John learns to adult

[R0SEMARY]

Thread 2 - many thanks to @GAHgamel for the thread title. And to everyone else who has supported and advised me thus far.

@R0SEMARY I’m guessing £2500?

My guess is that he says either that he has £1 left or that he's running at a deficit.

If they spent 1/2 the effort on their marriages that they expended in avoiding parental and marital responsibilities the divorce rate would be practically 0%

Hmmmm £3,250

He says £2.50

Its really £1900

@RogueMNerHidesUnderBigHat

An insult I read in early days of being on here was “may his next poo be a hedgehog” Brilliant.

No idea who said it

Me!!

Good guesses but too low.

@AcrossthePond55 - sadly for him he is unable to dispute his income or his outgoings as I have sight of both of them. One of the disadvantages of leaving all that tedious financial admin to your wife .

So no, he’s not even arguing that he can’t afford spousal support. His exact words are that I’m not destitute because I can cash in my pension. So he shouldn’t have to pay anything.

I'm going with £5k per month left after expenses.

🎖to @Hoppinggreen for the best spell of the thread.

Damn I was going for 5k.

OK go big or go home 7k!

Too late @MrsTerryPratchett, @SortingItOut has it . It’s £5,500 a month.

🍫 to @SortingItOut. Don’t eat it all at once.

I think it’s even worse - I’d say £8,780 pm after tax.

Got it! Well if we're talking 'realism' here, I'm guessing he has around £4800.00 in 'disposable income'.

Oops! Late to the betting box!

Well, he's going to get a bit crucified by the CMS, isn't he?

If he has £5,500 a month coming in after tax he's on over £90k a year! Maybe not enough for him to pay spousal, but certainly enough to really help out if he pays his CMS.

YY that’s £5,500 disposable income. A mere 262 times my monthly disposable income on which I’ve to keep 3 Teens.

Or to put it another way, he has 99.6% of our joint income and I and the kids have 0.4%.

He says he has taken legal advice . I wonder where he has found a solicitor who is prepared to stand up in court and argue this.

He won't win. And the judge is likely to come down on him like a tonne of bricks if it comes to court.

@pointythings oh no my dear you are forgetting his large pension contribution. That’s AFTER his pension.

And yes it’s plenty for spousal support pre divorce , because of the disparity in our incomes.

Potentially won't have to give spousal if he gives you x% of assets but he seems to be forgetting that clause

Somehow he has got in in his head that he doesn't have to pay anything until the kids and I are , in his words, “ destitute” . Which is quite a statement for a man who earns good money and has a maxed out pension.

I feel sad that I had kids with him and I hope they never have to find out what he’s really like.

YY @RandomMess I won’t get spousal after the divorce only before. But I have an excellent case for more than 50% of assets.

I can’t believe that he actually put in writing that he won’t support his kids until they are destitute. He’s disgusting.

I think they will soon have an inkling if they don't already.

It never fails to amaze me how vile some so called parents are, imagine wishing to see your own children destitute!

Oh, the court process is going to be painful for him! You're allowed to be angry about this - in fact angry is good - but you're in this for the long game, which is you getting a fair payout and fair maintenance. Hang in there!

Thanks for the 🍫

There are no words to describe this man🤬