Does anyone else have no family or friends at all?

[RaspberryBlues]

Does anyone have NO friends or family at all? I realise this is probably extremely unusual but wondered if I was the only one?

That's all very well, but what happens when your DH (or you) die? The other person is going to be left completely and utterly alone with no support network.

I'm a very self sufficient person myself, with no close family (other than my exDH). I do have friends, we don't live in each other's pockets, but if I really needed them they would step up for me, and they are supportive. It really, really, isn't a good thing to isolate yourself from everyone else to be the centre of someone's world.

This reminds of this quote I read once;

Hermits are not born. Hermits are people who need friends, but who’s history of friends is awful.

I will say that the one place I never made any headway at all in making friends , despite doing all the ‘right’ things for six years, and being the same person who has made friends in every other place I’ve ever lived in, was somewhere I lived when DS was little — a large, lively, community-minded village, that on paper should have worked well for us.

But as you say, it turned out to be somewhere where literally everyone else had always lived there, and had always known one another, and their social formations were set in stone. It wasn’t even conscious unfriendliness, I think, just the idea of making new friends being something that just didn’t occur to anyone. I’d grown up in the countryside myself, but it was nothing like this place.

Some places are just not set up for making new friends. Fortunately they’re comparatively rare in my experience.

No friends just acquaintances, my family aren't dead but I moved 600 miles away to protect my peace from them

This.

DH does have a few friends but ultimately we have each other we usually spend time together, majority of the time. He sees friends occasionally. I agree there's nothing to fear with a DH who is not huge on socialising with friends.

You come across fairly unapproachable on this thread, tbh.

I think OP's fed up of being psychoanalysed and I don't blame them!

Thanks

If you take the question at face value she posed, then every answer should just be a yes, me or no, not me.
I'll say no, not me, and get my coat.

The OP asked a straightforward question and is not here to be questioned.

Have you reflected back on previous generations in your family @RaspberryBlues

It is sometimes surprising how patterns repeat themselves, even because of circumstances outside anyone’s control. Like deaths, war, immigration causing separation, and so on.

The thread police have arrived everyone!

No. The OP has asked a straight question and has asked not to be psychoanalysed.

I agree there's nothing to fear with a DH who is not huge on socialising with friends.

What do you mean, though -- 'nothing to fear'? What is it that you would be 'fearing' if you were married to someone who liked seeing his friends, @user1476613140 ?

I'd rather spend most of my time with DH, that's why. If he socialised with several friends, I wouldn't have his company as often.

OK. That sounds very suffocating to me, if you wouldn't want to be alone for a few hours a night or two a week while your DH pursued a hobby or saw friends. What is it that makes you so reluctant to spend time by yourself?

i have my daughter who lives a few hours away and a partner who may as well not be here but I have no friends or family to speak too

No, you're misunderstanding there...I enjoy my own company too. I just also enjoy spending time with DH as well.

I am alone whilst DH is at work but when he's not, we spend time together.

You have a daughter AND partner! being lonely in your relations circle isn't the same as having NO friends or family!