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Fairly sure my husband is cheating with an elf. Unfortunately seriously.

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Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 19:08

Can someone tell me where therese monstrosities came from. (More pics to come).

Underneath and around my bed was an incredible mess and I gave it a good clean out. And at the bottom, far too clean, undusty and uncreased to have been there for more than a few days was this horrendous sexy elf outfit. I asked my husband about it and he said he’d bought it for me last year, and I’d forgotten about it.

I accepted this, thought it just got shoved in an odd corner. I’m never in a million years wear it. Then this happened….

Fairly sure my husband is cheating with an elf. Unfortunately seriously.
Fairly sure my husband is cheating with an elf. Unfortunately seriously.
Fairly sure my husband is cheating with an elf. Unfortunately seriously.
Fairly sure my husband is cheating with an elf. Unfortunately seriously.
Fairly sure my husband is cheating with an elf. Unfortunately seriously.
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Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:26

Shouldershoulder · 29/12/2023 19:41

There no way that dress (or bedsheet) has been washed

That bedsheet was destroyed by small children on Boxing Day and needs replacing when I have the cash. It’s some sort of goo meant to clean computer keyboards. In the hands of a 5 year old it is literally a weapon of mass destruction.

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Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:30

ReflectiveRogue1001 · 29/12/2023 19:44

To be fair, the OP doesn't seem especially house-proud....

I’ve got ADHD. If the family are free of lice and leprosy that’s a win. I’ve only just found out about it so have only just started fixing the problems it causes. Actually the rest of the house is fine, my room is currently the only shit tip and I’m currently sorting it.

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Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:33

KatesMott · 29/12/2023 19:45

@JingleSnowmanTree I can see it too... looks like fresh spunk on the right vs dried on the left... 🤢

It’s goo on the left from some Xmas present that won’t wash out they need replacing on payday. The other side is a common or garden Simple toner spill.

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OpalOrchid · 29/12/2023 23:34

How come the OP has multiple accounts but is still allowed to post?

Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:40

Shouldershoulder · 29/12/2023 23:08

@Deidretheelf you seem very passive about this .

Because there’s only ever been suspicion and no proof. And as one of those deleted threads said, me and one of my kids have disabilities and couldn’t cope without his practical support, so I can’t just kick him out.

Also, this is around 20 years of suspicions. I’m getting to the point where I’m a bit ground down by it all.

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Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:43

OpalOrchid · 29/12/2023 23:34

How come the OP has multiple accounts but is still allowed to post?

Because it was MN’s fuck up. They forgot to unban this a/c so I had to make a new one. A poster up thread advised me to ask for the old one back, I did, so they deleted the new one. It’s not like I was sock puppeting all over the joint.

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aqenek · 29/12/2023 23:45

This is all too bizarre

CandyLeBonBon · 29/12/2023 23:47

Christ op just leave him already! Why live like this?

Shouldershoulder · 29/12/2023 23:48

Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:40

Because there’s only ever been suspicion and no proof. And as one of those deleted threads said, me and one of my kids have disabilities and couldn’t cope without his practical support, so I can’t just kick him out.

Also, this is around 20 years of suspicions. I’m getting to the point where I’m a bit ground down by it all.

Isn't the elf dress and thong proof ?

aqenek · 29/12/2023 23:49

Also you may not have noticed the knickers due to your ADHD, but wouldn't your husband have noticed them casually hanging around the place and thought hang on I'd better put them out the way somewhere so my wife doesn't think I'm having sex with someone else.

JingleSnowmanTree · 29/12/2023 23:51

Woahyeahyeahyeah · 29/12/2023 19:32

@JingleSnowmanTree Argh I can't repost the picture! To the left off the mid section of the dress, on the navy blue bed sheets there's lots of yucky light patches, and also to the right on the opposite side is a dark circle patch - please tell me someone else is seeing what I can!

@Woahyeahyeahyeah

sorry MN wouldn't let me reply earlier. Yes, I can see it now, before it looked like parts of the feathers/fluff on my phone with my awful eyesight.

Does look like what you'd expect if you've had sex on dark sheets!!

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Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:52

Shouldershoulder · 29/12/2023 22:59

Do you mind him bringing women into your house?

I don’t actually know. Therein lies the problem. I fucked up this thread from the start but really what I was after was advice about how to confirm if he is and how the bloody hell I can get rid of him when we depend on him so much for practical support.

Instead I’ve got insults for having ADHD and my house being right at the start of the process of sorting it out now I have my diagnosis and advice how to do it.

Yes, some of that was my fault for wording it badly but it’s probably better to get MNHQ to delete the thread and start over later on.

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Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:53

JingleSnowmanTree · 29/12/2023 23:51

@Woahyeahyeahyeah

sorry MN wouldn't let me reply earlier. Yes, I can see it now, before it looked like parts of the feathers/fluff on my phone with my awful eyesight.

Does look like what you'd expect if you've had sex on dark sheets!!

@

It’s glue stains from Boxing Day present playing by my kids and spilt simple toner.

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Shouldershoulder · 30/12/2023 00:00

Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:52

I don’t actually know. Therein lies the problem. I fucked up this thread from the start but really what I was after was advice about how to confirm if he is and how the bloody hell I can get rid of him when we depend on him so much for practical support.

Instead I’ve got insults for having ADHD and my house being right at the start of the process of sorting it out now I have my diagnosis and advice how to do it.

Yes, some of that was my fault for wording it badly but it’s probably better to get MNHQ to delete the thread and start over later on.

I'm so confused, you say you don't know if you mind him bringing other women into your house and that you only have suspicions but then post pictures of women's underwear that doesn't belong to you. And now you're saying you want advice on how to confirm whether he's sleeping with others.

SandraTeaspoon · 30/12/2023 01:26

JaneJeffer
Elf and safety

😂😂😂

SandraTeaspoon · 30/12/2023 01:29

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WhyAmINotCleaning · 30/12/2023 04:35

MILTOBE · 29/12/2023 19:46

If this is serious and you think your husband is buying clothes for prostitutes Shock while bankrupting the family then of course you need to tell him to leave.

This. And you need to get to the STD clinic to get an elf check.

Mikimoto · 30/12/2023 07:54

You could always get your own back with a present from Santa's sack?

BritneyBookClubPresident · 30/12/2023 08:29

Have you kicked him out yet?

JingleSnowmanTree · 30/12/2023 12:39

Deidretheelf · 29/12/2023 23:53

It’s glue stains from Boxing Day present playing by my kids and spilt simple toner.

@Deidretheelf yeah, sorry, I couldn't read the thread. MN been weird, for me, for a bit.

i don't know you IRL, & I don't recall your usual posting name, but I do 'know' you after reading more of your posts on this thread.

i really feel sorry for you & I don't know what the answer is for your situation. But he is an utter cunt & you need to find help to get out & make a life for yourself without him.

all this Elf shite is unimportant given everything else.

LittleGreenDragons · 30/12/2023 13:54

@Deidretheelf go make a new thread asking for support and advice on how to leave a marriage when you rely on physical help regarding a disabled child. You will get signposted to the relevant support quite quickly I should think. Good luck.

WhyAmINotCleaning · 30/12/2023 17:40

Oh no, sorry OP, genuinely thought this was troll thread.

Your ADHD will give you hyper focus once you get going - use that you get rid of that disgusting man. Imagine how much more headspace you'd have without having to worry if he's having prostitutes around.

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