Dating Thread 233 - Being Our True Selves

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

And re travel anxiety

I speak for myself only , when I say that covid has really allowed mine to flourish
and peri meno is adding some zing

it was there , but after a covid respite … it’s stronger bigger and flourishing !

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

have fun later . Try not to be too nervous between now and then ! 😌

So many topics to comment on and so little time (have had a magically energised morning doing loads and loads and now between preening & dashing to Waitrose for massage oil - nearly couldn't find it and so very nearly came away with a not very classy litre of baby oil but no, wait a minute gathering dust all on its own a perfect little Neal's Yard bottle of soothing massage oil. Yes!)

Firstly on Ms NoShow for @HowlongWillThisTakeNow - my DD (20) was telling me last night how she'd make a terrible girlfriend due to disabling anxiety. I see all sorts of inexplicable behaviour to those she loves - not being a great mate and all due to crippling anxiety. Hard to rationalise if you're not a sufferer.
But with Ms NoShow surely surely she must have known you'd be sitting there waiting and to not get in touch then lie about the reasons. These all feel like too big to brush aside. I'm still sorry it happened to you.

Actual LOLs at the DJ & druggie dire menfolk of the past. Describes my XH and his new found tribe perfectly.

@Mila14 totally hear you re hot loins AND cultural exchanges plus being our true selves and clicking properly with those privileged enough to get us. It's not too much to seek and I now know the alternative of being man-free is far superior to having someone sub-standard getting our attention, affection, time and bodies etc. Hope your time with Mr O today continues to be 'dizzying' love that description.

Right, nearly time to get fragrant, smooth and resplendent in new undies + pretty button-up dress.
Have packed a scented candle found lurking in the present drawer and wine in case Mr Art has none of these in.

Oncey… enjoy a lot … massage oil 😳😳😳😈!! You are giving me ideas … I’m sure nothing new for MrO though

Mila14
to be fair I rock up at balkans with oil (never scented however ) and sex toy
If I only have it rarely, may as well make the most!

anyway seems like business as usual at your end
🍆 🖼😁
enjoy x

ive got a real thing about bank holiday weekends
they inexplicably depress me

so I’ve done some heavy gardening and Diy and feel loads better for it , I can do so many man jobs (sorry !) now

WORSY
spill the beans. Which sex toy? I’m such a vanilla idiot! And oil !!!
I think I’m missing out here 😂😂😂
I fear MrO is looking forward to introduce me to … shall we say… sex enhancing aids
Im curious, a bit terrified and excited all at one

Mila14
just a dildo
nothing more exciting than that (the most vanilla of sex toys)

re oil , dont want to go into too much detail 🤮 but I use a plain almond oil and I really like it

I offered some to friend on holiday for her nails and she was like ewewwww
your sex oil
no thanks 😂

Mila14

what aids ? Spill also

worsy .,.. the lot… I said I can’t do anything remotely that hurts but he has tried EVERYTHING… otherwise the lot in women toys . Basically he’s done EVERYTHING and I was like OH MY GOD … got very red and prudish and he told me we can go slow and do whatever I want. He’s absolutely fine being Vanilla too it’s about what I enjoy for him and I’m the one to decide if I want to try something

But what’s everything !?!?
or ‘the lot’

whats in his sex chest !?

Worsy … I might have to DM you darling … 😂😂😂. I’m out in nice resto waiting for the man himself

Thanks for that

Thanks,
li had never head of travel anxiety before, never considered it, I love travelling

Hallucinating with tiredness after an all night bonkathon with Mr Art 🤭

A slightly awkward moment when during naked passionate candlelit romping he asked me would we be dispensing with the dating app where we met & I was thinking 'Ummmm I haven't yet verified whether we are (ahem) 'compatible' yet...' but phew we are.

He's not my usual type of DJs/drugs/chiselled jaw but makes me feel very beautiful, sexy, appreciated and we laugh and chat a lot. He's very easy company and the sex stuff was very natural fun and satisfying and plentiful.
Three times in total.

Booking a cheap hotel local to me in a pretty town he's not been to before for Date 5 next weekend.

👍

@Thisisworsethananticpated well ( sorry for 2 day pause in replying)
the current FWB has been an ongoing situ from 2020 and frankly I require an upgrade.
Currently interviewing candidates for the ..ahem ..position.
Nothing firm yet !

jojojojo77 no,not Australian

Sounds great 👍🏼

Nothing firm yet !
I imagine that chap would not get the position

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow lucky you ... a bonkathon! Am , well jell !

@BelladiMamma bella I am totally with you on the flying related anxiety front....and I was Cabin Crew for 10 years, I kid you not, and now I can barely get through a 1 hour 20 flight to Milan without getting horrendously wankered on gin which I hide in my handbag,

@Signoramarella 😂😂😂

Maybe that will help me ...

Just. Blot. It. Out

I've forced myself to travel, as coming out of Covid something that was an occasional annoyance had become a full blown thing.

I cancelled two dates last year cos of it ...

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

wonderful 😁
glad all good
and even gladder he raised exlusivitu first !

@Signoramarella I think you have me mixed up with UrbanBliss, ..
but saying that no show has been round today …

What's the latest with NoShow @HowlongWillThisTakeNow you've had a bonkathon with her today?

I spent the whole day on the sofa watching end-to-end QEII funeral with hot water bottle, blanket and a needy dog who is emotionally scarred that I didn't come home last night.

Lots of thank yous no thank yous from Mr Art and the reveal that he's sustained a small sex injury. Yoikes.

True true about stating exclusivity that was a nice touch. Good man.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss
she came round today, we watched some of the queens funeral had some not very good sex ( keep losing my erection, ), also got a skin tear so overall not a bonkathon really

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss Your Sunday sounds fantastic, I love that you packed candles and oil. Its properly preparing for sex🤗