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Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

998 replies

BelladiMamma · 06/10/2022 09:43

New thread!

Could someone else please copy and paste the rules ...?

OP posts:
Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 19:21

NoDatingForOldMen

you don’t do badly with the ladies
at all
you’ve had at least three since I recall on this thread

so shush !!

Mila14 · 24/10/2022 19:23

Oh WORSY!!!! you two can’t be without each other really? Did you tell therapist?? 😈😈😈😈
Since when are you FWBing again woman???

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 19:24

Lovemusic33

ah that’s a good uodate
you really like him I recall
I’d keep a close eye he doesn’t mess with your feelings and
really hope it’s the start of something

Bingbangboom · 24/10/2022 19:24

@Thisisworsethananticpated .. I’m floating that concept as an intellectual side arm for when casual goes tits up. 😂😉

Bingbangboom · 24/10/2022 19:28

Mr America tells me he has a ranch. I am seriously tempted - out of sheer curiosity really. He’s had me dinging a whole new fantasy of Longhorns and Yellowstone sunsets. Well..for an afternoon at least..🐴🐂

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 19:30

Mila14

no I havnt told therapist ! I have her next week
to be fair in the last session she was more
anti my ex and my family
we havnt really got to him yet 🤣
but I will

he’s a caver and I’m a very unavailable single mum

but yeah we are very attracted to each other

we either work it within the new context ….
or we don’t

and he reached out the weekends the very very VERY young man cancelled me
i was free , hair was done ….
it was an act of god (joke !!!)

Mila14 · 24/10/2022 19:35

Worsy.., if hair was done … it’s TOTALLY UNDERSTANDABLE… 😈😈😈
We should not do all that effort for nowt 😂😂😂

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 19:35

Eeksteek

weirdly I ended up in something long term with with the first men that messaged me on both tinder and hinge

nOw don’t be getting a hat just yet!
But it’s possible

NoDatingForOldMen · 24/10/2022 19:46

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 19:21

NoDatingForOldMen

you don’t do badly with the ladies
at all
you’ve had at least three since I recall on this thread

so shush !!

Lol, NoShow is coming round for dinner tomorrow & I told her to bring her toothbrush

Mila14 · 24/10/2022 19:47

Howlongy…. 😈😈😈 …. You are having a really good time soon

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 24/10/2022 20:10

Gosh @NoDatingForOldMen that's an interesting update. How long since the big NoShow Friday night now? Just out of interest for my own intel how much do you and her text between dates? Is it constant, sporadic, not at all?

Hope it goes well for you both tomoz on the sleepover

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 20:18

Mila14

i even did a swim with a hat keeping it dry to save that hair , like a synchronised swimmer 😂
it didn’t go to waste

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 24/10/2022 20:55

@Thisisworsethananticpated hilariously and worthy updates. Crazy re Balkan.
Were you two in constant comms or did one of you bob in out of the blue with a hook-up suggestion you couldn't resist (esp with luscious hair)?

MrLocal is v v v funny, clever but slightly unhinged. Am meeting him for Date0
Says he's going travelling for 6-12 months in March and is clearly after one thing. But so am I 🤷

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 21:03

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

no we had a massive row and didn’t speak for 3 weeks
and he made contact (again ….)

and now (like you said ) I want to manage it better in terms of texts , expectations , boundaries etc

it may well turn to shit again
probably will !

Eeksteek · 24/10/2022 21:20

Mila14 · 24/10/2022 18:18

Eeky …you CAN BE this lucky and nothing has to be wrong at all. It does happen. Some people just get lucky first round. Please don’t overthink. And if you need to lie to escape and see him LIE. We all (with kids ) need to find our time
Just enjoy everything and don’t doubt yourself

It’ll be like having an affair. I’ve never had an
affair. But you know, clandestine meetings. Going out in the least sexy uniform of all time (the only way to make an actual nurses uniform look sexy is to take the damn thing off and chuck it on the floor, despite every single man ever fantasising otherwise) and getting changed and made up in a car park somewhere!

He texted to see how my day went. I resisted being flirty (I am in the bath. I did not tell him this. I thought about it. How cool am I?) I said I was considering a hot bath. He said a hot bath sounded good after some gym-boxing thing (insert minor interlude while I have a bit of a think about arms and bits of them I particularly enjoy an eyeful of) I’d happily have him in mine, but I didn’t say that either. This is so much fun!

NO HATS, Worsey. I don’t want to even live with another man, let alone marry one. But I am really enjoying the possibilities. It’s been a while since I had possibilities. I really think it could go somewhere. I mean, no man spontaneously texts a girl morning AND evening if he’s not even a little bit interested, surely?

