4"?

No, that isn't true. There are plenty of people who may not be considered "10's" and 6'4" (I can't comment on the size of penis) in relationships. Just look around you.

As for boobs not influencing pleasure in bed - I do understand what you're saying but you do understand that they actually do influence pleasure, right? Men get aroused looking at boobs. They enjoy looking at boobs during sex. And that in turn translates into pleasure for the ladies. Oh, and men also pleasure themselves looking at pictures of boobs. And many women get a lot of pleasure from having their boobs/nipples played with. So it isn't just a visual thing.

Look, I totally get where you are coming from with the whole "be honest" mindset. I feel that way myself. It might not be exactly the same scenario as yours but I still feel it - and its not fair of you to invalidate my feelings just because it's boobs and not cock. I still don't want someone to tell me they find something attractive or pleasurable about me if they don't really. I honestly, honestly get it.

Some people are OK with being lied to. We have a male poster on here saying "tell him it's big, even if it isn't." It works for some people. Not me. But some.

AVlow · 02/05/2025 18:46

AtYourPleasure · 02/05/2025 18:03

I think you need to stop doing so much research. You're getting bogged down with numbers that probably aren't indicative of the billions of people on Earth. It's a bit crass of anyone to be rating people on a scale of 1 -10 - male or female. However, if you want to do that... are you really telling me that the only men in relationships are 10's, hung like a donkey and 6'4"?

No, that isn't true. There are plenty of people who may not be considered "10's" and 6'4" (I can't comment on the size of penis) in relationships. Just look around you.

As for boobs not influencing pleasure in bed - I do understand what you're saying but you do understand that they actually do influence pleasure, right? Men get aroused looking at boobs. They enjoy looking at boobs during sex. And that in turn translates into pleasure for the ladies. Oh, and men also pleasure themselves looking at pictures of boobs. And many women get a lot of pleasure from having their boobs/nipples played with. So it isn't just a visual thing.

Look, I totally get where you are coming from with the whole "be honest" mindset. I feel that way myself. It might not be exactly the same scenario as yours but I still feel it - and its not fair of you to invalidate my feelings just because it's boobs and not cock. I still don't want someone to tell me they find something attractive or pleasurable about me if they don't really. I honestly, honestly get it.

Some people are OK with being lied to. We have a male poster on here saying "tell him it's big, even if it isn't." It works for some people. Not me. But some.

Was not my aim to invalidate your feelings. Sorry for that. My feelings are invalidated all the time here by women that have no idea how it is and tell me its some childish ego thing. My ex cheated on me 5 times for bigger D and spent 2 years humiliating me for not being as big as her exes.

My aim was to tell you that you can have just as big boobs as you want. And yes big boobs are nice to look at although I know many guys that don’t care. I would never date someone with more than normal size. But so is hair on a man. I can’t get my hair back, too late for a transplant. That sucks but not as much as my dick. Women will never understand this. Bevcause with some charm and personality some women will overlook my baldness just as I might overlook some thing on a girl like height etc if I feel for her.

but the fact that penis is the tool that fills up a vagina, and women everywhere talk abour how amazing it is with a big man, to then know that I can give 40 % of those vaginal sensations makes me feel like I am not a worthy man or human. I would never drop my pants infront of a woman. I don’t even look at women anymore because I know it’s a lost cause and that I can’t compete. I suffer from depression and spend a fortunr on psycholgists etc.

Western society is built on not saying bad things about women. There are plus sisze models on billboards etc. But with men it’s always ohh big car? He must be compensating, you know what big shoes means, he has small dick energy etc etc etc etc. And all the porn. It’s not me that want to watch a horse dick in porn. So why are all male pornstars hung like horses while the women come in all shapes? Why is cuck porn more and more popular where a man sits and watches the woman he loves being fcked by a bigger man? Psychologists now have evidence that a turnon is not normal for those men that like that. Instead its the humiliating painful feeling of not being man enough that gets twisted with the need to pleasure your partner so it becomes some sort of masochistic self destructive kink as a survival mechanism.

what woman would enjoy her beloved man having sex with women that give him pleasure she can never give? It doesn’t exist. It’s a male cope for the modern dating market. Some guys let their wife sleep around with hung bulls just to save the marriage.

look around you say? Yes most men are bigger than me althoug average. Average won’t be good enough in todays promiscuous society anyway. And in the end 70-80 % of all LTRs end in disaster anyway so why bother. I would never buy a car with those statistics. Especially women my age and younger have been wrecked by dating apps where they get hundreds of matches by men that swipe on everything just to get a few potential matches. The women get a skewed narcissistic view on themselves and demand men to be like moviestars.

It is interesting when women create fake accounts as men and see how it really is.

I’m a single dad, I don’t have time for bars. For some reason, even though I maximized and paid for professional help with my dating profiles, my friends get a few matches and I get zero. I can only relate that to statistcs about bald men being 5 times less likely of matching. So what options do I have left? Stopping women on the street? Not thanks after the #metoo thing. And the courage that would take.

Im just saying, be happy that it’s your boobs. I can assure you there are millions of men out there that give zero fcks about boobs. I just wish women could be more open and just discard the men that are too small instead of the perpetual lie “it’s not the size of the boat bullshit”.

yorkshireteabagman · 02/05/2025 18:57

I have a generous 8 inches, a little over average girth and a large head. My wife is fairly reserved on these things but did comment I had a nice one when we met. I can't make her orgasm from piv so I'm not sure it's changed her life or anything to be honest and I'm sure she'd make me thicker if she had the option. Certain positions are off the menu too 😑

Gymbunny2025 · 02/05/2025 20:11

yorkshireteabagman · 02/05/2025 18:57

I have a generous 8 inches, a little over average girth and a large head. My wife is fairly reserved on these things but did comment I had a nice one when we met. I can't make her orgasm from piv so I'm not sure it's changed her life or anything to be honest and I'm sure she'd make me thicker if she had the option. Certain positions are off the menu too 😑

She’s a lucky lady 😂 but yes 8 inches I’d struggle with certain positions too

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