Drinking in the morning - everyone does it, right?

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Even when they have young kids?
Totally normal yes?

Well he's just told me to ask around. Don't fancy asking my friends so here we are
I'm being told this is totally normal and everyone does it, so why shouldn't he.

Normal for alcoholics...

depends on how often this is happening..
Its not something I would do but then I've got friends who I've seen do it on holiday

Its likely he has an alcohol problem tho I'm sorry

No not at all. He knows that really. I drink like a fish when I drink but not during the day. And never in the morning. Even at Christmas.

Sweet baby Jesus. What a waste of a life.

Special Sunday brunches with mimosas or bloody Marys - yes

Can of lager at 9am - no

What is his drinking like normally? Is he drinking/drunk every night? I'm assuming you've been worried about this for a while as this would be a really odd thing to discover out of the blue without signs being there.

Nope definitely not normal.

7PM is my earliest start time to crack open a bottle of red or have a nice beer. Christmas is different, but even then I like to be sober enough to cook the dinner.

THIS was totally normal for my brother.

Towards the end he needed at least two bottles of wine before he could even get up....he was a raving alcholic and absolutely nothing mattered more than getting the next drink.

He died in May 2020 from end stage liver failure, wet brain and every single health issue end stage alcholism brought in its wake. The last few weeks of his life were hell for him and anyone who had to deal with him.

Drinking in the morning in my epxerience is not normal social drinking.

Before I had kids I sometimes had a bloody Mary with Sunday brunch. Struggling to even picture how this would work with kids. Even my boyfriend at the time, who was a total boozer, has stopped all of that now that he has small children. Sorry, but offski is the only door here.

Mil is coming for the dc now
I'll update later
Needless to say it looks like it is over
No it's not the first time
He does have a problem
It's obviously more important than his family and I can't be complicit in it anymore so he needs to go.

Even on Christmas Day I'd still need 50 cups of tea first. Op, you don't need to live with an arsehole, alcoholic or otherwise. I'm so, so happy to have got rid of mine.

Christmas morning, yes, it's not a 'bad thing'. Occasional special occasion mornings, it's not necessarily normal as such (that's the point, they're special occasions) but it's something people are perfectly at liberty to do without there being a deeper issue.

The only people who regularly drink in the mornings for 363 other days in the year are alcoholics, though. Especially the ones who angrily claim it's perfectly normal and everybody does it, citing one day years ago when you did it as evidence that it's normal to be knocking back the cans or whiskey on a random Sunday morning in March.

Just bin him. Your life will improve immediately.

Special occassions (Christmas etc) sure.
Otherwise....no.....

He has a problem, he knows he has a problem and he is looking to you to justify it. Good luck OP, I think you are going to need it.

It was normal for me,I am an Alcoholic though.Sober nearly 18years now.

As my Alcoholism progressed I would lie to myself and believe the lies.

Drinking in the morning is as far from normal as you can get!

The only person I knew who drank in the morning from alcohol related illness

... that’s died from an alcohol related illness.

The only person I know to drink in the morning is an alcohol.

Not normal. Absolutely not.

I have only ever known one person, a colleague, who would drink in the morning and he said he did that because his wife drove him to work. So it was apparently "her fault". He had in fact lost his licence due to drink driving. He was sacked from the job we did and died at 55.

I'm sorry OP but your DH has a problem.

Wishing you the strength to cope with this, and hope that he can help himself. Only he can make the desicion to stop, and I hope he does for the sake of you and his children.

Hold that thought, OP. I'm so sorry but as someone who had a drink problem (though not to the extent of drinking in the mornings) and had to stop, you can't compete with such an addiction and your children should not be around it.

You can’t reason with an alcoholic, the first person they lie to is themselves. Don’t waste your energy.

I am so sorry you are going through this. You are doing the right thing getting out now.

Everyone does it, right?

Wrong. No, they don't. Alcoholics maybe, but not everybody else.