Dh had a lapdance. I feel broken

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I always thought I would be ok if he ever did it. Never goaded him doing it whatsoever or encouraged but he's come home from a stag do and spent OUR money on it. £40.

I feel cheated on. I know I've not been. But I can't help how I feel. I'm so upset

I might manage to forgive him for a lapdance, if I felt it was peer pressure and he had had a crazy moment. But this is worse - how fucking dare he question why you are being off, after he's told you this. Doesn't he think it's serious?

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Bit off topic, but do women actually enjoying seeing male strippers? I'm no prude and fairly warm bloodied but find the whole idea quite nauseating and definitely not a turn on.

I live in Ireland, I cannot speak for the UK, the only parties I have been at are in Ireland....

Keep yer wig on Harriet!

Some of them ejaculate.

@LaffTaff 😂😂😂

Do you really think OP that a lapdance is not being unfaithful? Get some self-respect and dump the fucker.

@TheoTheopolis23 why do you need to be so hostile to worzel? There really is no need for it.

This is something I'm going to quote in my head for years to come (pardon the pun 😅).

You'd think so the way some of the "cool girls" on here carry on. Yet I'd bet they'd be crying away on here if they found their husbands had gotten the same thing from some random woman in a club. Bloody hypocrites is what they are.

Good god I hope not.

I'd feel the same, no matter what he looked like. Just yuk! Men trying to dance sexy isn't sexy either.

So yes I'd like to know this too. Do women actually get turned on by it?

Has there ever been a stag do in the history of mankind that didn't involve a lapdance?

Yes. Many, unless you only know dicks. Loads of blokes don't have them.

Oh as usual the middle aged pick me cool wives are out in force defending a man being a revolting letch.

OP it's ok to not be ok with this. You're allowed to have higher standards than the despos on this thread who will do anything to debase themselves for male approval.

@smilesup

To be fair many men are dicks so it's a likely scenario.

I've never seen a real live-strip show, but I have no objections to watching Channing Tatum in Magic Mike. 😉

Yeah mine, afternoon meal out, loads o beers for me went and bought a steam mop n went home. 😁

I've seen one once, it was the most pathetic and unerotic thing ever. A lot of the women were screeching, hollering and yelling obscenities. The stripper put his dick in my drink so I chucked it over him. I didn't find it entertaining at all, just a bit grim tbh.

@Northernsouloldies

Steam mop? Kinky like?

And mine. He was apparently amongst the group who dipped out of the strip club on a stag last year (no reason to lie to me about it as I wouldn't actually have minded him going in and he knows that).

In fact we were watching Olivia Thingy's 'Getting Filthy Rich' episode about strippers earlier and he was incredulous that anyone would have a 30 minute private dance and not get bored. Bless him.

To the PP asking about Women being turned on by Male strippers, I'm +1 to those who think they're absolutely grim. Have been in the presence of one at a private party. I went out for a smoke.

@Lifeomars

Good grief, grim as!

Good throw btw.

My Dw wanted us to have one so I went and got one, I've came home with all manner of stupid things after being out.

Rock and roll stag!

Reminds me of that fast show sketch.

He's asking you why YOU are off?

So he's making this YOUR fault?

I think most men having lap dances on stag dos are either utterly pissed or are goaded in to it.
I've only ever heard cringe stories, not remotely sexual - designer shirt ruined with fake tan, and a dancer farting 😂