Dating thread 210 - thwarted hearts, fresh starts

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Onesmallstep67 😘❤️

[quote Bbub]@Isitreallyme177 glad you reported.. I doubt any women swipe on that 🤮 but these gross men just put it up for the hell of it. I get a kick out of reporting inappropriate profiles. I'm always doing it, if their bio contains anything sexual or if the pictures are nude or even risque (like showing a boner through underwear 🤢), I hate the fact men push the boundaries and I'm exposed to sexual stuff like that when it's not what I signed up for.

I might sound like a prude but I don't care 😂 I hit that report button so fast 😁 also when seeing bdsm/"dom" stuff in the bio, if I think it's over the line I will report[/quote]
I'm totally with you. Sexual stuff should come waaay further down the line. I'm probably more adventurous than the average but it's bot out there on display for everyone. That comes later with trust and mutual attraction

Okay I've downloaded Bumble, the men seem a bit less police mugshot parade.

So the guy I've been talking to just made a comment about bed and meeting up. 🙄

Oh and Bumble was a waste of time they just put the good looking ones at the top to lure me into a false sense of security.

@Bbub I'm the same, also the profiles of couples wanting a third person. Surely there are sites for that too?

Sorry, just catching up with last few days posts 😱

Been a pretty shit week so far. Have been thinking over the MrHair situation and am pretty sure I just self sabotaged myself because things were getting serious 🤦‍♀️

On top of that my cat was killed yesterday so I had to go and say goodbye to her and then today I've tested positive for covid as feeling under weather 😖

@Slothmomma

Sorry, just catching up with last few days posts 😱

Been a pretty shit week so far. Have been thinking over the MrHair situation and am pretty sure I just self sabotaged myself because things were getting serious 🤦‍♀️

On top of that my cat was killed yesterday so I had to go and say goodbye to her and then today I've tested positive for covid as feeling under weather 😖

Oh Im so sorry to hear about your cat. That's so sad x

@Slothmomma

Sorry, just catching up with last few days posts 😱

Been a pretty shit week so far. Have been thinking over the MrHair situation and am pretty sure I just self sabotaged myself because things were getting serious 🤦‍♀️

On top of that my cat was killed yesterday so I had to go and say goodbye to her and then today I've tested positive for covid as feeling under weather 😖

@Slothmomma I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending you lots of love ❤️

@Slothmomma

Sorry, just catching up with last few days posts 😱

Been a pretty shit week so far. Have been thinking over the MrHair situation and am pretty sure I just self sabotaged myself because things were getting serious 🤦‍♀️

On top of that my cat was killed yesterday so I had to go and say goodbye to her and then today I've tested positive for covid as feeling under weather 😖

That's a really rough set of circumstances. I'm so sorry to hear about your cat and also Covid 😔

@Slothmomma I'm so sorry about your cat, they really steal our hearts. 💔

@Slothmomma - sending you (((hugs))). x

Oh @Slothmomma so sad for you about your cat 💔 heartbreaking, i am sorry. Hope covid doesnt gave you feeling too terrible. Xx

Love it @Bbub that you report all the sleazes. That must take up a lot of your time!! As there is a never ending line of them 😞 they are truly grotesque.

There’s a few women’s profiles that would probably match up with the sleazy blokes I think. There’s a clash between dating culture and hookup culture. The profiles I report tend to be the obvious spammers ‘I’m just out of a 20 something year relationship and looking for fun so I’ve joined this site and ShadyShagBuddies4U too!’

@HairyArsedMan

There’s a few women’s profiles that would probably match up with the sleazy blokes I think. There’s a clash between dating culture and hookup culture. The profiles I report tend to be the obvious spammers ‘I’m just out of a 20 something year relationship and looking for fun so I’ve joined this site and ShadyShagBuddies4U too!’

Yes I've seen some female profiles that are definitely 'shady'

It's a bit grim. I do think Bumble has fewer shady profiles though 🧐

We should start a dating app, ‘Mumsnet Dating’, we would only let verified men and women join, we would monitor it and block any cretins from ever rejoining. What do you reckon 🙂🙂

@Slothmomma
Sorry to hear about your poor cat 💜💜 hope you don't suffer too much with covid on top of that x

@HairyArsedMan I think that's a good way of putting it that there's a clash between dating and hook up culture. A lot of people may be open to both..

@Shayelle2009
Haha mumsnet dating that sounds good to me!

Thanks all x

Quick advice needed - had 2 lovely dates with Mr Italy, seeing him tonight. Last week he suggested bowling which I wasn't that keen on but was happy to go with it as didn't have any other suggestion at the time. Now we're discussing tonight and he's invited me round to his for takeaway and movie (or going out for food). I'm going to say no to going to his (I'm not comfortable yet, I was going to suggest this for next time though), but not sure what to suggest instead. I was all geared up for bowling but don't want to push for that since I don't even want to go. God I'm terrible at making decisions. If I say yes to food he'll say where do I want to go and I hate deciding. Someone shoot me.

Also feel a little disappointed he suggested coming to his, he would obviously try it on. I know I can say no though, he hasn't done anything wrong. (Hes making the most of an empty house I assume as his bro who he lives with is working away).

Any thoughts or can someone give me a shake please?

Thing is I've been really tired lately, the idea of snuggling on the sofa with him is sooo appealing. It's what I actually do want to do! But I don't want the physical side to be accelerated, even without sex it will go further if we're behind closed doors all night.

Your a stronger woman than me bbub
I’m desperate for a shag
That’s why I’ve paused tinder

So ! My obsession is breadcrumbing me
He’ll send a hello
I’ll send back
Then he stops

Why ? Every time I am almost over him ( well not really )
He is sacred of intimacy I guess
Twat

@Bbub

Quick advice needed - had 2 lovely dates with Mr Italy, seeing him tonight. Last week he suggested bowling which I wasn't that keen on but was happy to go with it as didn't have any other suggestion at the time. Now we're discussing tonight and he's invited me round to his for takeaway and movie (or going out for food). I'm going to say no to going to his (I'm not comfortable yet, I was going to suggest this for next time though), but not sure what to suggest instead. I was all geared up for bowling but don't want to push for that since I don't even want to go. God I'm terrible at making decisions. If I say yes to food he'll say where do I want to go and I hate deciding. Someone shoot me.

Also feel a little disappointed he suggested coming to his, he would obviously try it on. I know I can say no though, he hasn't done anything wrong. (Hes making the most of an empty house I assume as his bro who he lives with is working away).

Any thoughts or can someone give me a shake please?

Cinema? Then you can have a snuggle but no chance of anything progressing x

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Your a stronger woman than me bbub I’m desperate for a shag That’s why I’ve paused tinder

So ! My obsession is breadcrumbing me
He’ll send a hello
I’ll send back
Then he stops

Why ? Every time I am almost over him ( well not really )
He is sacred of intimacy I guess
Twat

😂😂😂

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Your a stronger woman than me bbub I’m desperate for a shag That’s why I’ve paused tinder

So ! My obsession is breadcrumbing me
He’ll send a hello
I’ll send back
Then he stops

Why ? Every time I am almost over him ( well not really )
He is sacred of intimacy I guess
Twat

Just call him out on it. Be as brutally honest as you can be

Yeah I will actually
But not today

That meme is so funny
I’ve nearly sexted a work colleague (thanks to god I didn’t !) and started two highly inappropriate conversations which I had to stop

I’m even horny and I’m on my period

This needs to stop !!!!