Dh had a lapdance. I feel broken

[Rabbithole90]

I always thought I would be ok if he ever did it. Never goaded him doing it whatsoever or encouraged but he's come home from a stag do and spent OUR money on it. £40.

I feel cheated on. I know I've not been. But I can't help how I feel. I'm so upset

What?

if he was just sat that there isn't an issue IMO.
BUT if he got up and danced with her there is an issue

I think you are somewhat confused about what lapdancers actually do.

He paid to sit still and get hard while she rubbed herself on him… but if he’d have been stud up and did a little dance himself, that would be cheating? Bizarre place to draw the line but whatever!

No wonder MN is full of women who's husbands have fucked off

Nice...

im well aware of what a lap dancer is

yes, in my opinion.

realistically, what would you have done with the £40. would it be memorable? probably not

Well, he's not actually dancing is he, he's paying the woman to dance and rub her vulva and breasts on him.

If he stays sat down but jiggles on the chair does that count?

This is truly bizarre!

So the only thing you can think to do with £40 that’s memorable is have a lap dance?

no that isnt what I am saying, but its better than burning the cash or flushing it down a toilet IMO

Why would he burn it or flush it?

I'd rather flush it down the toilet sewerrat

@MrsMarieMopps I know it's hard when you are in that situation- but I would honestly rather claim benefits and access all help and educational sources necessary to get out that situation. I had a very shit time at one point in my life post first divorce and did all kinds of things including working nights in a casino - I've not always had a great time of it. - I think the personal will has to be there though and it's easy if you are making good money to kind of anaesthetise yourself to stuff like this and just see the cash , I worry for these girls in the future. - we do need to make it easy for people to seek help in situations as you describe so if they wish they can move out these industries that rely on women being in a 'bad position' - I always am alerted back to times a few hundred years ago where vast amounts of the female population were prostitutes.

@BathroomOnTheRight WTF is wrong with you, I DETEST the sex industry, I am the complete opposite of a "cool girl". I'm of the mind the people in relationships shouldn't even be lusting after others.

I'm just blaming the man buying it, the pimps, the traffickers.. Not the women.

Because they are the choices you can think of? Lap dance, burn or flush? What? 🤣🤣

Jesus Christ this thread. Convinced many posters are men, trolls, or male trolls.

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Yep..

This thread has tickled me no end on a day when I needed it. Thanks ladies (and one anti-lap dance man)

OP sorry he was a dick!

He must cheat on you a lot then 🤣

Stud up sounds jolly painful to me.

Definitely! Either that or women who've been so beaten down and abused by men they think this kind of behaviour is normal.