Help me understand what I’m seeing (H’s behaviour related).

[FrogFighter]

Together for 24 years. Married for 20. DS 15 and DD 19.

he left 6 weeks ago.

saw his rented house today.

bar table in front room with fully stocked beer fridge
all black and grey
pictures of DJs and music related visuals in black frames on walls
one photo of DCs in frame when very small
only other photo is of H on stag do 25 years ago with mates
‘joey and chandler’ armchair
black leather sofa and big TV
FROSTIES in cupboard
24 cans of tango in kitchen
polyester 90s bedding with black and white zigzags
plans to put a pool table in garage

what have I experienced?

Midlife crisis there.

Weeeelll, that’s not strictly true. We have a 15 year old just going his GCSEs. He’s kinda blown up our financial stability and left me to do the adulting and run a family house whilst holding down a job. And walked out on the dog.

Its not exactly harmless.

Why are you in his bedroom?

I gave him a mini pool table this eve! It’s about 18 inches long.

I walked past it to see my son’s room. Ok? Plus he showed me around.

Wow, hard to see I bet. You describe it well.

What do his stag do buddies make of it I wonder Re they envious or are they looking at him thinking hhhhm, back to the drawing boRd, well done 🙄

He'll end up skint and with an sti - or a new baby, so much for freedom 😏I think divorce him and get your fair share ASAP before the well runs dry. Then live your own sweet life.

FrogFighter - can't quote a quote in another post apparently so hop this makes sense.

I meant the decor itself is harmless but totally get that him retreating into Manchild territory and letting everyone down isn't.

Hope you and DC are ok.

Op what will YOUR dream home now look like?

I’m in it!

Also, drop off the dog when you drop off the kids

Starting to get a picture. He may not be very mature but that isn't either is it?

I sleep in a race car bed...do you???? 😁

1994 called and it wants its Argos catalogue back.

Yes OP, whilst he's having his little crisis, YOU have to be impeccable.

Definitely portraying the vibe he wants to give off to his new "lady friends"!

Could Carole Smiley and Laurence Llewelyn Bowen help?

POT POURRI!!

Can you imagine him taking a date home who he’s met on OLD and she’s a mumsnetter? That thread would be so funny.

Mid life crisis?

it could be worse……… I guess…

A waterbed will be next on his list with animal print bedding and a mirror above the bed.

He's a wazzock

I’m trying to figure out which ladies will be up for the party. None spring to mind

Inflatable arm chair