i don`t think i can take this much longer

[mummyofaprincess]

People might know my story from my other thread on here,

I found out my partner was cheating on me via a message on his phone form OW.

He left me, DD (3) and my 6 month bump.

Well i wanted to try he never even gave us chance he looked me in my eyes and said he loved her and wanted her, hes 26 shes 17.

He had brought her back to our place, he admitted this about 2 weeks ago now.

Well now ive found pictures of them together and its really cut me up, i cant believe it.

He looks so happy

How could he do this to me, we was together 7 years.

If it wasnt for my dcs then i dont know what i would do, i really hate myself, i keep asking myself why me?, it doesnt help that she`s younger and much better looking, thinner got a job with my xp etc

Why would she want my xp when she can have the pick of the croud?

Will this get any easier, its only been just over 5 weeks but i`ve come along way since then, but this has made me step back like 10 thousand steps

after what he is done to you. Is he the pub manager? Or just shift leader or shift manager? Did he employ her?

AMR can i reserve one of your boys for my DD please, i will only let her date when shes 21 lol

He calls me names all the time i.e slapper, tart etc etc

He calls me a slapper if he thinks i`m going out with chaps etc

I let him believe what he wants, i know i`m non of those.

He needs to take a long hard look at his GF!!

seriously this is important what position does he hold and do you know if he employed her

"She works in the kitchen on strict hours because of her age"

I know this is wrong but I'm thinking...one of us could go round and chuck summat nasty in the soup..

Showing my childish nature now LOL.

Can I just say AnneMayesR..totally with you on the manners thing. Your boys sound lovely.

"I hate xp for everything he has done except that he has given me my DCs!"

That's how I look at mine MOAP..well i don't hate him now..indifference...occaisionally angry, LOL.

he didnt employ her no, and i think hes grade 1 im not sure now though as hes due his promotion as he has already passed the courses etc

janos i have thought about going in there when shes on and just seeing what happens, xp`s face would be a picture lol

"He calls me a slapper if he thinks i`m going out with chaps etc"

HOW FUCKING DARE HE!!!!!!!!

I didn't like the fucker before.

Jesus...just give me 5 minutes in a room alone with this piece of shit.

GRRRR

Sorry MOAP. Good on you for rising above. You are SO MUCH BETTER THAN HE IS. Print that out and stick it on your fridge girl!!

I will do thanks janos

Janos my most recent suggestion for vindication was 1000x more childish than yours. LOL.

Moap is getting the best revenge..she is holding her head up high and taking good care of her DC's.

Sure Moap we can hook my son up with your daughter. But I am afraid she would be a nintendo widow.

My sisters ex boyfriend beat her up. It was HIS mother who called the cops, got him arrested and refused to bail him out of prison. She thought it would do him some good.

I cannot believe he is calling you names.

Janos, we need to form a posse.

how could he hit a women?? Good on his mom, most mothers refuse to get involved and im glad shes not one of them!

I would hope my children grow up to never hurt anyone else and i will do my best to make them understand that hurting people in any way is wrong!

I thought it was very imanitive and creative....LOL.

Now I must go to bed as DS will be bounding about at 7am...

Take care MOAP. Tomorrow is another day for you and DD.

what he is doing is a disciplinary. He being a grade one means he has just started so is being watched constantly. Does his pub manager know?he may have done courses but trust me that does not mean he will be promoted. Just tell me where you live. We are not silly enough to go beat him. But there are other ways i can help

Its a newish thing of his, he only calls be names when he thinks i`m meeting up with chaps or sleeping with someone.

I think he may be confused as to why i havent begged for him back or even showed him any interest in wanting him back at all, so hes think i bet she`s with someone else etc

He leads a sad life then if he does!!! He left me not the other way around!!!

mehdismummy i don`t understand how you could help me?

Do you work at a wetherspoons? i don`t know alot about the manager positions there to be honest, all i know is that he had a manager promotion, i know thats not much help sorry

his manager knows about them two yes, sorry forgot to add that bit

mummyofaprincess i am 51 and have had four sons. I have been married almost 30 years, many of them very unhappy. In all that time I have learnt just a couple of things:- your children are the most important thing in the world. If he wants to act like a fool (i was very careful not to swear then) leave him to it. It is his loss not yours. The most important saying in this life is 'What goes around comes around.' You are a young woman who has been blessed with children. Your revenge should be hold your head high, be just the greatest mum and save yourself for the right man - he obviously is barking mad. Take care sweetheart xxxxxxx

shabster thank you

I do believe in "what goes around comes around" always have

am a manager of a wetherspoons. Let me tell you this is a very common thing in our company. Friend dp left her because he wanted a break. She has an ten month baby who is blind. He seeing on of his staff. Manager of another pub left wife and two kids for staff. See where im going. Its the position love. For some strange reason women find pub managers attractive. Watched manager i work with literally beating them off. But trust me when things dont go her way. When she realises he cant give her more hours pay etc. She will be bored. I have worked for them for a long time. Know a lot of people. Can cause him a great deal of problems. And he wont even know why or how. If dont want to tell everyone where you live just tell me pub name. I will at your say sn

Always keep that uppermost in your mind. Hold your head high and enjoy the good stuff in your life. I should have run, with my kids, years ago. Now I take the pee out of everything that happens. The more you cope and survive the easier life becomes. Always here if you need me if you want to contact me off mumsnet my details are in my profile. Go for it my lovelyxxxx

that is true mehdismummy as when he wasnt a manager she didnt look at him twice i dont think, hes not been a manager long, i wouldn`t even say 6 months!!

What sort of problems are we talking here, i dont see why he should get away with everything he has put me through, but in other ways hes my dc`s father

shabster i can`t cat you as i need to subscribe, but have you got an email address? thanks x

lack of promotion. Disciplinary. Her being moved. There are alot of managers out there who despise ferrets like him. I know his salary. Can you any info you need to nail this twat if need be. He is on a bloody good wage. So that crap about not having money is bull shit. Can even tell you when he gets paid. He is csa dream. Twenty quid a week is he having a bubble? Know guy who ep was a right bitch he worked with me. He on slightly more than your ex twat he paying her five hundred a month! Are you on benefits? See a solicitor its free. He has literally no rights at all. Even though my mate was paying her she would not let him see them. To challenge you he would have to pay a solictor which he wont be able to afford. Just tell me the pub name and let me see what i can find out for you. I promise enquires will be discreet

Mehdismummy, I know you want to help and I appreciate your fervor but I don't think this path is a good idea. Maybe take a deep breath.......or several!

There is complete agreement here that he is a loser!

I'm in another country but 20 or 25 pounds never sounded like much to me! So I hope he gets to pay a whole lot more after CSA gets things set up.

Is a tart a hooker? What is the male equivalent? That's what he is!

I've been thinking this afternoon: He called her a tart? The nerve!

no not at all. This guy is a complete twat. Not only has he left this poor girl alone with kids. He regulary abuses her and lets her down. He abuses his position at work and has the neck to call her a tart. If i can give her info to take to csa so she gets more money how can that be going too far! If he carries on abusing her he is not the sort of person we wish working for us. I would never get involved unless she asked me to. I probably might know the guy. Perhaps he might see sense and start treating her with respect