i don`t think i can take this much longer

[mummyofaprincess]

People might know my story from my other thread on here,

I found out my partner was cheating on me via a message on his phone form OW.

He left me, DD (3) and my 6 month bump.

Well i wanted to try he never even gave us chance he looked me in my eyes and said he loved her and wanted her, hes 26 shes 17.

He had brought her back to our place, he admitted this about 2 weeks ago now.

Well now ive found pictures of them together and its really cut me up, i cant believe it.

He looks so happy

How could he do this to me, we was together 7 years.

If it wasnt for my dcs then i dont know what i would do, i really hate myself, i keep asking myself why me?, it doesnt help that she`s younger and much better looking, thinner got a job with my xp etc

Why would she want my xp when she can have the pick of the croud?

Will this get any easier, its only been just over 5 weeks but i`ve come along way since then, but this has made me step back like 10 thousand steps

i need to stop feeling sorry for myself i think.

i feel a bit better now

i know these feeling will come and go

thank you for being here for me x

He is not "moving on with his life"

He is acting like a dysfunctional fuck who can't handle reality.

Too bad I live up north. I would totally go into his work when OW is there...and then put a massive complaint in about her customer service skills and attitude towards customers. I'd get about 15 people to do it over the course of a month and get her fired.

We should all write letters of complaints to their manager saying we ate there and OW was rude and did not wash her hands after coming out of the toilet...then say we are all hospitalized with food poisoning. Dude we could have so much fun. 20 complaints like that over a 3 month period and she would be out of a job...and think she was going mad.

Then on her next job she would be so paranoid, anxious and hyperviligant that she would drive everyone nuts.

It's probably not technically legal though.
I'm a childish vengeful little witch.

I'm always here if you need to rant away!

Sadly, I'll bet the dog will be in a dogs home faster than you can blink. Sounds like a teenager's whim: "Get me a doggy if you care about me." Then all the walks and responsibility will start to take their toll.

Ha ha they will have puppy poo all over their house. I'm just trying to make you laugh Moap.

AMR and critter you have made me laugh thankyou

I had a early night last night and i feel a bit better this morning

They have carpets thoughout so that would be lovely!!!

He said theres a shed at the bottom of the garden he will put the dog in there when there at work

I got a new puppy when dh and I moved into our first rented house together. BIG MISTAKE. We tried to keep her under control but to no avail. The house was trashed, it stank and the landlord was pissed OFF. We ended up owing money and rightfully so.

A puppy locked in a shed while they are at work will bark and whine and cry LOUDLY the whole time it is left alone. The neighbours will hear. Dogs are pack animals. XP is a dumbass.

It will only be a matter of days before their neighbours report them to the RSPCA.

i think that is cruel to put the dog in the shed

Right now the puppy is at his mom and dads and it trashes and eats everything in site, so god knows what there house will look like if they leave him in on his own even if its only for an hour, and they will only blame the dog not themselves!

Well i bet he`s moving in right now, and i can put a bet on him not even thinking about DD.

I wonder if he will see DD at all this week, i bet he will say "oh i can see her for an hour or so on so n so day" Its just not fair on DD

DD can`t wait till nursery today, shes happly playing with some cars at the moment

XP came down for half an hour and then took DD to school, was there any point in him coming to see her???

DD said to him daddy stay here with mummy and i go to school, had to explain to DD that daddy wasnt going to be here at home when she gets back and that daddy doesnt live here etc etc

XP just sat there and said nothing

He talked about himself and i just didnt answer, things like oh ive got to pick the keys up in a minute oh and i`ve got another car more practical etc

He loves to talk about himself and his life

He questioned me about what i did the weekend and i just ignored him, he also called me a tart because he saw my nails, then DD was calling me a tart

He is such an idiot, he grabbed me in hug style on the way out and i just stood there and looked at him, can`t be bothered to argue with him

He hasnt mentioned about seeing DD again and im not going to ask theres no point.

In the car that he only had last night was her stuff everywhere, two coats, bag, belt, food bags i could go on...
I was going to say god there will be no room for DD they way its going, but thought no keep it shut!!

when he came to see her today there was nothing there at all, i felt nothing inside i felt empty.

I have nothing to say to him anymore,i dont like him anymore and i dont think i love him even a little bit anymore, is this normal?

I'd say it's normal! You've been really hurt, I think I'd probably react the same way.

