How does this happen to peoples lives

[Christmasturkey8888]

I just need to get this out the last two weeks I have been so stressed I am on the edge

Partner had boys night out last week came home
Stinking drunk (as he usually does any time he drinks) he woke during the night when the baby cried and tried to lift him I wouldn't let him and he threw me to the ground and started kicking me. I got away into the other room and he fell back to sleep. Next morning no recollection and shocker he had also got a girls number who he also had no recollection of. He doesn't hide his phone so I don't think he's having an affair.

Spent a week talking things through and I felt we had got things sorted and back on track. This morning we were rushing to leave to go to his parents and his DD came.

I was running behind and he put the baby and His DD into car and was helping my DS put his shoes on and shouted at me
Up the stairs to hurry up you fat slut.

I was raging as he wouldn't speak like that infront of his DD so why infront of my DS. He then brought him out to the car and came back in we argued and he pushed me to the ground, choked me for about 20 seconds. I got up and he kicked me again and pressed my face into the ground I have a black bruise on my head and my front teeth hurt. Then he choked me again I started screaming for help and he walked out.

I didn't want to let my kids down so I went to his parents and he ignored me all day. We're not home and I'm up in bed with the kids my body is sore I can't believe this is my life I'm a professional woman .

I'm scared he'll take the baby from me if I leave as he tells me I'm
Mad and i make him do this

Maybe you and his ex could make statements to the police? . If he is abusive in front of his dd his ex should know imo.

It wasn't his DD mum that accused him of hitting her (she was the result of a very very brief fling apparently) it was his ex who he has no contact with at all and I have no idea where she lives now. He was complaining as usual today and I answered him back and he said you better cut it out or I'll put you on your back aGain. Then he laughed like it was funny. I have done I fake tan or make up today so my bruises are noticeable to him on my head and arms. I am so mad and ducking covid!!! Thought I would be spending nye just me and the kids but no he'll be here souring the mood as usual.

I have started to note everything down from dates etc I can remember I will be getting out

So he thinks it's funny and is threatening to do it again - what an unutterable piece of shit. Really you can't get out fast enough. God, I hate him and I don't even know him.

Op please reach out for real life support and do not feel embarrassed. Youre a victim he should be embarrassed not you! You and your children aren't safe at all. Please ring the police!