Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

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Wow Lovey33… I remember your frustration about being friendzoned with Mr Cherry and things not progressing. You even settled for having him as a friend so that tells you what a good bloke he is for you. The fact that you have moved go def con 2 the first time after a long time says he’s ready for it. If he texted you before you even got home he cares. Im sure you are looking forward to more. I think its difficult not to text him but if that’s what you feel I think you can do it. Don’t overthink 😊

Oncey don’t worry about anything. If you feel like having more contact with Mr Curly do. Its unusual you get a really good lover ( hence me keeping going back to MrEx) .

Eeky… don’t worry about the sex part. Things flow and I think the guys are a bit terrified too. I had very conservative sex and still do!! I think there’s time to experiment when I get more comfortable to be honest . There’s no rush for anything. I think its lovely the way you are handling Mr2pugs and he seems a thoroughly nice man and you fancy him. Its all going well. Don’t worry and enjoy it .

@Bingbangboom … I agree with you totally. I enjoy my date and if its not working for me I go way. I also have small tolerance for idiocy. With kids at home and work… a guy needs to add yo our lives and we the same to theirs. Its about making each other lighter and happy at this stage in life

I need to say I am an “eraser”… i never text back or check old WhatsApps etc. when I see this is not going anywhere or I am not sure about this guy … I disappear totally

@Mila14 you are so incredibly cool. Literally and metaphorically.

Interesting to note that as the hours move forward with no contact my libido is calming down and I'm thinking less about future ONS with MrCurly.

Attention is definitely a turn on (and to flip that the lack of attention is a turn off) to which I'm particularly susceptible to (bad, mad or sad men, those who are not a good match or emotionally unavailable etc etc etc) so continuing to be delighted with this circ.
The bonking has scratched the itch that ghostly MrArt started but couldn't finish so I'm good.
I'll let my leg and armpit hair grow luxuriantly long until March then get waxed, set up a nice new fresh profile and see what adventures occur in 2023.
Am very happy OLD has been invented and still regrete rien from dalliances to-date. Each one has been a rich learning experience.

Top top top of my list of must-haves now will be hilarious and curious...

Oncey… the mothership needs you so you must stay here. We want you iron or no iron here. You never know if any iron arises anyway…keep your wax appointment loose my dear…
I don’t regret any date I’ve had to be honest. Apart from having sex twice with useless liar MrO.
In other news MrF just texted to say he’s in orthodontist with DD and we chat later … I love normalcy

Cor blimey @Lovemusic33 that's increds. Who'd have thought that would be the outcome 6 months when MrCherry friendzoned you.
Nowt as queer as blokes (people)

Very fantastic it was all very splendid. Sorry you are feeling anxious. It's only natural and can't be helped.

Of my chatters I delivered my 'Shutting up shop for wintertide now so good luck and goodbye' most were very sweet and waved me off but a brand new and hilarious one came in with a resounding 'Nooooooo! And here's my phone number. Please please can we meet' Made me laugh a lot, is handsome (and young o think no age) and as he's very local to me I've said 'Ok I'll meet you' So not quite time to lock up the leg shaving kits and body butter just yet.

I'll call him MrLocal and aim to meet him this weekend for a Date0 coffee

Sorry @Lovemusic33 just saw your last sentence on your update.

I've learned (finally) the hard way that less is very much more with texting. Let them take the lead or don't. Over texting can build a false sense of connection plus does NIL to help with anxieties and the healthy sense of WHATEVER

I look back over my OLD dating adventures and am pretty sure that my texting enthusiastically and happily to irons like a girlfriend would/should probably pushed them away. No evidence but very likely.

If you can get on with your life, archive the chat and get into the mindset you probs won't hear from him you'll be in a robust place if he does fade/ghost/friend zone then if/when he thinks 'Hmmmm that Lovemusic is tops I'm going to ping in' and sends you a text it's win win. You haven't sent one then anxiously waited for his reply and he's surprised you pleasantly as a pessimistic is rarely disappointed.

The only time I now break this general principle is by sending salacious baited hooks offering hot raunch to people who aren't necessarily going to text me again.

