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Would you message him after a lovely holiday connection went quiet?

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BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 14:04

Name changed obviously as I feel really pathetic.

Recently returned from a solo holiday, met a really lovely man on the Thursday evening (I went home the following Saturday), whilst watching a live band and we chatted for hours about everything and anything. It all felt really natural, he was a little shy but we had a lovely time and I felt comfortable when he offered to walk me back (near to) my apartment. I'd had a few drinks as had he and he asked if I wanted to link arms as I seemed a little unsteady...I probably was to be fair, I was merry but as I don't drink often, it probably takes me much less to get tipsy than others!

Anyhoo, the walk back was 20 mins, in that time we went from linked arms to holding hands, chatted all the way about our jobs, friends, holidays, the fact that we were both single, and ended up sitting on a bench near the apartment until 4.00 a.m. just chatting. It was so lovely. The next morning he messaged me saying he'd had a lovely time and could he see me again, we decided to go and see a singer we'd both talked about the night before, so I met him at 4.30 in a seafront bar, had a couple of cocktails, saw the singer at 6.30 and then he asked if he could buy me dinner. Ended up at the same bar as the night before watching the live band again, didn't stop chatting and laughing and we also had a couple of snogs (discretely, it was very dark). He walked me back again, took a bit longer this time as we were constantly stopping for a kiss, he was a gentlemen, didn't try anything else, walked me to my door, bit more kissing, said he'd love to see when he gets home and then he said he better let me go as I was leaving for the airport at 9 the next day.

He messaged me whilst I was at the airport, said how lovely it had been to meet me and he really wanted to see me again and he'd message/call me when he got home (he was there until Thursday last week). I responded to say I'd really enjoyed meeting him and I'd love to see him again....and then nothing. And still nothing.

I have to say this has really hit me hard and I'm almost embarrassed to admit that, I really liked him and I honestly thought he would get in touch. My friends are in 2 camps, some have said message him (mostly blokes), some have said you messaged last, you made your feelings clear and he DID say he'd message you once home. I have stopped myself from messaging him so many times as I don't want to feel like I'm prompting him, but I would have really liked to see him again. It could have been all bullshit on holiday but then why text me when I'm on my way home.

We're both 52 for context.

WWYD?

OP posts:
Wordsmithery · Yesterday 23:01

So pleased you got a lovely response OP. Good luck with whatever this turns out to be.

And well done for being so patient with the exhausting cynics on here...

Tiredhotmess · Yesterday 23:04

So happy to see your updates and that it's been a positive outcome. I know of 4 couples who started off as holiday romances: 3 of them are now married and the other couple are engaged so who knows where this may lead? 😀

Onwards2627 · Yesterday 23:09

BigSpongyHelmet · Yesterday 18:30

Through gritted teeth, it's taking everything I have not to comment on the last couple!

@Ariel896 I was thinking exactly this. OP @BigSpongyHelmet has the patient of a saint, honestly!

MsAmerica · Yesterday 23:11

LifeTakeTwo · Yesterday 14:09

Message him!

If he doesn't reply then who cares, you'll never see him again anyway.

If he dies reply positively then win win

You don't ask you don't get.

I mostly agree. Wait a few days more. You've got nothing to lose by messaging, as long as you don't tie yourself up in knots over it.

shivermetimbers77 · Yesterday 23:23

I’ve got a good feeling about this OP! Good luck on the date.

TheSmellOfSea · Yesterday 23:30

Lovely update. Hopefully a date soon?

Sensiblesal · Yesterday 23:49

Ooh the romance & excitement of it all. Enjoy your date!

Movingonup313 · Today 00:09

TheSunIsAlwaysThere · Yesterday 18:03

What? How can she wait for a replacement phone to arrive that she doesn't know is coming! Are you quite well?

Yes I am well and what is with the personal attack?

IF the phone was lost/stolen/damaged (and we are just saying its a possibility - ie no-one said it is fact) I would give circa 1 week-10 days from date due home for a new one to be delivered/activated so that I am not inadvertently texting into a cyber hole. Was just my tuppenceworth. Seemed clear to me.

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