Your ex sounds very egotistical

Hi MOAP. Of course its normal. You are handling all this so well and maintaining your dignity. THat's what your dd will remember and she'll be proud of you when she's old enough to understand.
I think she's filling up his car to mark out her territory. Do you think she has peed on all the seats too - like a cat

ginnedup lol

I hope not i sat on "her" seat today lol

ginnedup lol

I hope not i sat on "her" seat today lol

forgot to add, how are you ginnedup? Hope your o.k? x

"I think she's filling up his car to mark out her territory. Do you think she has peed on all the seats too - like a cat"

I read this on my break at work and it did make me laugh.

This happened with my XP's new girlfriend. In the flat we once shared (bits of her things left everywhere).

I'm afraid to say I did something VERY childish once. I poured all her posh shampoo down the drain and blamed it on DS .

MOAP, your ex is being a twat again blah blah but you know that. He's full of himself and immature. Can't believe his parents are letting him keep the puppy there. Sounds like they just endlessly indulge his idiot behaviour.

they do and i`m keeping away from there, seeing them all over her puppy made me feel sick!!!

They havent seen DD since last sunday and im not going to call them they know my number and they know where i live!

On the way to my dads to have my hair done my dad said to me is that ian behind us i looked and it was he looked angry when i looked at him, she was with him and also her mate, i think they were on there way to there house.

I really cant believe how fast things have changed, i hope for DDs sake he doesnt forget about her

At my dads DD was quite, she didn`t talk about school or nothing, then i heard her say very quitely mommy and daddy at home i was so upset by this and i still am

I think him coming to see her for half an hour is confusing her so much, she was so sad to be going to school because she wanted her daddy

I bet she is so hurt inside but doesnt show it to me, she isnt sleeping well at all and is awake now

I`m so angry with xp for doing this to DD and to me

MOAP, i'm so sorry you & your dd are having yo go through this, you seem so strong, i can't believe how your xp has treated you.

I've been reading your thread with interest because i was the same age as your dd when my dad left my mother for another woman & my mum had just had another baby too. Obviously it was a long time ago, i'm 26 now but i can still remember how difficult it was for my mum & i didn't really understand why she was so upset.Just wanted to encourage you that when your lo's grow up they will admire you so much, i can't tell you how much i respect my mum for the way she brought us up & always put us first even though she must have been struggling.

i know i shouldnt but i keep thinking when im down, why has this happend to me??

I wished all this was a dream, but it isn`t.

no one can believe he would do a thing like this.

I feel so empty, i just want him to hurt as much as i do.

i know all this is because he has moved in this house etc its just another step thats all

i also feel so upset for my DD, i feel so upset that he has done this to her aswell, i always thought he was the best dad in the world how wrong can i be

Of course its hard MOAP. It's fine to feel hurt and angry and all those things. He has let you all down big time.

But tomorrow is another day..another step forward for you.

Things will get better I promise.

thank you janos, i think its just so hard when i see DD so hurt by his actions

where are you babe.? What wetherspoons does he work for? If she seventeen why gp working for them?

Oh yeah, I didn't think of that. How come she's working for them?

Of course it's hard MOAP. I just cannot understand the sheer selfishness and cruelty of someone who just walk out on a child the way your XP has done.

I can only imagine how painful and upsetting it is for you and your DD.

Oh I bet it's making him nuts that you aren't weeping and throwing yourself at him.

I agree with Janos..cannot believe that your MIL has that puppy in her house. She must be a doormat or something.

I am so sorry for you and DD.

I CANNOT believe he called you a TART!!! He just wants to imagine that you are out running around and pulling so that he doesn't feel like such a jerk.
You are so far above them when in comes to class and dignity. If Moap is a tart then what is a 17 yer old who helps take a daddy away from his baby girl? What's the name for that then huh?

Please tell me he was joking with the tart thing. I would have killed him!! I cannot believe he had the nerve to call you names.

My little boys are going to be gentlemen. They are so little but they know to treat girls with respect and never call a little girl/woman a bad name even if she started a fight or namecalling.

I was so proud of my son...he voluntarily gave his seat up on the bus to a pregnant woman. He is only 7.

I just cannot stand guys like your XP.

Despite swearing a lot online and stuff I am pretty big on manners for the kids.

She works in the kitchen on strict hours because of her age, i dont really want to go into much detail of where they work as i dont think this is fair on them, even though they have done this to me

I hate xp for everything he has done except that he has given me my DCs without them i don`t know how i would have got through this

after what he is done to you. Is he the pub manager? Or just shift leader or shift manager?