What do you consider a good/eligible man?

[Anonnyno]

Often see this expressed on dating threads: "all the good men are taken" or "the good ones get snapped up fast".

So just curious what posters consider "good" in this context. Obviously being kind, thoughtful, respectful, not a creep, etc, count - but aren't these something to be expected in any decent partner, rather than attractive qualities in and of themselves?

What makes someone "eligible" as opposed to just "alright" in your book?

@Ionlydomassiveones That’s nice. You spoke about your experiences and your daughters’, I’ve shared mine.

Avoid any "gamers" or pot smokers (or any drug users for that matter).

[quote Saysama]@Ionlydomassiveones I’ve met just as many WC wankers as MC ones. The MC ones, I at least had something in common with.

I’ve also met just as many lovely intelligent MC men as WC ones. The difference being that the former were considerably less likely to take umbrage at my career or level of education. They’re also considerably less cheerfully racist (I’m not white, so this is a pretty big deal for me).[/quote]
I think you should change 'cheerfully' to 'openly' there. MC men are more likely to know what is and isn't acceptable to say, and have more motivation to stop the mask slipping. Working in a bar when the rugby team is in, or the office boys after work when they think there are only white people in ear shot is very enlightening.

@5128gap And I think that you can’t speak for me or my experiences, so shouldn’t tell me what I should change. I wrote what I meant.

[quote Saysama]**@5128gap* And I think that you can’t speak for me or my experiences, so shouldn’t tell me what I should* change. I wrote what I meant.[/quote]
You're right. I apologise.