H ‘gone fishing’

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H disappeared first thing this morning muttering something about going fishing. By the afternoon I tried to call then sent a message to remind him of something we had on in a couple of hours. Eventually responded to say that he was going to be night fishing & would be back in the morning. In this weather.

On a scale of 1-absolute bullshit, he’s a massive liar isn’t he?! There has been infidelity which he would swear is over.

Absolute knob. Sorry this is happening to you OP

kids tried to video call him, no answer & now his phone is turned off

Would have to get out of the house we’re in within a couple of months. Ignoring the massive competition for rentals, I wouldn’t be able to afford it. Wouldn’t be eligible for council help.
Ignoring the homelessness - I would be absolutely fine looking after the kids by myself, I do anyway. The thought of him being left alone to look after them fills me with absolute dread though

what a load of pollocks

See a lawyer. Soon

Do you know who/where the infidelity was (is)
You any reason to be concerned for his MH?

Bingo!

What an arsehole. I was going to suggest asking him where he is under the pretence of wanting to bring him a hot drink etc but I notice you say his phone is off. Has he admitted any past infidelity? I'm so sorry. I really feel for you. X

Throw him back.

Wow he really thinks you're thick as pig shit doesn't he

He may be cheating but I often walk the dogs past a lake where the fisherman are hardcore and don’t appear to have a home to go to!

There is one guy who is so dedicated, his wife drives over with his tea/dinner on a plate covered in foil. They exchange pleasantries, both seem very happy and off she goes!

Yes some do go fishing in the uk in bad weather like my uncle. He was out yesterday and all last night fishing.
Hes been doing from the age of 6 hes almost 70 now.

been years since DH went but he would take a lot of stuff including a lot of food for a full day. For a full night it would be even more.

Do you know where he goes fishing? Or where the other woman lives? Could you go and check?

Also check the garage to see if his fishing stuff has been left. Or take the day off tomorrow and wait for him to get home and see whether the fishing stuff is in his car.

Sorry it doesn't look good OP. Sorry you're going through this. Some men are awful.

I actually knew a guy who used this excuse when he would go to visit his OW.

She’s been living in another country, although could very well be back or visiting. I’ve had a ‘feeling’ the last few days that something just didn’t feel right.
I know where he’s been night fishing in the past & planning on driving down there in the morning after the school run if he hasn’t appeared by then.

Is this massively out of character for him?

I think I’d be feeling a mixture of concern and anger.

Doesn't he have a job to go to.

He has been night fishing in the past, although only in the summer. He’s also prone to doing what he wants. I would feel concerned about him being out in this weather, if I actually thought he was.

He’s off work on leave this week

What kind of angler is he op? If he's a carper then I quite believe it, they are due their big winter feed when the temp falls......I spent 9 hours fishing at the weekend (although I'm not a carper who night fishes) but if I didnt work then id be out all day in this wonderful cold snap!

I’d be packing his bags and telling him not to come home.

You said you’ve had a feeling and our guts aren’t usually wrong.

There is absolutely no reason for you to be embarrassed OP! He’s the one who should be embarrassed and ashamed of his behaviour. You deserve a lot better than this. X

He’s checked out, OP. It doesn’t really matter why.

You know what you need to do.

don’t be embarrassed, you can’t control his actions.

It's a good time of year and temperature for pike fishing. What kind of fishing does he do Op?