I’m beyond angry. Just a rant.

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Not sure if relationships is exactly the right place for this but I’m reeling. How could anybody believe this is acceptable!

So guy I’ve known for years and would have said was a friend, albeit one I don’t see often. Both of us have had a rough month so arranged to meet him for drinks tonight with a few other people, strictly platonic. He was aware of this… or so I thought.

Texting earlier to arrange meeting time place etc and he starts to get a bit flirty. I clarify that this is just friends having a drink and a laugh together and nothing else and he agrees but then starts to push it again. Anyway I’ve attached the texts below because I’m speechless and angry.

The gist of the last message which is cut off is him asking if I’m still going! Funnily enough the answer was no with a side of me telling him he’s creepy and rapey. I’ve blocked and will never speak to him again but I’m so angry.

I'm sorry that that happened to you. You did nothing to deserve that

Fuck's sake, Chris. Do you honestly not see what kind of person this is? Why not?

OP starts a thread to get support because she’s being harassed, pursued and insulted by someone via online messages….

So @perplexedbutok comes on to do the same.

Read the room.

And Chris who says the problem is that she should have rung him after the first creepy comment so he wouldn't be misunderstood.

I've had it with these guys. I'm about to fucking blow, I swear. Do they live on a different planet?

He sounds repulsive. Cut all ties with this utter creep. My skin is crawling reading his garbage.

Get out of here, I can’t believe you’re a woman! If you are then that’s very disappointing.

If he's a woman, I'm a teapot.

Only MN would judge someone on their grammar

Lots of places would.

Utterly. Fucking incel apologists. Let’s not waste any more oxygen & headspace on them, and instead turn our attention to OP. I saw a very disturbing documentary the other night about a young woman whose ex sounded scarily like the piece of shit in the OP’s situation. He tragically went on to eventually murder her. I’m not trying to frighten you, OP, but that documentary has made me realise we as women need to be really fucking proactive about reporting any harrassment / stalking / denigration to the police. I wish I’d done that sooner, and saved myself 4 years of unwanted attention.

I’m also judging him on the fact he’s a total Incel creep, but yes, his grammar is also terrible and he sounds thick as shit.

@Chris002 is definitely not a woman, women do not write like that.

Let me explain nah, fuck off and do your mansplaining somewhere else

Fuck's sake, Chris. Do you honestly not see what kind of person this is? Why not

Chris sounds perfectly reasonable to me.. just doesn't agree with the MN pile on anti man machine

I’m also judging him on the fact he’s a total Incel creep, but yes, his grammar is also terrible and he sounds thick as shit

How can you tell he's an incel from those messages . Calling someone thick as shit and judging them on their grammar is out of order

I see the incels and their fans have arrived. And yes he does sound thick as shit which adds an extra layer to the already massive repulsiveness.

How can you tell he's an incel from those messages . Calling someone thick as shit and judging them on their grammar is out of order

Saying he would touch the OP against her will, and that he'd be sad if she didn't sleep with him, then exploding in a huge tantrum when challenged, was a tiny bit of a clue.

😂 oh sweet Jesus. I’m not going to engage, so don’t bother.

I'm not an incel rape apologist I just don't think someone should be judged and insulted on a few texts

I'm not an incel rape apologist I just don't think someone should be judged and insulted on a few texts

The OP was proved right in spades though. She received screeds of abuse from him after her perfectly reasonable boundary. Who in their right mind wouldn't judge that? He actually sounds dangerous.

Unless you think she should have just appeased him and that it's all women's fault when men get angry, because that's the vibe I'm getting.

Ooops

Only just seen page 2 and 3 of texts
Hope that doesn't make me thick as shit

Let's hope...

Unless you think she should have just appeased him and that it's all women's fault when men get angry, because that's the vibe I'm getting.

Of course not

That's not what makes it.

Do you now realise that women, on account of living with this bullshit our whole lives and knowing exactly what it means, do not actually require your instruction on the subject, and are not responding this way to it because we just hate men?

Because frankly, that's the decider.