Drinking in the morning - everyone does it, right?

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Even when they have young kids?
Totally normal yes?

Well he's just told me to ask around. Don't fancy asking my friends so here we are
I'm being told this is totally normal and everyone does it, so why shouldn't he.

Hugs just go .

Ugh, no. I probably drink too much but drinking in the morning just sounds grim

Definitely not normal. Perhaps a Buck’s Fizz on Christmas morning.

So sorry op.

The only two people in my life who did drink in the morning are dead. One was dh's best friend. Still makes me so angry.

Oh that’s not good. I’m really sorry OP.

I don’t even understand the question. Does he seriously think everybody does it?
On holiday maybe but even then it feels a bit rough, and with or without children just no!

Special brew on the cornflakes? No one would admit to that

The only person I knew who would drink in the morning died at 43.

Very special occasions e.g on holiday, Christmas or your wedding (I wouldn’t on my birthday, nor someone else’s wedding unless I was in the wedding party)

not for people who can regulate alcohol. maybe on a special birthday, like 30/40th or wedding or christmas.

On holidays, yes, i had a cocktail in my hand by 10am, loved it
A regular day, work, school run, bumming about home day, nope
only person i know who does that daily is a life-long alcoholic

Normal for my DH.

That's why he's now an ex and I'm so much happier.

Sorry love, no.

My Dad drinks in the morning on his day off Sunday.
We’re lucky if he waits till 10am and he’s an Alcholic

Hope it goes ok and there is not too much drama in the short term

No. And definitely no with young DC who need sober parents.

Nope. Maybe a glass of Buck’s Fizz on Christmas morning maybe. The only other time I’ve drank in the morning was when I was a teenager and went to music festivals and everyone was cracking open cans at 10am. So nope not normal behaviour at all especially older with a family

Nope!
Some people do in the airport before an early morning flight or even on holiday, also on Christmas day etc.. but it's certainly not the norm for most.
The only person I've ever seen do it regularly was my alcoholic ex partner, he normalised it to himself too.
Don't be gaslighted OP
If the person doesn't admit it's a problem nor wants to stop you just go around in a shit circle of lies and misery.
My advice, take it or leave it, is GET AWAY FROM HIM.

Context is everything...both dh and I have had a glass of wine at 11.30am ish on a Sunday whilst cooking a eiqdt. It feels a bit naughty but relatively normal I'd say.

How much to drink and at what time, for what reason?

Not normal unless it's something like a mimosa with brunch.

Definitely not normal. Even newcomers in AA meetings sometimes feel the need to say ".... but I've never drunk in the morning". And some don't, but lots do. I was drinking 24/7 by the end (years ago) but can't imagine claiming that this was ok to anyone.

Absolutely not normal. It is a massive flag for serious problem drinking.

Even I can get through to 12 or 1 on Christmas day before I have a sherry.

The only time I’ve drank in morning is during the World Cup when you end up with matches at silly times due to time diff so we’ve been down the pub to watch match with others at approx 7am and started drinking (this was pre kids I wouldn’t have the stamina now) and at the airport when going on hols

The only person I know who does that is an alcoholic family member.

Er, no sorry that's not normal.

Christmas Day, maybe a glass of fizz with a brunch on my birthday or possibly on holiday pre children. Those are the only times I'd think it relatively normal to have a drink in the morning.

But you knew that OP. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Get some support, it's out there for families of drinkers.

This is so sad that someone, anyone, puts alcohol before his family.