Boyfriend unable to get erection but masturbating to Instagram models

[TheInfamousGrouse]

To the women on here, how would you feel if your boyfriend couldn't get an erection, but was using Instagram models and such like to masturbate regularly?

We've only been seeing each other for 7 months....

Get the hell out. I would never accept that. Can he not see how cold and disrespectful that is? Can you not see it?

After 7 months, I’d throw him back and catch another. Unless there was something that set him apart and he was getting the mental/medical help he clearly needs.

And what has he constructively done about his erection problems? The square root of fuck all I'll bet. Get rid, make an oath never to sleep on crispy sheets again in an effort not to be single. Ugh.

Nah, id have to dump him OP…..i have a healthy sex drive and this would destroy my confidence/self esteem.
its on him though, if he’d rather wank off to insta/porn than have a real sex life then how sad and pathetic is that? 🙄

He was also really odd about kissing me. I would try to kiss him and he would sometimes avoid it, sort of turn his head. A few weeks back, the last time we "tried", he pleasured me, it was nice, OK, obviously not penetration, he seemed to be enjoying giving me pleasure. When I grabbed him afterwards and wanted to kiss him, he turned his head away twice.

I have very good dental hygiene and teeth so I know it can't be that. But just another clue that he isn't into a real relationship that led me to snoop I suppose.

I would be asking myself - what does he want me for then?

Relationships are transactional for men. And yes of course they can be about intimacy but a large part of that is sex. So if that’s not there, what does he want from you? A house? A maid? A beard to hide the fact that he’s into young girls? What?

I think he's lonely and wants company. That's it.

Wondering if it is my ex, did exactly the same thing as well as staying up to message her all through the night in another room...!
It ended because he couldn't stop lying, but this was one of the lies and I felt it was a big one. It clearly was an emotional affair for my ex as he knew her from years ago and went on holiday together very shortly after we split - so I wasn't going mad as he kept saying! Don't be gaslit, he is choosing to use his limited old man boners on someone he isn't sharing a bed with.

He needs to give up the wanking for a bit if he wants to continue the relationship.

Ditch the wanker.

Yeah, I know the feeling. If a guy isn't trying to get you naked and showing how excited he is, it is such a turn off. Makes me lose interest. If it goes on too long, I'd have a word and then end it. Too young to give up on passion.

He's a wanker. Dump him.

I couldn’t be bothered unpicking this or working on it or the relationship. He needs to sort his death grip out most likely

So you are 7 months in, non existent sex life, he is lying to you and perving online over women half his age. Yeah im not seeing why you would want to hang on to this one.

He’s using porn 100%. I would give him an ultimatum- its you and trying to improve things or the porn.

He’s not nearly lonely enough.

He says all men do it
Masturbate? Almost certainly. And, I'm told, most women!
Masturbate over pics of girls on Instagram? No. Don't believe that. He's got to go - as @GiveOverRover said, what a waste of you.

20% don’t do what? No where near 80% of men are like what the op describes. Maybe 20% don’t watch porn. No way can only 20% of the male population achieve an erection through wanking with porn and can’t have sex with their partners. Let’s not pretend like anything with this severity is in any way common

He’s lonely cause he’s a pervert and other woman sussed it out quicker than you did.

The death grip of porn has killed his ability to have a normal sex life. Also, he’s not actually that attracted to you I’m afraid, because really what he wants all the Instagram model types.

Do what a good self-respecting woman should do. Throw this one back and find a new one.

Are there any redeeming features? Life's not a rehearsal, what's the point of this? Move on!

It seems to be coming so common, just makes me feel yuck. There is no way I’d stay. My DP is still very trim and fit at 71 and we still thoroughly enjoy the bedroom regularly and with no blue pills needs. He makes me feel desired and beautiful and cherished, in and out of the bedroom.

I hope you have enough self confidence left to get rid.

Oh god. Get rid of the loser. This isn’t a situation that is going to get better with time. Also, the kissing thing is weird. Just dump him.

What a wrongun

He doesn’t want to kiss you because he’s not attracted to you, he’s attracted to barely legal young women, if not worse.

I wouldn’t even dig any further, just dump him and move on. He and his death grip can keep scrolling instagram.