Oh no @Mila14 you used to be so into then ambivalent about MrO but now you are seeing him as dastardly and lying. About the viagra? His age? I can't recall.
Sorry you feel annoyance of sleeping with him. I thought you thought he was hot and great at the time.

😂😂😂😂😂😂you are unique Oncey … hurrah for MrLocal !

All of the above plus his education level and his actual job. ie… you can work in a a good place but not specify your actual job. Its not the same being … say a pa than an MD… he was not a postgrad and certainly didn’t have the job Che implied

Oncey … he’s very very handsome ( MrO) and super hot. I thought he would end up delivering sexy hood in the bed but it never really happened. No wonder he wanted to introduce me to erotic toyhood. His manhood never lived to the expectations

But what riles me is that there were enough red flags things were just not right

MrF is not my usual beautiful looking man but I find him very sexy ( tall and well build). I’ve checked him thoroughly but lets see if we are bedders compatible before we move ahead and that will not happen until 1st week Nov im afraid.
But don’t get me wrong MrO is way more beautiful than MrF.
if this is a competition … best body goes to MrF … most handsome face is MrEx… sexiest in clothes is MrO 😂😂😂😂. Shallow moi!!!!

Also, Oncey, I lost my head totally about MrO… he was witty as hell, enjoyed massively the same things I love and he’s unbelievably sexy…until I got to know him a bit . I dumped him the moment I knew and after not being sexually what I imagined and hoped got

@ibelieveinmirrorballs here talked about keeping yourself open to meeting someone who’s not your usual type. MrF is socially/economically/education wise my type , he’s imposing physically but not typically handsome and I normally like beautiful men ! This is new territory for me in many ways

That's the lesson isn't it @Mila14 just because they're solvent, tall, cool, have kids the same age, can make you laugh, play guitar, can renovate a house, reads good books and like good music and say they think you're completely fabulous they can STILL turn out to be flaky ghostly types and/or not great in the bedroom dept.

It's a lesson to remember that it really does take a good 6 months to truly know someone and any of them can reveal they are made of shite or disappear at any moment.

Keep those wits about you with MrF @Mila14 he's essentially a stranger. Yes a 6'5" one but still didn't exist until recently.

they're solvent, tall, cool, have kids the same age, can make you laugh, play guitar, can renovate a house, reads good books and like good music and say they think you're completely fabulous

Blimey, not much change for us old farts then.

Indeed Oncey… I’m not crazy about anyone right now to be honest… but of all I see in apps… he’s the front runner for me. I have not been ghosted yet but I am sure it happens all the time and I am susceptible of being ghosted too.
We are all learning here 🤗

He does seem awfully nice. A thoroughly decent guy. There MUST be a catch. I can’t possibly be so lucky as to land a good bloke who is attractive, wealthy, available, not looking for a wife/stepmother and is into me (at least so far) AND capable of scratching my newly-awakened itches. It just doesn’t happen like that for me.

He texted this morning to wish me luck in my new job. We had a laugh about some silly stuff that happened. It was thoughtful and I really appreciated it. See? He’s SO NICE. He’s gotta be crap in bed. Or will disappear after I get him into bed. Or it’s all a lie. Or something.

How does linked-in work? Can people see when you check them out?! I only have a first name and a profession so far, so not much to go on, but you can bet I’ll be sleuthing just as soon as I have surname. I have been plotting how to sneak some overnights in. Not YET, obviously, but it will take some planning as I have DD full time. I’ll have to lie. There’s no other option. Looks like I’ll be doing occasional nightshifts at my new job. Shucks!

Eeky …you CAN BE this lucky and nothing has to be wrong at all. It does happen. Some people just get lucky first round. Please don’t overthink. And if you need to lie to escape and see him LIE. We all (with kids ) need to find our time
Just enjoy everything and don’t doubt yourself

NoDatingForOldMen

ah don’t worry
mine is
taller than me
foreign
fancy them
they fancy me
have job

@Bingbangboom thank you for this. You're absolutely right 👍🏻❤️

im taller than most women, not foreign & I have a job , not much to write home about really

Worsy? Back with Balkan ?

Mila14
i wouldn’t say ‘back with’

id say ‘managing as a FWB within a new and re engineered boundaried context’
for a trial period
I know , I know 🙈