Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

New thread!

Could someone else please copy and paste the rules ...?

@winniewitchy Personally 6 weeks of self care doesn't feel enough but it might be for you.

How long was your last relationship?
What was it like? Any abuse? Even low level?

Missing being in a relationship isn't a reason to start OLD, you need to be at ease with yourself and be living your best life before you go looking (IMHO)

Not saying I agree with the age thing, but I do understand why some men might do this.

I also understand the height thing, I’m on some male forums and the ‘shorter’ guys always say they struggle to even get matches let alone dates, so again I do understand why some men might add a couple of inches to try and at least get in front of someone

@SortingItOut yeah I don't think im ready to go into it head on, more dipping a toe.

My last relationship was 18 months and although not abusive on the face of things, my therapist has helped me to see that there was some gaslighting and manipulative behaviour on his part.

Boundaries are the things I need to work on and I guess this is one way to practice that if nothing else

Had a wonderful time at a big family party last night with photos projected of the birthday boy (now 80) and I committed to not settling for anything less than what my aunt & uncle found in each other one dark November night in 1963 - total joy and commitment to and from each other for 50 years. It's smashing.

Strange dating conundrum for me ce soir as my mate I have tickets to see comedy show with is ill so can't come. I'm meeting a fella (Mr Curly) for a brief Date 0 drink beforehand so if that goes well I could ask if he'd like to join me.
Am happy to go by myself
I could also ask my son who lives close to the venue or the fading away Mr Art who really really likes the comedian. He's my last choice tbh but lives miles away so can't be arsed to even mention it to him.

I do not know of this Mile setting in Tinder and don't understand it either.
Why would you not just set the parameters at approx the distance and age range you'd be ok with considering and that's that.

I live quite remotely it's just a way to see who's 'liked' me further afield without me having to trawl through. It's a bit like paying for tinder gold I suppose

Oh Oncey, I thought you met MrCurly last night. Good luck with that.

Beautiful day today so Pilates and long walk with the girlfriends pour moi. Mr Euro very polite and proper in WhatsApp but I am busy watching Netflix this evening with my friends. Tomorrow I have dinner out with MrEx and my window for dating closes as I get kids back Tuesday . Not sure if I want to meet MrEuro ( I loved the champagne and nice dinner date 1 ) . Too many red flags but the one that really worries me is him not having ANY relationship with his DC…I wish he had not confessed that. Family is number 1 for me.
I don’t know what I want but I am loving life at the moment.

@winniewitchy … the way I see OLD is to put yourself and what you love first. I think its a good idea to not invest massively in any date or relationship unless you are sure and your gut feeling says its right. Having fun in a date is brilliant, even if there’s no second date. We are all learning 😊

Mila14
yes I meant to comment earlier

the not having a relationship with kids is a spider sense tingle for me too
and better you know , sooner than later

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

id use that spare for son
and if he doesn’t , keep for O if 🧪
art doesn’t deserve a free ticket !

We got kittens !
to spark joy for us all , kind of fell into place as neighbours had some the very week I decided to look

so I’m lying on sofa waiting for them to emerge
and having mild fantasies about Pilates teacher (male)
can’t wait for weds !!! Two more classes

I’ve got a new sexy gym top 😈

Wow Worsy…sexy top in Pilates…😈😈😈
I went to Pilates this morning and then long walk… fabulous day

@Thisisworsethananticpated who needs men - you have kittens 😍😆

Hi all,

Still not dating but here for the ride ❤️

It would be lovely if I could date someone who works in HR. I did chat to one on Bumble once, but it frizzled out. (I've got him as a connection on LinkedIn though!)

My mum did contact someone about Salsa Dancing, (after being negative about it, initially.) but they haven't got back to her, I think I'm just going to book on anyway when the time is right ❤️

I did used to enjoy talking about books and English with Mr Gambit though. (When he was around, that is.)

Evening all, glad to have discovered this thread. Could really do with some advice as just dipped my toe into OLD. Joined eHarmony because a mate did, but don't think it's me. Seems quite serious. I don't know what I want but it's clearly not another serious relationship! Maybe none of it is for me, but what others should I try if I want something lighter, flirty maybe, maybe some younger men? (I'm 46)

I will avoid any man who suggests a rendezvous in tundra.

In fact I have been known to bring a small parcel of ritual sugar cubes to a date, along with a pocket microscope. But that's a story for another time!

mistyriver

hinge and tinder

fret not , there is no shortage of younger men wanting some lighter fun 😄

Slothmomma

exactly !!!! 🐈‍⬛❤️🐈‍⬛❤️

Had date 4 with Mr medic this evening. Hoping he can change his childfree weekends to align shortly so we can spend some "quality" time together 😉

Checking in to new thread. Had lovely weekend away with friends. Will catch up with everyone but it's time for a joyful MOTD2 now.

Hi, not posted in a while but have tried to keep up with some of the threads!

Back dating, had nothing exciting or worthy of a post until now.

Last week I matched with a very very good looking iron, I'm not a fan of a 'league' mindset but right from the off I felt he was out of my league.

Tonight we had a first date and it went amazingly, really easy chatting and we have similar values etc and time flew by. Then he walked me to my car and went in for a kiss... which sent my heart rate through the roof
Before I'd even got home he text to say what a good night etc and hopes we can do it again...
He clearly likes me, so why can't I shift this feeling of him being out of my league? And I looked up his ex and she's younger and slimmer than me too (I know I know, I shouldn't have done that!)

Wtf is wrong with me?!

@30somethingandstillsingle
And I looked up his ex and she's younger and slimmer than me too

But she is an Ex for some, reason, and you are current person getting dates and kisses, just enjoy it and don’t overthink things