Dating thread 210 - thwarted hearts, fresh starts

[Shayelle2009]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Shayelle2009

Ooooh mine didn’t last long. He asked me if I like taking pictures. Unmatched!!

Seriously 😳 Was it obvious he meant dirty pictures??

@Shayelle2009

Haha yep *@BelladiMamma* let’s all read a book. That will definitely make us feel better! 😬 haha x

I've got a lot of autobiographies so I'll live vicariously through them for a while 😁

Hmmm not sure but i thought odd question. Im not keen on odd questions, it makes me unmatch.

I don’t mean to be rude or snobby but why are 99% of men on tinder so ratty/stinky/criminal/skank looking? Maybe I’m being judgmental but my days all the scum of mankind gathers on there doesn’t it? What a motley selection of humans.

I'm chatting to one, completely not my type (too muscle man) and is also a policeman 😬. Will see if he messages back otherwise it will go in the reject pile like all the others.

My ex seems to have no problem finding women but then he isn't picky.

@Shayelle2009

I don’t mean to be rude or snobby but why are 99% of men on tinder so ratty/stinky/criminal/skank looking? Maybe I’m being judgmental but my days all the scum of mankind gathers on there doesn’t it? What a motley selection of humans.

1. They don't make an effort in their photos
2. They are dodgy. End of
3. It's a myth that men age better than women
4. They're single for a reason

Haha @Shayelle2009 I've been thinking the same, it's like a police mugshot parade.

What about a paid site? Wouldn’t that cut at least some of the rif raf?

@Isitreallyme177 I think there are a LOT more nice female humans out there than male, so men find it easier to meet female partners. And the likes of us are stuck with the dross.

Hi, can’t believe we are 13 pages in already before I have had a chance to comment!
@BelladiMamma, sorry that you are still not back to full health. I think despite some of your irons suggesting they visit etc, it’s unlikely that many feel it would be appropriate. It’s the kind of supportive , semi flirty kind of message I might have sent but probably not actually done it. Being in someone’s home when they are unwell is quite an intimate thing. Something I would expect to only happen with my nearest and very dearest. Again, checking in with someone who states they’re under the weather is something I would do sparsely. Hopefully your symptoms come under control soon and you can resume your new meets and date zeroes 🤞🏼💕

@Shuffleuplove no way am I parting with my hard earned cash to look at more freaks and weirdos!

@Isitreallyme177 police mugshot parade haha 😂 😂
Ive deleted tinder again, turns my stomach!

I've suggested a video call to Mr Daymessaging. He hasnt replied so I'm thinking this is a bad sign

I've got Mr campervan on hinge, but he seems to be very slow in messaging/responding

[quote Shayelle2009]@Shuffleuplove no way am I parting with my hard earned cash to look at more freaks and weirdos![/quote]
😂😂😂

@Onesmallstep67

Hi, can’t believe we are 13 pages in already before I have had a chance to comment! *@BelladiMamma*, sorry that you are still not back to full health. I think despite some of your irons suggesting they visit etc, it’s unlikely that many feel it would be appropriate. It’s the kind of supportive , semi flirty kind of message I might have sent but probably not actually done it. Being in someone’s home when they are unwell is quite an intimate thing. Something I would expect to only happen with my nearest and very dearest. Again, checking in with someone who states they’re under the weather is something I would do sparsely. Hopefully your symptoms come under control soon and you can resume your new meets and date zeroes 🤞🏼💕

You're right. I wouldn't do it either and would just low key stay in touch and then organise something later if still interested.

In fact if one of them really wanted to follow through I'd be the one that ended up flaking ...

So i had another match last night and chatted for a while. He lives in my town!! So we may meet next week for a drink. I think I'm still meeting Mr Talker tomorrow but I'm getting weird vibes from him... he still constantly refers to me having turned off my phone last weekend and its starting to annoy me.

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards, you’ve had lots of comments about resuming contact with your former iron. I will only say that whatever you decide to do, do it because it feels right for you, because it, or rather he is someone you actually believe has the potential you are looking for. So many times in the past I went back to chats or resumed contact with someone who I knew it wouldn’t work out with because I was flattered by their attention, or bored, or horny or any one of the other numerous reasons we find to justify giving it one more go. You seem lovely and genuine and like many people on here I’m rooting for you x

@Shayelle2009 I'm just going to give up too I think, see if my moody gym guy is around (check if he has a ring on his finger), then try and work out when he goes and do some not so subtle flirting. He's already had an eye full one Saturday morning as one of my gym tops is v neck and shows my cleavage a bit 🙈🤣. I think my gym needs to do a social/party lol.

@Shuffleuplove no way am I parting with my hard earned cash to look at more freaks and weirdos! - Haha!

MrBE has explained the Susan Boyle CD. He reckons he jokingly commented to his nephew that he thought she looked nice - so he got him the CD for his b'day years ago.

Oh my god I've nearly just been sick. Just flicked on a profile and there is a dick pic 🤢🤮🤢🤮. Seriously do women swipe on these things?

@Isitreallyme177

Oh my god I've nearly just been sick. Just flicked on a profile and there is a dick pic 🤢🤮🤢🤮. Seriously do women swipe on these things?

Omg.... no way!!

@Isitreallyme177

Oh my god I've nearly just been sick. Just flicked on a profile and there is a dick pic 🤢🤮🤢🤮. Seriously do women swipe on these things?

Wtaf

Not much shocks me anymore but that just makes me want to vomit. I've reported it because it violates the terms and conditions anyway.

@Shayelle2009 pmsl at being shadow banned on Tinder 😂😂 shame the match was a dud after all

@Isitreallyme177 glad you reported.. I doubt any women swipe on that 🤮 but these gross men just put it up for the hell of it. I get a kick out of reporting inappropriate profiles. I'm always doing it, if their bio contains anything sexual or if the pictures are nude or even risque (like showing a boner through underwear 🤢), I hate the fact men push the boundaries and I'm exposed to sexual stuff like that when it's not what I signed up for.

I might sound like a prude but I don't care 😂 I hit that report button so fast 😁 also when seeing bdsm/"dom" stuff in the bio, if I think it's over the line I will report