Can I just say a huge thank you to all of you here for mentoring and supporting me. I’d never have dared do it at all without you as a sounding board, and I’m having a blast. Even if this is it, and it all comes crashing down, it’s still been tremendous fun.

Lovemusic33 · 24/10/2022 21:23

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 19:24

Lovemusic33

ah that’s a good uodate
you really like him I recall
I’d keep a close eye he doesn’t mess with your feelings and
really hope it’s the start of something

Thank you. I am trying hard to protect myself from getting hurt but I guess at some point I need to take a risk. He has messaged me today and we have exchanged more messages then we usually do. I’m just going to go with the flo and hope it goes well or at least the good sex continues 🤣.

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers · 24/10/2022 21:25

@Thisisworsethananticpated ❤️❤️

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/10/2022 21:32

no man spontaneously texts a girl morning AND evening if he’s not even a little bit interested, surely?

well …. Yes he’s interested
thats for sure 😊

but I’ve also realised that alot of men are bored and lonely (like us to be fair )
so they love the texting 💬 too

I’m not saying it’s a bad thing
but knowing what I know now
ill text the next one waaaaaay less

Mila14 · 24/10/2022 21:36

Lovey33…as Oncey says…keep your wits about you…but if you don’t…what the hell? Enjoy the ride. You always liked MrCherry and now he’s with you.

Oncey..step away from WhatsApp. Let the bloke decide comms to start with

Eeky… loving your attitude. Don’t worry , the mothership is here to listen all our many sins 🙏… I sincerely hope you (and me) end up shagging our current irons and having fun

MrF has called twice this evening. Nice chat and kids orthodontics discussion…All very formal though. I can not reconcile the man who wanted to eat me alive on Saturday morning with heavy petting and this other rather straight laced one. Not a tiny bit of banter whatsoever. The sexiest thing he’s sent me is “😘”…I’ve looked around but right now I am not interested in any other iron. I normally like to have 2 going so I don’t get over invested but can’t be bothered right now as I can’t see any good’uns for me

NoDatingForOldMen · 24/10/2022 22:10

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 24/10/2022 20:10

Gosh @NoDatingForOldMen that's an interesting update. How long since the big NoShow Friday night now? Just out of interest for my own intel how much do you and her text between dates? Is it constant, sporadic, not at all?

Hope it goes well for you both tomoz on the sleepover

The big NoShow fallout of 2022 was back in July,
we had a date about 5 / 6 weeks back when I couldn’t really “perform”, for various reasons We tried again about 2 weeks later ( no reported on here) and everything was back to err “working order” again., but she gave me a stinking cold….

Texting was sporadic, but is probably a bit less than daily now, probably every other day really, neither of us are big texters really ( but saying that, we have been sexting a bit this week in anticipation ),
live been to hospital today so tomorrow is clean the house etc in preparation for fun times 😊

Mila14 · 24/10/2022 22:14

Howlongy…mothership wants report on incoming rompage. Have A LOT OF FUN

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 24/10/2022 22:24

July?!??!! The Hotel NoShow was July??!! @NoDatingForOldMen that's just blown my mind how in my head it was a few weeks ago but no time has flown and it was an entire season ago.

Well that's ace things have been rumbling forward and more enjoyable betwixt the sheets than the times when it was less than it could have been. And thanks again for the sage wise manly view of such things when I was new to that particular area myself.

Good luck with it all the hospital the cleaning and the overnight date.

MrLocal is absolutely nuts but gifted with words and hilarity. So has convinced me to be his date on Friday as is in Ireland with his teens until then and bless him is already telling me he isn't looking for a serious relationship and I've straight up told him ditto.

I don't think I've ever done that I think everyone I've ever met from OLD until now has been with a hope they might turn out to be a long term life partner but now I've invoked sex pest mode I'm completely cool with hooking up with handsome rogues for laughs and naked times.

Im enjoying also thinking of how horrified my mother would be if she knew about any of this secret side of my life 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers · 24/10/2022 22:29

By the way, have joined a dating site (have actually been a member of this one before, it's where I met my ex, so I think it took a lot of guts for me to join it again)

I don't think he'll be on there. I think he only joined because his best friend did. If I do see him on there, my blood will actually boil. He doesn't deserve happiness with a family at all.

I don't know if anything will come off it, but I can live in hope ❤️

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 24/10/2022 22:30

It really is such fun @Eeksteek you enjoy all of it. Good for you and all of us.

@Thisisworsethananticpated ah I'm sorry. I didn't know you had a bust up. I knew he went silent for weeks.
Hope he doesn't mess with your head/heart/emotions this time round (just your loins 🤭)

Mollymolloy · 24/10/2022 22:54

Can I just ask for some OLD advice… I am a newbie! If the chat gets a bit weird/boring.. what do you do?