ahh OP I am so sorry you went through this last night and when you weren't feeling your absolute best and needed a friend. Big hugs. Please consider reporting this to the police, especially as they have a file on him. It will bolster their evidence against him and could mean you save some poor unsuspecting woman in the future.
All these posts remind me of an incident - no where near as bad as OPs. I was married, and working in an office and 4 of us a married couple and another guy who worked in the same department as the woman in the married couple would have lunch at work together. Then eventually it was just me and the single guy having lunch everyday in the cafe. I didn't think anything of it. We didn't meet or even have contact outside of work or anything like, we would just have lunch in the work's cafe and chat. He was single, I was and still am happily married with kids. I went on mat leave and then went back to work, and so we resumed our lunches. This is a good few years. All good. As I'm absolutely not his type, he likes asian women, and I am English. Sometimes not often he would ask slightly inappropriate questions, but me being stupid didn't think anything of it. Like: "Have you ever had a one night stand?" No, never had, never would. "Have you ever done drugs?", No, never done drugs. Oh he has he used to do cocaine in his younger days, when he was travelling.
Fast forward, it was his birthday, he was having a get together with friends in one of the pubs in town, would I come? I said I would see as my DH works and we share childcare, I'd let him know. Where I live its also difficult to get trains home the last train is 9ish. So he said I could stay at his house, his mate who I know will be staying so no worries.
Comes to the day before and we are at lunch and he asks if I'm coming, I say "Oh sorry I can't DH can't swap his shift, so I've got no childcare, hope he has a nice time". It was like someone flipped a switch, he was really really angry and aggressive, he started shouting at me in the work's cafe:
"How could I do this to him?"
"I thought you were my friend?"
"You're supposed to be coming"
"Don't you feel sorry for me?"
"Can't you get someone else to babysit?" err no there is no one else - and you were going to stay at mine - well it looks like [xx] is not coming and staying over - he always lets me down anyway" - erm so you knew that [xx] wouldn't be staying and you thought I would stay at your place.
"But I've already bought some coke for my birthday!" - err what!! I wouldn't ever do drugs anyway, that's not for me, so I don't know why he thought I would ever do drugs with him.
So he had a good rant at me - I got up to go and walk to the bin, thinking WTF just happened here, I was blindsided, it was so out of character. He follows me and says "so I suppose that's it then?" I say yep I guess so.
I'm thinking was this a normal response from him, did I make myself misunderstood at some point.
I go upstairs and then say to my work colleague who had also invited me to a party, that I won't be going to her party as no child care and she says "oh ok, thanks for letting me know". Normal response.
Fucking freaky men always feeling entitled. I've come to the conclusion that women cannot be just friends with men, because men play the long game, waiting in the wings to pounce when the opportunity presents and they are sneaky fuckers.