Argh! DD caught me with FWB in the house

[Lionesseses]

Long story short, my DD(15) came home unexpectedly from school earlier, and arrived home to find me in the house with my ‘friend’. She knows him vaguely as he’s the dad of a school friend of hers (we’re both single parents, and that’s how we met originally).

She didn’t catch us at it, thank God. But we were both upstairs (we had just had sex, and had got dressed again). I was all easy breezy about it saying ‘Oh, Andy is here! We weren’t expecting you home!’ But I was embarrassed and massively thankful she hadn’t been ten minutes earlier!

Then he left and she was asking why he was here, are we seeing each other etc. She doesn’t know that we’ve had this arrangement for a couple of years now, completely physical, friendly on the rare occasions we see each other otherwise but with no intention of becoming a proper couple.

I don’t want to explain our relationship to her because it’s not really her business and it’s not the kind of concept I’d want her thinking of (especially not in the context of me!). Am I right to do that…?

And I worry it might have spoiled things now cos my DD will tell her mate, and it might lead to embarrassment all round. Argh! Annoying.

Any thoughts? I guess I’m hoping it blows over.

His balls were full 😂 . Brilliant, I thought you were dead posh till this. Women can want sex, have it, then not care about the bloke till next time they feel like it.

@LosingSleeping

why so ageist?

Of course he views her that way, she’s a willing consenting partner enthusiastically enjoy a shag with him.

They both enjoy it!

Just what is the problem?

Ok. Let's see how our society pans out with these lovely liberal dignity- less attitudes in the next few decades. I expect marriage will be barely existent. Stable relationships and hence stable home lives to bring children up in will be non existent. So long as mum is liberated and getting her orgasms in with randoms- who cares hey! Good old Brits !

@SquashedMallow

ah so you’re worried that the population is going to grind to a halt and the human race will die out if the patriarchy is challenged and women are allowed to enjoy sex? lol 😂

I have a sneaky suspicion that “wank bucket” is a phrase that only a man would use…either that or a foul mouthed pseudo intellectual posing as a puritanical, judgemental, holier than thou, perfect individual…oh wait…

Ah, got you. Only your side of the debate is allowed to insult. Got you!

You’re funny 😂😂😂😂

Not in the privacy of OP's own bedroom.

Her daughter obviously isn't invested in her sex life.

Oh come off of it. Women have been allowed to 'enjoy sex' for bloody decades now. All this fake oppression in 2025 is a tired argument now. Enjoying sex is very different to casual hook ups with a school dad and all the crap that goes with it

We all probably be dead, honestly don’t lose sleep over it.

But think how far we’ve come in the last few decades, gay marriages was a massive positive.

You’re not changing MN opinion, so you’ve no chance changing anyone else’s.

No years of good sex does not equal crap.

Two

Except the crap only seems to exist in your head.

OP is still happy with the arrangement after 2 years so it is clearly working well for her and if it isn't at any point, she can simply stop it. Easy.

Certainly not a phrase I’ve heard women apply to other women.

It is a bit odd that the posters most concerned about the Op also seem to use the most graphic & phallocentric language.

@SquashedMallow

casual hook ups can be great 👍 you should give it a try

This could be a Motherland plot line.
No hang on, it already is, isnt it?
Amanda hooking up with Kevin!

How has gay marriage got anything to do with fucking "friends". One is a union between two people that are committing to each other - the other is crass hook ups with randoms. Not getting what your point is there at all

Would you say that to a Muslim woman? Just non religious Brits that aren't allowed to view sex as something done in a relationship then. Got you.

@SquashedMallow

What’s crass about it?
it’s two people getting exactly what they want in a safe and consensual way that is hurting nobody.

You honestly make it sound as though OP's DD came home early on purpose to snoop on her mother!

She came home and accidently walked into a situation which any normal girl would have curiosity about.

This is totally different from her randomly demanding details about her mother's sex life !

Just saying how gay marriage is a positive thing, it includes fucking (and not the non consenting alter boys by the priests).

But the Catholic Church whilst practising same sex relationships, don’t acknowledge it?

Odd really?

So once again, I must be male because I disagree with casual hook ups. Another judgement from the oh so non judgemental ones...

You've absolutely lost me. Your points have zero to do with casual hook ups.

@SquashedMallow

youre not a Muslim though are you.

I’m doubting if you’re a woman too actually with the misogynistic language and sexist tropes you are spewing.