Argh! DD caught me with FWB in the house

[Lionesseses]

Long story short, my DD(15) came home unexpectedly from school earlier, and arrived home to find me in the house with my ‘friend’. She knows him vaguely as he’s the dad of a school friend of hers (we’re both single parents, and that’s how we met originally).

She didn’t catch us at it, thank God. But we were both upstairs (we had just had sex, and had got dressed again). I was all easy breezy about it saying ‘Oh, Andy is here! We weren’t expecting you home!’ But I was embarrassed and massively thankful she hadn’t been ten minutes earlier!

Then he left and she was asking why he was here, are we seeing each other etc. She doesn’t know that we’ve had this arrangement for a couple of years now, completely physical, friendly on the rare occasions we see each other otherwise but with no intention of becoming a proper couple.

I don’t want to explain our relationship to her because it’s not really her business and it’s not the kind of concept I’d want her thinking of (especially not in the context of me!). Am I right to do that…?

And I worry it might have spoiled things now cos my DD will tell her mate, and it might lead to embarrassment all round. Argh! Annoying.

Any thoughts? I guess I’m hoping it blows over.

OP; relax. It's all fine. Your daughter won't be scarred for life, just carry on.

He will not want to, is my guess.
Fun while it lasted.

Well as far as I can tell she has done that - this has been going on for 2 years.

and her daughter didn’t catch her doing anything anyway.

for all you know her daughter is thrilled her mum is dating (of a sort).

we don’t turn into nuns when we have children. I think her child might be more relieved that her mum isn’t lonely. I know I would have been.

Please God stop capitalising improper nouns. It makes you appear even more ignorant than the comments you’re making already do.

Nobody gives a shit she was shagging, but things have now got real and this FWB will be off.
That is the attitude the OP is giving. It comes across badly, IMO.

Good for you OP! I’m quite jealous of your set up tbh 👏👏👏

Or they will just put the key in the door next time and be laughing about it in 6 months when they are still occasionally shagging.

I would bet not. Sorry OP.

Your dd won’t care about your private life. No need to explain. Perhaps ask your dd to let you when she’s going to be home early.

Eh, I just don't think it's a big deal. I might agree with you if she actually saw them shagging.

Men like this do a runner when DCs/family are involved.
They want zero complications. Zero.

So is all the judgement about casual sex and how it must be avoided at all costs for those of us with children. Why do you have a problem with casual sex? Single people are entitled to have casual sex. You don’t have to engage in it if it’s not for you, but equally it isn’t your place to judge others for doing so.

Pleased to say that this appears to be bollocks. He’s been texting tonight and we’ve been laughing about it. He’s talking about ‘next time’ (and the fact that we should lock the door and check our phones!).

At the end of the day we both value the arrangement we have so are unlikely to end it on a whim. I think I’m pretty lucky to have safe intimacy with zero complications and with a compatible partner, and I think he does too.

Yet this man knew full well going into it that OP is his child's friends mum. Hasn't stopped him for 2 years.

Men like this?

Oh you are funny😅

Edited:- as I've seen OPs update.

Yeh you always get the odd one on here that just likes to tear ya down OP, just smile and give em a body swerve😁

There we go.

Laughing about it already, I thought it would take longer though. 😂

@notadrift

oh well…easy come, easy go!

OP can just get another one 😀

This post has deffo given me a laugh today . Some of the comments are batshit,it got me thinking how many people on here have nearly been caught in the act,I know I’ve had a good few misses over the years.You carry on OP and enjoy yourself .

How do you find a FWB, asking for a friend 😃 Ignore all the haters they’re just jealous they’re not getting some on a Monday afternoon

You’ve made a thread about it because you were obviously conflicted.
It’s not that bizarre.

Sorry I shouldn't have assumed you were heterosexual, it's not fair and say erasure is far to common in such discussions.
Im happy either way.

I find it a lot harder to worry while a stunning woman is exhausting her jaw between my legs till I can't think straight and you can't walk.

Your children walking in on you having casual sex should be avoided at all costs*

But the DD didn't walk in on OP having casual sex. It was avoided.

I think the OP doesn't want complications either

Although I had quite a few near misses with the children the worst was one Saturday afternoon when I was two weeks overdue with my daughter. The advice was to have sex to start labour off. Id already tried spicy food.

There I was in full flow when the window cleaner popped up at the bedroom window

His expression was a picture but he kept cleaning the window .