Husband slapped friend in a bikinis bum when drunk.

[Sarahnetheands]

Yesterday we were all having a few drinks and then everyone started getting more and more drunk. All day my husband had been kind of grabbing my bum when people were not looking, I kind of thought that was a sacred thing. However at the end of the night my friend who can be quite let’s say, loose, when she is drunk, was dancing around in a bikini most the night since someone told her to take her shorts off. Anyway she purposely kept bending over “cleaning cupboards” and dancing, the ratio was 2: women to 5 men including me and my husband. She had been kind of handsy with all the men throughout the night, I saw at one point she tried to kiss my husbands cheek but he did pull away
about an hour or two later My husband walks past and slaps her on the side of her body, I’m not sure if it was her bum but it still was wildly inappropriate and I felt disgusted. He is saying he doesn’t even remember doing it and just says I apologize, but I don’t feel like that’s good enough?

any advice on how to deal with this? Am I wrong?

I’m now thinking what would have happened if I wasn’t there, and it wasn’t my friend, can he handle himself when he is drunk or will he give into temptation.

Things can get messy when drink is involved.

So you think I should let it go? I just don’t think I would grab a man’s ass even if I was intoxicated.

She’s not a friend if she behaves like this around men. And if he can’t remember doing it then god knows what else he’ll do when drunk that he conveniently forgets the next day. You’re right to be worried.

I think it was stupid of him but I would get past it.

What was her reaction?

I’d be furious in your shoes op, but then I wouldn’t have been happy with him (my DH I mean) doing it to me in a small gathering.

I’d also be furious with friend tbh.

You were all mega drunk. She was behaving provocatively. He has apologised.
I would let it go tbh. And not get that drunk around other people in future.

If it was my DH, I would be absolutely livid.
I wouldn’t leave him over it but I’d expect sincere apologies and a change in behaviour.

No I wouldn’t let it go but I’d be mindful of who was capable of behaving like that when pissed x

So everyone was a bit fiddly, your DH and been grabbing/slapping your arse in the afternoon, this lady was pissed and tried to kiss DH but he pulled away and later on slapped her arse (maybe) after she'd taken her bottoms off, let it go FGS. If you're going to be arsey be arsey with her.

How depressing to see the typical posts blaming women for men’s behaviour. If that was my DH I’d be furious. You were all obviously getting tipsy and he was getting happy and horny and forgot himself but that behaviour would not fly in my relationship.

You all need to manage your alcohol .
Stop getting pissed

Im surprised at these responses. I would not be letting this go - especially as he can’t remember doing it. Who knows what else he “can’t remember”. Even worse, what would have happened had you not been there. Disgusting.

I think he remembers doing it but it’s easier for him to just say he doesn’t. I wouldn’t be upset with my friend but I would be furious with my husband.

by "everyone started getting more and more drunk" do you include yourself?

Your friend sounds like an immature twat. Cannot stand this behaviour from women. If she needs validation from men tell her to fuck off and get it elsewhere.

I'd be very unhappy with 'friend' and husband.

It doesn’t matter how she was behaving.. she could have been totally naked and grinding him but he should never touch her.

Well it sounds in keeping with the whole tone of the day
secondly you don’t even know if he did it

This.

Describing her as “loose” when it was your husband who touched her arse is a bit of a weird one. Surely it’s him that’s “loose”!

Why were they telling her to take her shorts off? 5 men vs 2 women. It all seems really sketchy.

Christ I can’t imagine a friend of ours stripping her shorts off and start ‘bending over cleaning cupboards’ and kissing the guys! And we all like a drink!

I think you need to find other things to do in the group and leave the grog alone.

Sounds like a classy crew.

The title could have been typed better.
Husband slapped friend in a bikinis bum when drunk.
Or.
Drunk husband slapped friend arse she was in bikini bottoms.

Given the way the title typed is i doubt it's true.