When you carry trauma how do you deal with those around you who don’t understand you?

[Rainbow03]

I carry trauma from my childhood through to a very abusive marriage. I’ve been free for about 5 years. I’ve triggers that I do my best to avoid. I don’t see the world like those around me who don’t carry trauma. How do you deal with people and comments from say family who simply can’t comprehend how you feel?

For an example a family member sort of belittles me when I jump at certain sounds. I can’t help it or stop it. He will continually say you’re jumpy aren’t you, what’s wrong with you? There is no point in explaining as they won’t understand and I don’t really want to talk about what I’ve suffered. I also for example need straight talking and information about things I’m going to do. Probably more so than others but I don’t feel safe until I’m happy what’s going on. Again people just judge me.

How do you deal with people who can’t understand. I mean no one would understand if they haven’t experienced it.

I think maybe something bad may have happened to the mum and she just can’t have anything negative in her life. Everything you say she spins into something positive or completely dismisses. She always looks on the upside. Which isn’t always bad but can be quite invalidating to constantly hear.:.oh that doesn’t matter, ignore that, forget that, don’t need that etc etc. I find it tiring to be around. It’s ok I think to say oh that’s sad that happened but let’s do something good now instead of saying it doesn’t matter or it never happened. I find it triggering for some reason.