Husband slapped friend in a bikinis bum when drunk.

[Sarahnetheands]

Yesterday we were all having a few drinks and then everyone started getting more and more drunk. All day my husband had been kind of grabbing my bum when people were not looking, I kind of thought that was a sacred thing. However at the end of the night my friend who can be quite let’s say, loose, when she is drunk, was dancing around in a bikini most the night since someone told her to take her shorts off. Anyway she purposely kept bending over “cleaning cupboards” and dancing, the ratio was 2: women to 5 men including me and my husband. She had been kind of handsy with all the men throughout the night, I saw at one point she tried to kiss my husbands cheek but he did pull away
about an hour or two later My husband walks past and slaps her on the side of her body, I’m not sure if it was her bum but it still was wildly inappropriate and I felt disgusted. He is saying he doesn’t even remember doing it and just says I apologize, but I don’t feel like that’s good enough?

any advice on how to deal with this? Am I wrong?

I’m now thinking what would have happened if I wasn’t there, and it wasn’t my friend, can he handle himself when he is drunk or will he give into temptation.

I think you all need to grow up, you all sound very immature, especially as you're asking if all this is ok?!
The "friend" would definitely be ditched, I'm afraid. I've known and seen women like this sadly. They're usually single and love to put on a show for any man that will pay notice to their attention seeking behaviour. And they try to ruin the dynamic of a group, which never ends well.
I'd let it go with your husband, but make sure he knows you're not happy about what's happened.
Maybe it's time to find some grown up activities to engage in! Nice meals out, gigs or the theatre, with friends who don't need to get blotto to have "fun"!

@Sarahnetheands, what are you thinking about it all now?

She was the one provocatively waggling her barely clad arse at him.

There's a word for that sort of woman. And it's not a nice one.

quite right. IMHO he should be drinking more at this point 🍻🍷🥃 the sky's the limit 🥴😧🤷🏾‍♀️

Your friend gives me the ick. And she is NO friend

Your husband was wrong and I'd make it really clear to him that's not ok and reinstate your boundary - also stop getting wasted its icky and ditch your friend.

Please tell me you have decided you can’t go to any more drinking sessions with these friends?

If you can’t handle your liquor, stop drinking. This sounds like a really messy situation. All of you should grow up or stop whinging.

Urgh, I have been on both sides: the drunk provocative friend and the partner watching their partner get Handy’s with another woman. The difference being we were all teens/ young people who had drunk too much and were still learning boundaries .
I used to drink so much it got me into trouble sometimes and did ruin a friendship group, sadly I didn’t remember the facts of that night but others did and more than once I’ve had a boyfriend who behaved like the husband.
but decades ago.
I don’t know how old this crew is, if she was single in this group, why Anyone would tell her to take her clothes off..,
it sounds creepy and predatory, how drunk was she in comparison to the men?
it sounds like a gangrape or swinger scenario building up, not sure which.
do they often drink together as a group without you OP?
how do they all know each other?
does she always strip off?
does she have a partner?
was he present?
definitely more context needed to respond to this properly

This. A woman might strip off/act provocatively but that doesn’t men have to respond by touching!!

This.
OP you need to get new friends

You all sound utterly grim

Should not have got to that stage, she should’ve been chucked out much earlier when she started trying to kiss other men.

In the words of Homer Simpson: "Here's to alcohol, the cause of, and solution to, all of life's problems!"